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2 minutes ago, sinbin said:

Unless you've met him you really have no idea as to his intentions. It's a story in a Thai rag and you've swallowed it. Sorry but I don't buy it.

He teaches 10 poor students. I think we are blowing it just a little out of proportion. 

Although it's meant to be free, doesn't mean it is. Anubahn School in my city, for example, will say there is no place for the student unless the family pay an added cost. 

I have a friends kid who was refused unless they paid 10,000 for the year. I told a friend who sends her kid to my school that it's no good, she said she couldn't afford Anubahn. For poor families that is a couple months salaries. 

Like said earlier, village school education means nothing. A education from this policeman who actually has good intentions I would say is far better than a village school. Good on the copper for opening the school.

4 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

I agree that as usual a thread trying to be positive about Thailand has been hijacked by the usual suspects trying to bash Thailand, but a thread in the General subforum shouldn't be, and hopefully most of those posts will vanish.

However, don't kid yourself that I'm picking on you- I don't "follow" anyone on TVF, and just respond to whatever comes along on whatever thread looks interesting. So, it was your claim to live among the elites of Thailand that provoked a response, and I just added another reminder to all of what the thread is actually about.

I dont think anyone would use the forum if they won't hijacked to be honest. Generally topics are pretty self explanatory and don't really need conversing or are finished after the first few comments. 

Just curious if we were talking about bars and I said my wife is a bar girl? Would you respond the same? The conversation, which I didn't even start, was about higher rankings in society. So naturally people who live among what farang define as 'elites' will be drawn to question silly claims by others. Don't be so negative/sensitive about a non issue. 

1 minute ago, JLCrab said:

I've read plenty of your long-winded stuff on the Isaan Forum so I'll just leave it at that.

Good to hear :)

I don't know why you took the talking of my family so sensitively. It was merely to back up a point, that the people I have experienced, do not have the need to seek a grandpa when they are so young. Every commentator is only going off their experiences - whatever the topic.

So being overly sensitive, not having any relevant points, and being forced to make useless comments like 'grow up', would probably suggest you don't have much experience to comment on this particular matter. But I am sure you do on other matters. 

Have fun with this fantastic life of yours. I will stick to my shitty life lol

Just now, thaibeachlovers said:

 

So you know very little about the the lives of ordinary Thais and the country the vast majority of Thai live in, then.

 

Do you actually have anything to contribute to the thread, which is what do you like about Thailand?

I already have said what I liked.

Seeing as the conversation went elsewhere it seems everyone jumped on that (which isn't talking about the majority). Going to quote every quote for the last few pages policing that, or just mine as usual? lol

3 minutes ago, JLCrab said:

Oh Puh-Leerz. 30 years ago I was working in China traveling remote parts of the country with State level delgation and Patrty Members. My first time in Thailand was wqigth a Foundation under Royal Patronage of (the late) HM the King and all sorts of hgigh levelk persons would show up. So take your well-posgtioned family and life with

So we are still living 30 years ago? 

The fact I have found it would suggest it means something as it is happening. I married into a relatively well positioned family, so naturally the majority of our friends are either high ranking officials or well off. Of course we have all kinds of friends, but usually you spend the most time with people like work colleagues, family etc. My findings are purely based off this and when I was young/dating Thai who had the money to study university as overseas students back home.  

Yes, it is a big world. Maybe take some of your own advice. Many variables in life, but if we are talking young, attractive, well off Thai women. More often than not they will be seeking Thai men or young, attractive foreigners. Not old, fat grandpas who make the same (or less) amount of money they do. 

Just now, JLCrab said:

Grow up.

Fantastic and informative response. Still living 30 odd years ago it seems. 

It is 2017 isn't it? I would have thought being a woman and finally having some sort of opportunity for a high standing in society (depending on their career), would have been a positive thing. Not only for the country (mostly other women), but for the individual. It is a very male dominated society after all, so half educated women seem to enjoy challenging the norms I have found. Of course, you will get your lazy women, but I have found that they are hi so from association. Hi so families, like any family, would like to see their children strive. The difference is they have the means to help that happen.

