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I know this happens so I don't look like this as a troll post. First of all, you call a woman a wife and then have an open marriage? THAT affects the core of a marriage right off. That means you aren't looking at her as anything but an object to use when your needs need satisfying. In her eyes, she has sex with you because you give her money, especially seeing that she has that boyfriend and looks at you as nothing more than an ATM. Now he's looking at you as that also? Giving this man (boy, child, etc) cash as he is being intimate with someone you call a wife doesn't bother you in any way? Close your eyes and see the image, but if it doesn't bother you, then you know she isn't a wife to you. Why would either of them respect you if you are letting this happen? Like another has said, this can turn dangerous to you. When someone want's your wife more than you do, he might go to extremes to get it. As another said, ditch them both. These aren't mature individuals but leeches, and no human need a leech around, because the blood sucking never stops. I'm sorry if these replies sound like criticism but that's all the constructive advice we can give you. If you can't look at a woman as your own, to love, cherish, keep from harm, and only for yourself, stay single. That way you won't be using someone who doesn't deserve that. This country is loaded with women who will take your money in exchange for sex, and some won't make it look that way, if that's respect to you. If you want respect, you need to give it, period. If you want to play, stick with the players. Then no one gets hurt. This marriage should never have happened, and you know it. Staying in it could get you killed. At the very least, this is what you'll see from now on. Sharing your wife with another pig that probably has others on the side, and you know what that could mean coming back to you, in the very least lost money, worse an STD that won't go away, or you becoming yet another victim of a love triangle that went south.

They're adults by age, but maybe not maturity. Know many myself all my life.

He isn't an adult either, so that's where the logic comes, or doesn't.

Maybe some parents don't care about the welfare of their children? The same as letting them drive scooters at 8 years old without helmets, play with friends without filling them in on the dangers of what certain "friends" can do with your future, letting children under the age of 15 spend the night with members of the opposite sex, letting them abuse animals knowing full well that children that do this grow up to be adults that abuse their girlfriends, husbands or wives, not warning them of the dangers of underage drinking with a brain not fully developed, or listening to their kids when they say someone took advantage of them.

Not exactly true. The child should be at least 14, depending on the state, some are 16, before they can sue for emancipation, with a courts consent. Also, they have to be living apart from their parents, with their consent. They also must have a source of income, then a court will decide what they will do. There is no fixed age where a child may decide on emancipation, but it has to be done through the court system before they are 18. A petition must be filed by the child or the parents. But there has to be evidence concerning the necessity of the emancipation before the courts will terminate the rights of the parents. Parents have control over their children until this is decided, unless some sort of abuse or neglect is proven to be taking place, again decided by the courts.

It could be allergies, but you said you haven't had this until this Covid time, and you, like myself, rarely get colds. That's a reason I felt it was Covid all three times with me. With you, especially after you said you get a slimy feeling after certain foods., this could be a food allergy, something that's not easy to pinpoint unless you go through the process of elimination, try and remember what triggers it, or see a specialist. Without checking with a doctor about allergies, all you could do is try allergy medicine, available OTC here, and gargle daily with warm salt water, along with making sure you drink a lot of water, to help break up the congestion. It's hard to tell if this is long Covid because they still don't understand it that well.

Many people get Covid and suffer symptoms of long Covid long afterward, as it seems I have. I've had it at least once, and I'm thinking three times. I got the same symptoms all three times as the one time I was found positive. Sore throat, cough, and the last time, runny nose and congestion, which are said to be the symptoms of the Arcturus strain. I have seasonal allergies so I wouldn't know if this was different were it not the cough and sore throat, which allergies never gave me. They're still finding out how some suffer symptoms awhile after having it, so the only way you'll ever know is testing.

Appears to be a troll post. As far as the poster, do you not realize that all Americans ancestors came from other countries ,meaning yours too?

Maybe again, this is the responsibility of the government to spay and neuter stray animals, thereby reducing their populations, lowering the auto-animal accidents, dog bites, sometimes causing rabies, constant dog fights around homes, especially at night, and other problems from the overpopulation of stray dogs? They could use some of the money that's put towards a military that doesn't or will never need as many weapons, tanks, planes and such. Spaying and neutering goes on daily here, but it needs to be done at a much larger rate. People don't do it here near as much as in the states, and there there are programs where it's done at a much reduced rate there, which should be started here. Can't complain about the problem because there's only one way it will be reduced. I've heard myself a few times that people dump animals at temples because they will be taken care of there. This shows it isn't always so, as there are many monks that are hiding out there and become monks to stay out of jail. Same as the military used to be in the US.

