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  1. I can’t really add much to what has already been said.

    I can only raise a question, do you believe in your wife? I don’t mean that you actually “trust” her but when it comes to something like this you have a choice of believing your wife or some stranger.

    If she is “The love of your life” every time you are together and gives you no reason for thinking that you are not the center of her universe – can you live with just that?

    Two movies come to mind. In one Harrison Ford’s wife that had been killed in a plane crash was going away with her long time lover for a week end. Harrison had absolutely no idea about the affair and was devastated to find out. He looks back in time in his mind and asks the question “when was the last time something was the truth”?

    I can’t recall the details of the other movie but in one scene one of the leading ladies taking to another about her coming home unexpectedly early one day and finding her husband in the shower with another woman. “What did you do”? Her friend asks. “I slipped out quietly without them noticing and never again went home unexpectedly without phoning first.

    Beachcomber.

    :o

    On the other hand if there is no trust, youre either deceiving yourself or your partner. Get out of there.

    Its like supporting a relationship with oxygene, without it there is no substance what so ever.

    I think that Tippaporn would need a PA to take notes on serious posts, as Tipp most likely is on the worst of emotional rollercoasters.

    Someone else mentioned the problem is not old and yet there is 25 pages of advice.

  2. I can’t really add much to what has already been said.

    I can only raise a question, do you believe in your wife? I don’t mean that you actually “trust” her but when it comes to something like this you have a choice of believing your wife or some stranger.

    If she is “The love of your life” every time you are together and gives you no reason for thinking that you are not the center of her universe – can you live with just that?

    Two movies come to mind. In one Harrison Ford’s wife that had been killed in a plane crash was going away with her long time lover for a week end. Harrison had absolutely no idea about the affair and was devastated to find out. He looks back in time in his mind and asks the question “when was the last time something was the truth”?

    I can’t recall the details of the other movie but in one scene one of the leading ladies taking to another about her coming home unexpectedly early one day and finding her husband in the shower with another woman. “What did you do”? Her friend asks. “I slipped out quietly without them noticing and never again went home unexpectedly without phoning first.

    Beachcomber.

    :o

    On the other hand if there is no trust, youre either deceiving yourself or your partner. Get out of there.

    Its like supporting a relationship with oxygene, without it there is no substance what so ever.

    I think that Tippaporn would need a PA to take notes on serious posts, as Tipp most likely is on the worst of emotional rollercoasters.

    Someone else mentioned the problem is not old and yet there is 25 pages of advice.

  3. "18 hours"

    What was her job by the way.

    Note they met, they did not marry.

    Maybe it was a friend of a business associate

    Maybe at a amusement park

    Maybe in a restaurant

    Maybe on the Skytrain

    Maybe...... you name it

    Does not neccesary have to be the bar

  4. LoveDaBlues

    If she voluntarily told him about losing the 13,000 baht then SURELY she would tell him about the truck being in an accident; don't you think?

    A few years ago I would have agreed with you, then something happened. I used to be married to a lovely English women who would wait patiently for me as I jollied around the world leading tours. She kept our car for work purposes and used to drive it daily.

    I returned home after a 5 month contract in Alaska and walked up the road to the house. The first thing I noticed was that the car was spotless. This was unusual as the car was always filthy whenever I returned, she never used to get it cleaned no matter how long I was away for. This raised my suspicions and so I walked around to the front. The bonnet (hood) was folded up pretty badly from where she had obviously rear ended another vehicle.

    After catching up I casually said "The car looks different"

    "Yes, I had it polished especially for your return"

    "No. I meant that the front of it is damaged"

    "Oh you noticed that did you? I knew you would and now you are going to get angry with me..."

    "I'm not angry. What happened and when?"

    "About 3 months ago a stupid truck driver stopped at a red light and I nudged him"

    "Nudged huh? Have you had any problems driving it since?"

    "Yes, on the motorway the steering wheel wobbles at 70mph"

    "So what did you do?"

    "I found that at about 90mph the wobble stops so I have been driving at that speed"

    At this point I got a little angry. Not because she had damaged the car, these things happen, but because she could never admit any fault of her own and so had endangered her life and others. She hadn't even taken it to the garage to have it checked or made a report so we could claim on our insurance. I took the car to the garage and they said the impact must have been about 30mph and another 5mph faster and the car would have been a write off. The steering was shot, and the wheels were seriously out of line. Both tyres were completely worn and the mechanics reckoned they had another week before they would have blown out at high speed...

    We didn't get divorced over this, but it was one example of many things that she did. Another was sending in my drivers license in for a speeding camera fine when I was in the Middle East. I got my Dad to call them and say that he had sent in the wrong license! She told me that she liked her license to be clean, and that people would think bad of her if not. The list goes on and on.

    So, I feel it is perfectly feasible that Tips wife kept it secret. Especially judging by her feelings of humiliation following the loss of 13k Baht. Perhaps she was hoping that the insurance would cover it and Tip would be none the wiser, unlike my ex who thought a coat of polish would distract me from a crumpled car. That sounds like a thing that some Thai's might do to save face.

