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I'm not depressed. Thailand is boring to me, so I'll be going back as soon as I can re locate with my daughter. Thailand isn't a bad place. I just don't like some of what goes on here and can't enjoy my hobbies either. Doesn't matter where a person lives. If they are knowledgeable about a subject from research and study, you can take their advice. Advice given has to be put into your own life and arranged so it fits you.

I gave up junk food a long time ago, when I started working out at 17. I do have a piece of chocolate now and then, and pizza once a month or so, which isn't bad anyway, just heavy. I'm trying to stay away from the bad health problems like Diabetes, heart problems, and others associated with extra weight. My brother died at 66 a few years back from a heart attack brought on by diabetes. It's been in my family all along and I'm hoping stays away from me. My son who's 32 also has it. My brother was always active until later years, and he spent more and more time on the computer and less outside doing things. he gained weight and wouldn't listen when they told him he needed to lose it. His heart was always okay, low blood pressure and resting pulse. After awhile, he needed to take heart medicine also, along with insulin. Caught up with him. One never knows what will happen, as there are people who exercise all their lives and eat healthy,and die at 40, and others who smoke cigars, eat red meat daily, don't exercise much , and drink whiskey and live to 102. There are foods I miss, but I enjoy healthy food, and my girlfriend cooks very good Thai food every week, so I'm not missing too much taste along the way.

Pretty harsh and not deserving I would think. Many people come here to complain, and to seek advice. Some are given good advice, some are degraded for asking advice, as you just did. People sometimes come here because they know many of us have lived in Thai situations and understand what's going on and what we did to alleviate the situation. Some do come just to rile up the troops, and they get the business. I don't see him as anything but wanting help because he knows we've been there. Thai women, although sharing all other women's traits, have a few which stand out more than many others. Living here you see them. He has gotten some good advice and some bad advice. His decision what to do because he's the one living it. Every relationship takes time besides the one's where the other shows their true colors right off the bat. usually it's subtle clues you have to read. What are red flags to some is just a woman's fear to others. You can hide everything forever. This may be a good woman that's just fearful of men and not deceptive and hiding other men from him. And a mother doesn't make a man a man. That's the father's job, or another good male role model that's around when a boy is growing up.

it isn't being a health freak when you're concerned about what you put in your mouth. Consistent good food choices gives you more protection from diseases, obesity being a major problem which leads to others. Granted, breakfast can be the biggest meal of the day and should be, because you have the whole day to burn off the calories.

But when you find the right one, you stay. Hardest thing to find on earth but you never know when it will come. Running from the wrong ones is a given, the one's who aren't honest, faithful and are takers.

Actually, any Christian woman will. Have had many conversations over the years with women who love God. You'd be surprised how any woman can go on for a long time with a subject that interests them. The easiest way to get closer to a woman is to communicate with her. Yes, women usually do most of the talking but that's the point entirely.

Try telling that to any woman you want to be with. Only the low self esteem ones with no other prospects will stay, and also the one's you can purchase.

True, and this is what gives the rest of the women here a bad rap from men, because not all are con artists. If a woman wants to cheat, there's a reason for it, and it's not always the man's "fault". She is disturbed in her thinking, and feels entitled, no matter how good or bad she is otherwise. No one wins in cheating except the man she's cheating with. He doesn't care what happens because there's always another woman he can fool.

A "normal" girl doesn't have to be hiding something if she is just scared of men in general. Most people will lie to protect themselves, and it's not always to hide something but to not let down their guard because they don't want to be hurt. Women who are damaged from childhood, and don't have a good male role model don't know how to act around men, using whatever tactics they know to keep distance, which makes them more comfortable. This girl shows attraction but isn't letting her guard down. is she hiding something or just scared? Time tells. That's up to him to see if any red flags are just that or a defensive mechanism. And also, psychos aren't normal girls.

You don't understand because it isn't I think I'm trying to help. It is that I do help. Your assumptions that I have delusions are based on ignorance. Anyone can argue with someone because they have been told something by another they believe to be true, and think the person they are arguing with is wrong, while the whole time that person they learned something from was wrong, and so are they. Anyone can argue a point, then go and research to find a link that another made using their opinion, and try and use that to bolster your argument. I have no delusions. I see things as they are. I try to not make opinions like you are doing, because they are not always valid, meaning yours are biased on your beliefs, your bias based on your experiences and not based on facts. You don't know a thing about me, nor anyone else on this forum, unless you have met them in person. if you did, you would be very embarrassed and shy away. Don't assume you know me because I differ from your opinions. If you are an adult, you already should know this, and not waste time trying to prove otherwise. You aren't looking smart to anyone here, besides the few clueless that are narcissists also. I have tried to help many here with knowledge I've gained over 67 years of studying various topics, reading constantly about psychology, narcissism, depression, nutrition and health, among other personal hobbies. In other words, I'm not a bu**shi**er.

Let your heart lead the way.

Just like back home in the US, yes.