You ARE judging him by his looks, as if someone with tattoos is somehow less intelligent or clumsier than a person without? Or that someone that smokes weed (guess you have no experience so can't comment), is more likely to fall into a hole, or sewer, than a person who drinks a lot? Weed is the obvious answer? That's ignorant in of itself. I've been around weed smokers, and I have also, for at least 50 years, and never have I seen anyone who stumbles or falls because of smoking. Drinking, yes, many times. Maybe he got too close to an opening in the street, a place where the ground was soft enough to collapse, and he couldn't get out the same way. so he wandered around until someone up top heard him or he found another place to get out.

Been working out, mostly until the last 10 years or so, with very heavy weights since 1974. Back living in Texas about 8 years ago, I had to go to the doctor because my shoulders were hurting beyond what was normal for me. Had two rotator cuff tears. They sent me to physical therapy where I did some off beat exercises. They worked, but one doctor told me that I shouldn't work out anymore. This was told to me when I has a meniscus tear in one knee from very heavy squats. I knew that stopping exercises wasn't right, as you have to keep muscle strength and tone to support the joints, so I continued working out, but didn't go extremes anymore. This has worked all along, but I still get joint pain from the past heavy lifting. Now I take Diclofenac when I have pain. It's a non steroidal anti inflammatory and it usually works.

Brits aren't Yanks, and Yanks for the most part, do not need guns and will use fists to fight, unlike most here, who use machetes and 4 or more against one. Hitting someone over a small matter is childish, and ignorant here, as they were lucky to get away. Gives the expats here a bad name, as many will lump people together based on where they come from.

This is why you don't take advice from anyone besides a professional that has experience working with many patients, and cares enough about them to keep up with their progress all the while they are taking medicine. The right medicine can do wonders for improving one's mood, and life. The wrong can make them worse, or much worse. You don't tell someone what they should take. That's the psychiatrist's job. Then the doctor has to follow up with them, and tell them that they need to come back immediately if their symptoms worsen or they feel suicidal. Many things can cause anger, from depression, loss, medications, past abuse or neglect, genetics and environment. That's why you see a doctor, and explain your past and present history, so they can prescribe what they think is needed, along with psychotherapy. Everyone reacts differently to medications, and that's the main reason they need to be evaluated asap.You can buy most anything in Thailand OTC, and that's a concern. Self medicating can lead to extreme problems. She has admitted to having a problem, so the next step is the doctor's office. Anyone can look something up online and then post it here, as many seem to do. You could do that yourself, and go to one of many sources like WebMD. Going directly to those that specialize in helping others with mental illnesses is always the first choice.

People with some forms of depression experience bouts of anger also. Depression in itself can be anger turned inward, and BPD, which it also sounds like, has people with extreme bouts of anger out of "nowhere". My ex was very nice much of the time, but when something bothered her when she was in a "mood", she went ballistic like I've never seen in a woman, or men for that matter. Relationships with these types, like with narcissists is very hard or impossible, especially if they are also experiencing PTSD. In a narcissists case. this is a learned behavior from childhood, as BPD can be, but BPD can be treated with psychotherapy over time. Narcissism is a lot harder, but not impossible if they are willing and accept that their behavior is wrong.

People who have depression, bipolar, BPD all can experience anger. My ex became a covert narcissist because of abuse and neglect in her childhood. Admitting she has a problem is the first step, as many will be in denial . Some SSRI's help with anger, like Prozac, but she has to see a doctor and be evaluated before anything is done. This is one other cause ..................... https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/17786-intermittent-explosive-disorder

Fishing here is good if you have a private lake access. Otherwise it's pay and fish, because the locals are allowed to freely net anything and everything and keep it all.No conservation means no fish for the future. One reason I'm moving back asap. No hunting and only good fishing in private lakes or in huge reservoirs you need a guide in, or time spent on. You can catch snakeheads and tilapia in small roadside ponds that flood during rainy season, and there sometimes are decent snakeheads in them. As far as conversing about kids, a lot assume you are the father unless you tell them otherwise. As far as trying to get them to understand you when you say a word that sounds very close to the actual pronunciation, forget it. This has happened all the time I've been here. If you say a word,and they don't understand it, but someone else repeats the word to him, and it sounds exactly like you just said it, it still won't get through. Part of this has to do with the lack of good education in Thailand. They have a lot of tones to their language, and if you don't get it just right, they won't understand what you're saying. Doesn't happen in other countries as I've heard. Some touch kids in their crotch and it's improper, but many don't think so. Finally, not all of us on the forums are in their 70's, sitting in an aircon waiting to die. I'm 66, fit as a 40 year old, besides joint pain, and have joint custody of a 6 year old girl that will accompany me back to the states as soon as I can get it all worked out. I don't like living here, besides some nice things, but I've fit in, trying to keep the peace and be helpful, because, this IS their country.

Helped me more than twice also. RIP Joe, and thank you for your help.