Also in the case of Thailand, it is the career that many rich Thai guys seek (why I initially mentioned the career before the rich Thai guys). As if investments turn bad then the family will always have something to fall back on/turn to. 

9 minutes ago, JLCrab said:

Yes and some of them have had countless rich Thai guys knocking at their door since they were 15 years old and they are bored with the whole thing especially if they don't speak English and meet a reasonably well-off farang who speaks sufficient Thai.

That is true. However, with a half decent career, or in the case of being a hi so, they have a lot of options under 35. 

1 minute ago, speedtripler said:

 

There are some amusing posts here... Have to give them credit lol

 

A hiso foreign educated girl will more than likely end up with a hiso rich young man her own age with the familys approval ... + Probably with a 6pack instead of a beer belly... 

 

Almost no chance she will end up with a fat old farang twice her age because whether she works or not after uni she will never need to care about money... 

 

You might get a cute young hooker, but it's not really the same thing... Is it? 

 

 

I would say my Mrs is middle class - but moving through the ranks pretty quick so will end up with a reasonable salary (plus many benefits) and a pension probably bigger than if she married an old farang anyway. However, I am 2 years younger than her (28 vs 30).

She is obviously very polite and friendly to all ages, but a romantic relationship with someone near her dads age is a bit off in her eyes. Each to their own of course, but many guys seem a little bit arrogant when they come to Thai thinking they are God's gift to Thai women. It is 2017 now, Thai girls have more opportunities now to, one, get an education good enough to survive Thai life, and two, with advances in technology find young farang lol. 

Any middle class girl, not even hi so, is not looking for a guy over 35. I wonder why this is a surprise to people. Middle to upper class obviously have an education, which usually translates into a half decent career (or in the case of hi so, money coming out of their ears). They have countless rich Thai guys knocking at their door. They don't need to seek a farang unless it is for love, so yes, usually (not saying always) someone near their own age. 

1 hour ago, amvet said:

Caught alive is OK given he is driving the right car and taking them to the right restaurants and buying them the right clothes.  I actually live in Thailand and know these things.  There is a group of old guys (property developers) who meet weekly in CM with their hi so uni girl interns, the girls take turns waitressesing  in the sauna. 

I think there are many different definitions of hi so on this forum. No hi so girl I have ever known would go around waitresing for anyone, whether it be at a restaurant or a sauna. 

I feel these girls you speak of are maybe considered hi so by association, not actually hi so themselves. 

News: 

As of probably next year the government has increased the monthly repayments to put towards rental/home loan. So the Mrs for example, will go from getting 3,000 to 4,000 per month. Then in two years as her pay scale moves up, she will then get 5,000 per month - the way her home loan is that will pay 60% of it. 

In the context of this police officer, there are many variables that will help him pay for this school. Our interest rate last year was half the standard banks (3.5%), this year 4.2%), and will always be minus 0.75% of the banks rate so would be 6% this year for example. Other types of loans (example bank loan for car are cheaper for officials also). In terms of renting the 15,000, if he approves for this welfare he will receive probably 3,000 per month to assist with the payments if he is living there also - which will only keep on going higher as his pay scale goes higher. 

Only has 10 students also. Lets try being a little more positive and understand the countries processes a little better. Many things on this forum that are disregarded are very plausible, people just don't know what they are talking about. 

Pricing of housing is probably one key thing that decided whether the wife would move to Melbourne, or I would move here. As of probably next year the Thai government will be responsible for paying for 50-60% of her home loan repayments (new updated policy for officials), which are already naturally very small/low interest (3.5% interest last year and 4.2% this year, then after 3rd year it will be the standard interest rate of the bank minus 0.75% - for example. would be 6% this year). Currently it would have only been 30% for us, but they have increased the monthly handouts to put towards the loan

With that being the case we have the intention of building a few properties (I cannot legally own so do not invest in it). So for the price of 1/8 of a property back home we can build two large 3 bedroom houses - so hopefully the kids can just focus on whatever career they want to do in life as we will set them up here in Thai - or if want to live in Australia at least will be able to start off with a deposit if we sell up what they had here. 