What you say is true, but not with all Thai women. Hard to tell who's what but again, that takes time. Many reasons a woman acts erratic, and not all involve infidelity. One thing many Thai women only get after awhile, along with all other women. When you cheat on someone that is good to you, when you lose that good man, you end up with someone who cheated with you, and surely will do it to you as son as he gets the chance. they think they are slick, all the while too stupid to understand that locals will not stay but a fraction of the time, and if they have children, that translates to never. Hit and run, a lot because the court system here is beyond broken, as far as making sure men here that have children will support them. The women end up alone, used and confused. They might have a house to live in, and a car, but they'll be the talk of the town, their "friends" talking behind their back and looking down on them, miserable because they ruined the only good thing they'll ever have. Gold doesn't make a warm bed partner.

If you haven't figured out that I'm here trying to help by now, you never will.

Let them assume based on their own experiences. No one knows her or what she's doing, and comparing one girl here to another doesn't work. Girls have many reasons to shy away from their boyfriends. Fear of intimacy because of past experiences, even though she wants to trust you, it may be hard for her based on this past history. Many stay guarded and want to remain mysterious, not wanting to let someone have all of them just yet. Some test you to see what you'll do if they just up and leave for no apparent reason. They want to see if you're controlling, because previous ones may have tried to control her. Many girls date a few at a time, looking for the best for them. Nothing wrong as long as they're up front about it, and they know you're okay with it. It is true that some have Thai boyfriends, and they don't care if she has others, as long as he gets some. You can ask here and see what she says. Juggling school and more than one boyfriend isn't easy to do .A student has to study to pass subjects. It isn't like grade school here, where everyone passes no matter what they do in class. College requires study, and passing all subjects. That takes time. Does she talk about school? What are her goals? You've met her family, which Thais usually don't do unless they're serious about someone. When you met the parent(s) did they take an interest in you or look like they've seen it all before? There are plenty of shysters here, as well as plenty of girls who know what's in store if they settle with a local, or with a farang instead. A smart girl will want to settle down with someone who's not only attractive to them, but isn't a bum, and that has mutual interests and future plans. Time spent talking to each other tells a lot. When she's in the other room on her phone, ask her to sit down and watch a show or just talk. Some are addicted to their phones. It doesn't mean you aren't on their minds. Some have to be coaxed to get away from media.They don't talk to one another much here, meaning men and women, like we do in the US and other countries. It's usually the girls talking with the girls, the boys with the boys. I've observed this as long as I've been here, but women are all the same as far as one thing is concerned. If they talk to you, you listen, meaning really listen. That part of communication has no borders. Women respond to someone who takes an interest in what they have to say. Men don't usually understand that, especially here. If you can stand out, she will choose you, unless of course she has a lot of baggage she can't get over. A girl with daddy issues with be a serial dater, not staying with anyone because no one can compare to that missing "perfect" father she fantasizes about. Let no one tell you what's right for you. No one is living your life and doesn't know her at all.

Try looking at my posts to see that I am trying to help others. Calling someone stupid because they disagree with your opinions makes you look more the pillock. I don't have a definition of narcissism, the dictionary does. If you understood what an empath is, you would see that it's someone that can feel what others feel, quite the opposite of a narcissist who thinks they are always right. I always respond directly to anyone who contradicts my views, as I've been doing with you all along. I didn't say anyone said ALL students. I said when someone says the girl students here all service the Thai males more than farangs, he is making an opinion. Maybe his opinion was right, mainly because there are millions more Thai males than farang males. Do you understand? Anyone that says most girl students do anything is making an opinion. Are there any studies shown that this is true? Studies have people who lie, exaggerate, and tell the truth. Besides that, there are, like I said, people who make opinions based on what others tell them. You getting all bent out of shape because I'm sticking up for the girl students that I think are not doing what he said they are is out of line. I know what goes on in college dorms, and have since the 70's. If you take the whole population of girls that are college age, from 17-25, do you think these girls are having more sex than the average village girl with no or little prospects besides hopefully finding someone that might marry them and help with the kids they make? The students have a lot more to do than the average girls, meaning studies, and haven't as much time on their hands as girls that are back living at home. Doesn't mean they aren't having sex. Just not like the average Thai girls do. If you think that's an opinion, so be it.

Thinking I'm a hypocrite shows you aren't understanding what I write. You believing his side, where he said most UNI students are servicing Thai males, is wrong. I don't need to prove otherwise to know this is a statement based on him talking to a few locals who gave him his opinion to make. I didn't say some students don't act this way. They do this in America and anywhere else for that matter. Teen pregnancies have been happening as long as we've been living, and some are girls going to college. He made it sound like most, I made it sound like some.

