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So much of this is in the mind. This 80 year oldie with a 40 year younger partner started with her 10 years ago. Although she is just as much a stunner as she was then, she thinks she is no longer young enough to start out. I feel younger than I did then. I would probably pursue her more confidently today (thanks to the confidence she has given me).

When I ask my 41 year old how this soon-to-be 82 year old satisfies her, she says the equivalent of I've made her middle class (raised her high). Happy? Yes happy. What more could I do? Nothing. You're "perfect." (limited English.} Swears she'll always take care of me. Thinks about time she'll push me around in a wheel chair. UGH! Sex? She enjoys it and thanks me afterwards, but doesn't ask or initiate. Frequency and variety leave something to be desired. {I'd prefer daily to weekly.} She says she wants to increase libido, but suffers hormonally after turning 40. "No longer a young girl," she says. Could've fooled me.

There has been a lot said about money here (probably true) and a little about culture, Thai vs. other Asian (definitely true), but nothing about our own changing self perceptions. I think age difference feels increasingly appropriate for me as I experience it. BT (Before Thailand) I saw only the jnappropriateness of a 40 year gender gap. Living it for the last ten years has made me more accepting and expecting. BT no 40 year younger cutie would look me in the eye, much less smile at me on the streets of New York. Now some do. I carry on a flirtation with a pretty Peruvian waitress who wants to travel with me. I was chatted up by an attractive Ukrainian artist the other day (yes, maybe she wanted asylum). Both 40, looking 30. The world has changed. But my point is that I have changed. I smile at them. I go to the gym. I lost weight and keep trim. I feel younger. Maybe I'm no longer so much older than my Thai GF who used to be so young. Maybe Thailand is no longer the only place I could please a beauty 40 years younger.

I have the deepest gratitude for the lifeguard who literally saved my life. But I can't stop comparing my fate to that of 24 year-old Artur. I expect to be 82 in a few days. He will never be 25. I have a GF who watched me from the hotel balcony, witnessed me being pulled out to sea before I knew it, ran down to the beach and emphatically told the life guard he had to pull me out, that I wasn't able to get out myself. Artur had to rely on the system.

"Lifeguards informed the police that they had been notified of the Kazakhstan tourist’s unconscious state approximately five minutes before their arrival. " I'm having trouble imagining how that transpired. They? notified? approximately five minutes? before their arrival?

It almost happened to me a week ago at Kata Noi. Fortunately my GF realized I was being drawn out to sea before I did. She badgered the lifeguard to do more than whistle me in. If she hadn't and he hadn't, I wouldn't be here today. I thought I was only walking in the waves. I fell down, couldn't get up, and couldn't move toward the beach. It happened so fast.

What country has the "beautiful mountain setting here at 4000' elevation & temperatures are always between 13-23c & crystal clear air quality AQI averages under 10?" Sounds idyllic.

I've been there, turning seventy, taking solace in my lost libido, relishing relaxation without angst. Those were the days. Then she appeared and bid me into her life. I couldn't turn away for days, then weeks and months. Now ten years later I am enjoying my eighties more than any other time. Lost weight, look younger, returned to need, and great satisfaction.

I'll take Manhattan March through September; Thailand October through February (Phuket, probably). I can do that now. With extra money I would take more trips, travel more, and up the scale.

Donald Trump and some of the richest people in Manhattan.

Living in NYC isn't as uniformly difficult as it seems when we quote average or median rents, sales prices, restaurant meals, and expenses. I live in a desirable section of Manhattan in a large apartment for 1/4 of the market price because the rent is regulated (a legacy of welfare socialism days). I don't own a car because it costs too much to park it and I don't need it anyway. I enjoy eating out at least daily for breakfast and having restaurant food delivered for dinner from unpretentious eateries with good food. I can get half price tickets to Broadway plays and concerts. I have medicare coverage supplemented by the State of New Jersey where I used to work. My ill wife gets medicaid for a superb full-time care-giver. Having been only a professor (for 50 years), I can still afford quarterly visits to my salaried GF here in LOS while keeping my home in NY.