Other than that, probably the generosity of the people - I do not live in a tourist hub so generosity still exists. 

Behaviourists think consoling the dog (completely natural reaction) will actually reinforce the negative behaviour, rather than teaching the dog to be able to deal with the stimulus. So be careful of that as once a dog starts with storm phobia it usually gets worse and worse due to this very reason. 

So when where is no storm, they suggest to practice calm behaviour. So just get the dog to lay at your feet, and then when a storm hits, put the practice into action. The idea is for the dog to forget the storm as in the dogs mind it is replaced with something positive, calmness with the owner- which may also be playing with toys, eating treat, something constant/positive etc.

Other options are to slowly desensitise him to fake things over a period of months, will help him deal with the real thing when it happens. Slightly harder with lightening than thunder unless you have some serious outdoor lighting lol. 

It is also important to let the dog choose the room he is most comfortable in. As if forced to go into one specific room it may increase the anxiety and demolish the room to try and escape. 

Used to have a Border Collie who was fearful of storms, but they are one breed known to be - not fun to watch. He was happy to go into the laundry and ride out the storm though. 

Behaviour modification, desensitisation and even some medication was shown to be effective in 30 out of 32 dogs in a 2003 study on dogs and storm phobia. Maybe something worth thinking about if it starts to happen more frequently.  

I stayed in Yala a couple of years ago for a long weekend - at the government official housing near the hospital. Mrs worked there for 18 months. Beautiful place. Mrs friends (mostly Muslims) showed me around. One of her friends was the daughter of a head of some Islamic centre so got shown around the mosque, and their houses/land - very warm and welcoming people. Mrs thinks it is the best place she has ever worked in Thai (has worked all around the country) - purely just because of the people. Keeping in mind she worked in the regional office so had to cover all of Yala, Pattani, Narathiwas, Songkhla, Trang, Satun and Pattalung for 18 months (her driver was armed), so there must be something about the south.

They drove to pick me up from the airport and drove me back, rather than letting me on the public van. One restaurant not in the 'red zone' refused to serve me, so friends took me into the heart of the 'red zone' in Yala. Restaurant staff were more than welcoming and let me try all the local food, but we left abruptly mid meal due to a group of men on another table who didn't have the most positive things to say about me apparently. Didn't do wonders for the masculinity walking around with a group of tiny girls protecting me lol. 

Get invited back every year, and would love to go again - but have the little one and another on the way to think about now.

Some kids will be shy and hide away, where as others will run up to you as if you are an uncle or something (even though you are a complete stranger). 

Seeing as child napping can be quite prevalent here, then I think it is probably safer to teach the kids some sort of restrictions rather than just naturally accepting everyone. Not long back a kid was taken from a low security school in the city, all they had to do was tell the teacher they were family and the kid happily went with them, Luckily the kid was found safely and they were arrested. 

I have had the odd kid run up to me in restaurants (different cities) and jump up on me and try to talk to me. I would prefer my kids to be more suspicious than overly accepting like that. We wouldn't tell them to do things like that back home, so I wonder how allowing them to do it in possibly a more dangerous place is a smart thing to do. In terms of foreigners, walking around the place half the farang look pretty sex starved. Even the girls serving them at KFC look like a next meal to them. I wouldn't want my daughter being overly accepting of people who cant even keep their tongues in their mouth lol. 

Also depends on their level of education. I had to go to Korat yesterday, where I used to work so I know the schools are pretty good compared to where I live. Just walking through a shopping centre kids were happy to smile or try and talk to you. Whereas my hometown, the level of language is much lower so kids will just stare at you (unless village kids who see you regularly). Completely natural reactions. 

