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"Decent" may be ambiguous. I was going to write "comfortable" but thought that might seem a bit HiSo. She has a car (her second) and a house in her name where we live. She enjoys shopping but is not extravagant. She gives the boys small salaries and teaches them to contribute to their needs. They go to schools between public and private--tests and modest fees. These are boys who suffered in public schools and had never been to the beach or a movie theater ten years ago. They now enjoy school.

I don't understand. You think it's too high or too low? That's THB; risen from 30K/mo ten years ago when I first helped her out of the bar. It's enabled her to lead a middle class life (taxis, trips to the beach, school fees), not a life of pleasure living it up.

Even my decent salary of 60-75,000 hardly permits "a life of pleasure living it up", especially as two boys become teens.

Preferably in Hua Hin area, but Bangkok ok. Preferably a woman.

I don't understand why this got a thumbs-down response. Is it likely that the responder doesn't approve of HIV or STD testing before marriage (or ever)? Or am I being scolded for my frequent massages (which incidentally are just massages)?

We never had unprotected sex. She wants to be able to expand the repertoire

It's funny you ask. Never a question about DNA testing; I knew the boys had separate fathers from her younger days. But she did recently suggest we both get HIV and STD testing before the wedding. Me because she knows I get frequent massages.

Was that enough to keep her faithful? Yes, but I never thought that was the quid pro quo. I believed she wanted to get out of the bar, had no other sexual interests, and was generally thankful enough to love me, at least eventually for my care.

Ten years ago I met her in a bar. She wanted to stop working and I wanted her exclusively. I asked her how much he made in an average month. She said 30,000 and I started providing it. Costs increased over the decade to 60,000 what with growing boys, and I also provided homes and cars, better schools, and medical expenses. She never asked. I wanted her and them to be well. I loved her (a motivation that has been ignored in much of this discussion). After we are married this winter I imagine our collective monthly expenses will increase further. At least I hope so.

The phrases "women in their own country" and "taking advantage of economic inequality" have to be contextualized. My alternative to my future Thai wife who is 40 years my junior was a Peruvian waitress, 41 years my junior, in my home country, the U.S.A. And as a modestly comfortable retired teacher, there are many wealthy women in my own country who wouldn't give me the wrong time of day.

I'm 84 and she is 43. We've been together ten years. Initially I often asked what others think of us (read me) and she always said it was about jai dee not age. By now I've learned that the overwhelming response from those who have and have not met me is "lucky girl." It should have been "lucky guy." We bought our first house in January and plan to get married in December.

Since I may be partly responsible for raising the issue of boredom, let me clarify a personal matter. I wasn't suggesting that living in LOS was inevitably boring. Maybe some places are but certainly not all. I remember years ago a TV member describing Hua Hin as littered with the bodies of expats who had died of boredom. And now I have just moved to the rural outskirts of Hua Hin. But it's personal and comparative. I'm used to living in Manhattan where I plan on doing half-years. Spring and summer, I think. Any change of pace or scene has to lessen boredom at some level.

Sorry, I don't get it. You didn't leave Thailand or earlier patrie?

Do you become an expat by living in Thailand half the year, as I plan, or does it have to be the full year? A half year here and a half year there should decrease the boredom potential but it means putting down roots in both places. I just got the Thai house. The next step is the even more difficult job of getting a Fiance Visa to be with the GF in both places. We're doing this a bit later than you advise (in our 40s and 80s), but you can never do it earlier than you are.

I'm awake with the sun--from 6:30 to 6:30. Sometimes 7-7; even 7-8, never 7-11.

Thanks, Dad. I've only be doing this for 70 years--to better and better reviews. Enough time to learn that "typically" and"Generally" don't count.

You've never met me either. That what turns anonymity into useful social information.

In 10 minutes of mouth and lip action, she comes multiple times, thanks me profusely, and tells me to turn over to return the favor.

There may come a time when the gell doesn't work, but there are other ways of getting testosterone, including injections. I consider myself lucky in having the partner I have, but I work at replacing declining T. My urologist prescribes it. And I increase dosage rather than give up.

(Asking about testosterone gel) I get the Andro Gel in New York. ( It's made in Mexico.) I've also gotten packets of testosterone gel at Fascino's in Pranburi. There's also a Fascino's in Market Village, Hua Hin. (I haven't tried them.)

At 83 I use testosterone gel (Andro-gel) and 20mg of tadalafil (cialis) daily. No side-effects to speak of. Not as vigorous as I was in my 70s, but I stay engaged and enjoy it. And my GF doesn't have the energy she had ten years ago in her 30s. I'm getting her to take progesterone. These "pharmaceuticals" aren't more chemical than the hormones they replace.

I just bought my first lease for a Thai rental (6 mos in Hua Hin), for 1/3 the cost of my partly subsidized long term rental in Manhattan. Biggest advantage is the face I wake up to and kiss good-night. Restaurants in NY are better, but I eat well enough in Thailand. I can read the New York Times online (though I prefer the paper) and I can listen to WQXR on my laptop (though I prefer the radio). I can't give up NY but I expect to bring my TGF there for March to August. Wish me luck.

1st stage has been my visiting for vacations about four times a year, a few weeks at a time. Now entering second stage, renting a house together for her residence and my longer and more frequent visits. Nice feel having our own home together, even if I have to return to New York frequently to supervise legal wife's hospice care. I imagine a third stage post mortem, living half a year in our Thai home and half a year in NY.

What makes you feel sick? Is it an old guy enjoying life?

I've just turned 83 and find I need more of a kick so I upped cialis from 10 to 20 mg a day which helps. I might also have to drop finasteride or just take topical version for my hair. Cialis (tadalafil) is prescribed for both ED and BPH. May also consider upping testosterone from gel to injections. I have no interest in giving up sex. Nor does my 42 yr old GF/wife. Even though her main enjoyment is the multiple orgasms from my cunnilingus.