Parmesan,meaning Parmesan-Reggiano is hardly cheap. It actually cost more than most cheddars. It can only come from Northern Italy and has to be aged for a year before sale.Parmesan can be made anywhere, with milk from anywhere, but the taste isn't the same. Millions eat it daily, and if you've ever tasted good Parmesan, you would see the difference. of course, you might not like Parmesan and prefer other cheeses, which you consider "better" Personal taste doesn't mean anything. To each their own. I love and prefer Emmentaler, Muenster, Gruyere, Cheddar, other Swiss cheese, Mozzarella, but will eat most any cheese, including Brie, Camembert and even regular yellow cheese on burgers.

Less road rules enforced is not a good thing. Check the stats. Corruption, taking money to look the other ways on many offenses, especially human trafficking. Bangkok huge hub for selling little girls and boys to slime. Dating younger comes with a price, higher than dating older. The food's great though, although I miss a lot of western food, which doesn't come close here. Okay, but not the same. Med access better yes, but not needed yet.

Most people think they are normal. People with depression, none of their own cause, have a mental illness. Doesn't make them bad people. Or abnormal. Narcissists, on the other hand, have learned that behavior and are terrible people. Abnormal. Drinking daily doesn't make you bad. Too much daily makes you an alcoholic. Still not a bad person, just one with a problem. As long as they aren't hurting others, it's their problem. There are white collar workers that don't drink, do drugs, or cheat but use their ways to embezzle money from others, drain resources from the planet for gain, or over develop. This is abnormal. Everyone on earth has problems. Some are abnormal. Most aren't. Just humans.

Violence can be genetic, and violent men aren't wanted by any but mentally disturbed women. Women generally are naive about men, taking advice from friends that have been hurt by men before and it seems that bad boys are more exciting than good men, which of course is a lie, because once that excitement is over from first encounters, what's left is a man that disappears. He got the sex he wanted, and goes onto greener pastures. Excitement comes from two people who are initially attracted to each other, and never getting lazy about romance. Attraction isn't a choice, but excitement wears off in time unless you get inventive, and care about your partner as more than an object or ATM. Good genes come from healthy bloodlines ,period. Unlike what the narcissist Corey Wayne, who thinks alpha males pass good bloodlines to their kids, says, it's a healthy individual that has good genes, especially if his parents were also healthy. A man gets discarded either because he doesn't treat his partner right, or his partner has mental challenges from her childhood, especially fathers. I have 5 daughters and one son, all healthy and attractive. I had them with pretty women who were healthy (in body), and I've lifted weights for 50 years and eaten very healthy all my life

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Narcissists come from narcissists. Either the parent spoils the child (golden child), or neglects and ,or, abuses them. Either way the child grows up with a negative outlook on life and relationships, and learns to use and control to get what they want. My ex was neglected in a family of 11 children here by a mom that had way too many kids (to bolster her low self esteem) and a dad that was rarely home and hit his kids first to control them, instead of taking time to discipline by talk (her words). She has told me she hated her mom, that she always chose the younger ones to spoil. In fact, there was always younger ones with 11 children one after the other. My ex was child number 4, which meant by the time she turned 3, there was another 7 to come, which required more attention and my ex was pushed away from that moment on, all the way through the time she left the house at 17, in favor of the next child, and the next, and the next, and so on. Neglect from age 3 turns a child into an unloved person (in her eyes also), and they go into the world with a chip on their shoulder and must control to stay above everyone else or face their fear of being left out or used. They go on to teach their children the same things, either spoiling or neglecting. Either way the child's future is set, unless they can rise above that treatment and make themselves whole. Our daughter now looks to be the golden child, as she thinks she is all she has. She lost a good ,loving man, and found a boyfriend that abuses her. This is a major reason I have to be the parent in her life, as the love from the other side isn't real.

If you grew up with loving, caring parents, and were close to them, you will try and be loyal to them by replicating their behavior. You might look at some things and think they are wrong, but your trust in them and relationship with them had an impact on your thinking, and shaped what you became today. If you as an adult, hear from other trusted sources that something your parent said or did was wrong, then you can change your thinking. If your parents taught you social skills, and how to relate to the other gender, you will more likely be able to have good relationships with them. If your parent(s) were narcissists, you will have trouble with every relationship you encounter. If your parents were honest, reliable people, you will grow up thinking that's how you should be. Your first five years of your life are where you learn everything about how people relate to each other, and as you get older, you will see this for yourselves . All teenagers rebel, or should, to become their own person, but what they learned from their parents shaped their thinking, even if they won't admit it to anyone, at least until they are adults. If you disagree with good habits, it's your loss, and it's why there are so many problems with interpersonal relationships. When you are young, you either listen to your parents or you don't. Every problem on earth starts at home.

Actually he is right when he says its about education. And that education starts at home. if you grow up hearing racist remarks from your parents, you will repeat that behavior when you are an adult, unless, you get educated that it's wrong.