If you read all of what he's been saying about what this girl does, both with him and in her spare time, as far as he can see, she's at school most of the time, has spent days alone with him, he isn't shelling out any money besides dating cash, and he's met her family. Something that's usually done here when a woman is serious about someone. Of course anyone can hide a lot of things, even at her age, but that's something he has to find out for himself in time. Why tell someone to run when you nor anyone else knows what's going on in her life? Jealous that he might have one of the good ones perhaps? And saying she might have a jealous boyfriend or husband on yaba while there are many here that date and marry bar girls, who have a thousand fold more chance of carrying an STD than a University student, have boyfriends and maybe husbands on the side, and are forthcoming with asking for money right off the bat? A "distinguished" poster won't tell someone who's happy with a girl to run. None of us know anything besides what he has told us. Are there red flags? Maybe, maybe not. We aren't living his life. Only hearing a few words about it. He wanted advice. Giving advice doesn't mean telling him to do what you think is right based on being burned by a few Thai girls, but what you think will work for HIM. Like one just said, we aren't supposed to be Dr. Phil. True, some just like to have a few laughs, but some , as I've seen here many times, like to help. I would much rather think someone dating a bar girl would be in more danger than one dating a college student.

One could say exactly the same about you, and in your case, be right. I always consider alternate viewpoints, as that's how one learns all sides, and not only that, finds out what the facts are. Some sides happen to be wrong, and I don't make opinions but go mostly by research of proven facts. I don't form beliefs but see things as they are. When someone says the girl students here all service Thai males more than farangs, he is making an opinion based on listening to these fools you speak of, and not on proven facts. Was I wrong disagreeing with him and stating that not all students service Thai and farang males, or do you foolishly agree with him and go by what a few people say? Anyone who sees my posts and thinks I'm some kind of troll is not only a moron, but can't see that I'm usually trying to help others, quite the opposite of many here who are narcissists that think they are right with their opinions , and jealous because they aren't trying to help but antagonize others because that's all they know.

Sure did

Never said it's the worst place on earth, only about the most boring, meaning Isaan and not Thailand. Not picky wanting to spend my retirement days doing things I enjoy. that's why I'll be going back as soon as possible.

It simply amazes me with so many who assume they know who or what a person here is just by them posting a few lines. How can you possibly conclude he is a virgin, a troll, or incompatible? Cultural differences mean something, but not near what basic man and women relationship factors do. People are people everywhere, and all act on the same kind of impulses, emotions and feelings. There are only a few different personality types, and that includes everyone on earth. Anyone can be compatible with anyone else they are attracted to, at least until they start talking. Then it comes down to good communication skills, trust, and having a background that hopefully doesn't include damage from parental figures. A 10 year difference is very small, and the thinking is pretty much the same, as soon as you are an adult, meaning past the age of 21. If someone is a teenager and the other is late twenties or older, then you'll have trouble relating, because the teenager isn't developed as far as maturity and life experiences. She and him can easily get along if they both have mutual interests and future goals. Attraction is obviously already there. He isn't paying her way besides dating, and she is staying with him overnights. A woman in her twenties does not have 100's of friends. Most people only have a small circle that they spend much time with. The rest are just acquaintances or friends of friends. Adding people on Facebook doesn't make them friends and companions. As far as everyone knowing about him. Thais hear what other Thais say to them about farangs, and a lot of it is BS. Judging a whole by hearing about a few means nothing. A lot of farangs buy their women here and pay a lot of money to keep them around, which makes it look like that's the way we all operate. The only real way a Thai knows what western life is about is to move there and live it. Hearsay brainwashes many. Believing their friends leads to a big letdown or unrealistic expectations. Having a good male role model is the most important thing a girl can have growing up. This one isn't asking for money and neither is her family. They might not. Some Thais work their way up through College and want to be independent, and unlike the BS some have stated, most girls in college aren't servicing Thai men because most are smart enough to know it's a complete waste of time.

Long drive from the beach, which is an attraction, although some might not care. Fishing and hunting are things I enjoy. No hunting here and fishing is only good in private lakes and a few reservoirs that are far away, with the exception of Sirindhorn, where you need a decent boat. Not anything besides a social drinker, and getting drunk every day isn't my thing, although you can do that anywhere. Boredom drives many to drink more also. If you've seen a few large temples, you've pretty much seen what's to ofer, although being a Christian, they are only something to see being curious of other religions and beliefs. Hill tribes are around Chiang Mai, and though I haven't yet seen them, that's not something you'll visit very often. The food is good, but you can go anywhere and eat good Thai food. Isaan is a great place to grow food, but as far as having anything to do, there isn't much. There aren't any pro sports stadiums to watch teams play like back home. They rarely have concerts in Thailand with music that I like., and none around here anyway. Thai music is okay, but not near what I'm into anyway. There is only one gym about 30 KM from where I live, but it doesn't open until 14;00, which is very inconvenient for me, as I've worked out 50 years , mostly early mornings. Pretty much to me is a boring place.

I asked him for proof of his opinion. He hasn't any. A short paragraph asking for proof and making a statement believing most girl students don't get paid to service Thai males more than farangs is hardly rambling, except maybe to one who cannot comprehend it. Or can you prove my sweeping generalization doesn't hold water?

Far from it pal. Like I said, show me proof or don't reply. Your opinion means nothing, nor does anyone else's here, just because somebody told you something. "Oh, I know someone who told me all girl students service more Thai males than farang males". That IS naive.