Just set up the home environment so all the visiting families can play in a safe area (not on the dangerous roads/diseased dogs). There doesn't have to be any sort of loss in socialisation in keeping the kids safe. Obviously, I would hope parents are with them when travelling outside. so would be supervised socialisation anyway. 

On a side note ticks prey on lower immune system dogs. Many vets now recommend a bone and raw food diet to keep that immune system strong. Vets who don't sell dog food anyway lol.

But has to be a well balanced diet with the natural insect repellent ingredients, so foods that include things like antioxidant, B complex, selenium, zinc etc. Good diet with 'guard hairs' is the sole reason dogs in wild, wolves, guardian dogs get through life relatively parasite free. 

So that with the proper treatment you will safely have no ticks on the dog, as even if they do still hunt out the dog the treatment will kill them before any diseases can be transmitted. Having had a tick disease that lead to lesions on my organs now I feel 100% safe, and do not need to check the dogs. I avoid neighbouring dogs or houses we visit though.

Also the same with Husky. Belly is okay, and behind can be beneficial. I know it seems illogical to keep the coat in a hot climate but the dog really is better/cooler with it than without it. 

In relation to ticks also, the 'guard hairs' you will be cutting not only stop sunburn (and hot spots), which can lead to heat stroke/death...but also parasites from getting to the dogs skin. Of course not 100% effective, but better than having nothing. 

Dogs can only sweat through their feet, noses and pant. Imagine not being covered up and the heat it will take in. So many negatives just to see the odd tick easier. 

If have someone to look after you, which seems to be the case as you have somewhere to stay for free, then money is fine.

All you would need money for is the visa if it ever progressed to more serious. I was 26 and came with no money, even had to get family to lend me the 400k for two months just for the marriage visa application. 

However, if you find someone to get serious with and have reasonable incomes it is possible to save on top of living well. We currently can save 15k a month. But we are spending Mrs wage on things like the new house still, both wages on a baby, and another on the way, insurance programs for us and the kids. So in theory with no family should be able to live nicely and save quite a bit.

I would not invest in someone else's business, better to teach - won't be a problem as you're educated. 

Any cut or shave of a GS has potential to ruin the coat.

Also any cut would make the dog hotter, as the hair is the dogs only form of insulation. Not only that prevents sunburn related issues. 

So risking ruining the coat, making the dog hotter, and potentially getting a tick disease yourself from searching doesn't really seem worth it when you can just treat the dog with more effective things than injections.

7 hours ago, meatboy said:

just for interest WW what would you call standard doxy treatment.

oh another day without leakingstill NO ice.

if your ever up this way come and say hello to sam.

Standard treatment is usually 10-21 days re Ehrlichiosis. The in laws dog was put on for 14 days. 

Good news re leakage.

People must move houses every month judging by these comments. Thai is not so third world they do not have the relevant council departments that you can issue complaints to lol. 

For starters, Thai people always complain about these sorts of things, people really have no idea to think they don't due to some sort of 'loss of face'. Even in your small rural villages the Public Health director will get noise complaints daily they must deal with. Bigger villages will have numerous complaints daily. 

Secondly, whether youre farang or Thai makes absolutely no difference. I have made complaints numerous times, and other farang where I live have also. Anyone has the right to make a complaint in Thailand. 

Businesses that cause noise are considered nuisance cases. You can try the head of village first, if that doesn't work then go to your Public Health director at your local municipality. They will inspect the nuisance and decide if it is a nuisance. If it is they will warn the shop and if it continues to happen then move in with the aide of the police/courts to fine the shop on a daily matter until the nuisance stops. 

If you find your official is not willing to work to stop this (probable if the threat of fine doesn't work) you can take them to the local tribunal (usually in Governors place), which the army has set up specifically for cases like this. Completely free, relatively fast and decisions are legally binding. The official will get in trouble for not performing their job and the military will order the nuisance to stop if they deem it a nuisance. I know of a case in my village that went to the tribunal that has restricted noise only to work hours, including no noise on weekends.