I was accepted to the PC in 1963 or '64 for a "malaria eradication project." All I could think of was the buzzing mosquitos, so I turned it down. Stayed home and married two Italian-Americans in succession. Fifty years later, I found a much younger future wife. I just wish I had taken the opportunity to learn Thai when I had a brain as young as hers.

"Fake it till you make it" is what someone said. But I'm not sure of the point. There is nothing fake about a chemically aided orgasm, or the smiles it produces. You want my story or Chalawaan's? What has to be explained?

We do alot of things that nature hasn't prepared us for very well. If we were meant to fly we would be born with wings. Blokes with obvious hair dye just haven't done it very well. Women with dyed hair don't sadden you. Most of the time you don't even know it's died. And it doen't seem to sadden the guy who does it. Or the girl on his arm. Just tell my GF you think I should let it go. She'll think you want to sadden two peole.

No. Finesteride does, but it also lowers libido.

I had a bad lower back 40 years ago. Chiropractor diagnosed short hamstrings and prescribed stretches and exercise which seem to have worked. Over last 30 years I have also taken TRT (patches and gell) which have increased vitality considerably. I Also take tadalafil (5mg daily). But no HCG (yet). I think the tadalafil counters daily 5mg of finasteride which produces hair at the expense of libido. I also take tamsulosin (4mg daily) which eases prostate but reduces or reverses ejaculation. A walking pharmacy. But still satisfying my 40yr-younger half at 82.

Going out socializing at night has lost much of its allure. Maybe partly because of age (81). But also from jet lag. It takes a week or two to adjust to Thai time after flights from New York. So I'm awake before sunrise and tiring by sunset. My GF (41) adjusts easily to the increased relaxing time without having to go out at night to socialize, which she hasn't enjoyed anyway since her early thirties. She prefers just being with me, which is fine. Back in New York, jet lag works the same way: I'm in bed by 9. No more concerts or plays as in my younger days but that's because of my wife's illness. One consequence of age is that the old friends I haven't lost are less mobil and I do less when I'm alone.

I know I must test your patience, but here's what I don't understand: You seem to say a villa purchase is a complete scam, but these are big ticket deals: Villas are close to a million dollars, or more; The Thai-based international company that owns the land provides villa buyer with shares in the company so (they say) lessor and lessee are one and the same; The owner of the villa is a foreigner (like me) who presumably is able to sell what he bought and get his baht back. Whether or not the agreement is registered at the land office doesn't seem to matter. What am I missing? And thanks for your patience.

This sounds like the kind of place I am looking at. What makes it likely to be renewed? That it is gated? expensive? numerous villas? Are the lease holders really the lessors? It seems hard to believe that people who spend tens of millions for some of these are stupid or unaware of how things actually work.

Some years ago I came very close to buying a villa where the GF would own the land and I would own the building. (We decided against the particular place after engaging the lawyer.) Can I assume I can do that today? If so, does the leasehold become effectively a freehold for the two of us? Even if we're not married?

Anyone with experience purchasing a leasehold, especially in Phuket? Have heard many warn against, but also many saying it can be done. Seems especially difficult to extend beyond 30 years, but some say that can be done too. Any guidance would be appreciated.

I did, thanks. I've been a college professor and historian. Teaching a new class of college students every year kept me thinking young. Just had to stop because of the threat of covid, especially to my ailing wife. Now, don't miss it a bit.

Just retired and about to turn 82, I hope to move to TH and settle in with my 41 yr old GF for 3-6 months a year. Looking for a villa near the sea to start life, stage 3. Hope I'm not delusional. Certainly feels better to plan for upswing rather than decline.

The MD? I need a lawyer's due diligence and arrangement of secure leaseholding and proper finance accounting. Someone with local knowledge of Kata/Phuket would also be desirable. I am looking at villas in Katamanda estates.

No. Still Looking. Those I've communicated with tend to be more interested in their charges and unable to answer simple questions.