    You are bang on about the car being the key though.

    I met my Thai wife in '01 on my first trip to Thailand, precisely 18 hours after my plane touched down.

    This get the warning bells ringing IMHO.

    Tip,

    The above quotes says alot.

    I dont know if you already talked to her and settled everything?

    First, meeting each others after merely 18 hours is taking a chance but since you have been together for 5+ yrs now. Thast would be a better sign.

    Just wonder how long consecutive time period you stayed together.

    You could have been lucky and have met the woman of your life. No one wants to admit that they have done something wrong. You have also mentioned that you go well together and hardly ever had a fight, which means that she is accepting the farang in you and the ways you discuss, communicate with her does not make her feel ackward or intimidated. You can never take away the Thai mentality and ask her to volountarily say what happened with the car. She would not hide it for you if you ever brought it up for discussion, atleast I dont think so. To live a long distance relationship is a trial of enourmous proportions and it takes alot from both parties to make it work. There is a lot of factors, cultural, distance to mention a few but the list goes on. This does not make it easier to keep it alive.

    I dont like to generalize and say that the majority of Thai girls would all be disloyal. With that perception it is no wonder alot of people do split up. Youre always no matter nationality risking to be hurt. If you are treating her with integrity and respect and you met her out of the right reasons and you have a relationship in progress not regress. The chances are good.

    As I mentioned before you ought to talk to her and I would like to stress the importance of doing so in person NOT over the phone.

    I salute you for still having a good attitude and I am sorry that you have found yourself in this situation.

  5. By killing a monkey you will scare the jungle. Maybe this is what they aiming towards, some sort of Scare tactict..Im not sure.

    The increase airport security is very good even if it becomes a tedious process for visitors.

    As for that black list, I just hope that Thais establish their own black list instead of copying blacklists from any agencies. In fear of the increased threats some of these organizations have put innocent people on these list just out of a hunch, a gut fealing.

    No sufficient proof of terrorist connections were presented and and onlya after an extremely long legal process (lasting years) he was cleared.

    I would love to go fast lane through customs but I rather walk into a country in control, a country that is trying to deal with a global pest.

    For a starter when all the technicalities are worked out I am sure that this will apply only for specific countries. I would like to get my hands on reading material and get the full picture.

  6. Not an easy subject. There is a lot going on that is not displayed in public and the true amount of children getting bullied is most likely higher than we can imagine. I am just following the normal way of living around our house, even if I dont see exactly what going on I can sense whats happening. I have even caught my son at times. Its a rough world.

    My daughter and son are both in school at the ages 3 and 7 and they attend Darasamut School in Phuket. I might be very lucky but in both cases my children have no problem with the other kids. In regards to my son he is one of the popular guys. When it come to my daughter she is doing real good and is accepted by all.

    I think however that the age is of importance and at the age of 3 the problems are minor however they increase at the age of 7, where the ugly comes out. Question is if your daughter have been to the school for a long time and therefore have her friends (trust they exist) there and maybe she even prefer to stay put?

    Otherwise have a look around and determine what school would be a good substitute. Hope you find one and that your daughter will be getting a smoother ride in the future.

  7. Last week my SLVR Motorola have had some problems and is starting to live its own life. I will bring it in for service, its only about 6 months old. Anyhow I am in search for a mobile telephone that will be compatible towards macintosh. I am talking about macsoftware for that specific phone..

    I have had a problem finding one, maybe I am just not being understood. Interested of brands, models and places of purchase (Bangkok)

    Thanks

    P

  8. Thai police offer reward for missing British tourist

    BANGKOK: -- Thai police Saturday offered a reward for any sighting - dead or alive - of a British law student who went missing while white-water rafting near the holiday island of Phuket.

    The search for the student Shenaz Kapoor, 22, from Dundee, Scotland, started when she fell in the fast-running water Tuesday at a popular rafting spot, but has been hampered by bad weather.

    The local authorities attempted without much success use a local dam to reduce the water flow so that a thorough search of the river might be possible.

    Kapoor is the second foreign national to have been lost while white-water rafting in Thailand within a week. The body of a Canadian woman was recovered from the Pai River in the north last Monday.

    Kapoor had used part of her year off to work with Tsunami orphans in southern Thailand and was due to start the final year of a law degree at Dundee University in September. The incident happened in the Ton Parawat national park at Pha Ngan.

    A local police spokesman told Thai radio that a 20,000-baht (500 dollars) reward had been offered to encourage local people to keep their eyes open because it was important to the family that they know without doubt the fate of the young woman.

    Her grandfather, Ibrahim Okhai, is the head of the prominent Okhai business family in Dundee. She was a leading figure in her university's Islamic Society.

    Okhai told the local Herald newspaper that the family had not given up hope: 'We gave her some spending money for the trip but she only used a fraction of it and gave the rest away. That's the type of person she is.'

    Robin White, her university course adviser, told the Scotsman that 'Shenaz was not only a gifted student, she was also a very popular figure within the school, and she will be sadly missed by us all at the university.'

    --DPA 2006-08-19

    Yes, a very sad story and unfortunately the way it looks, an unfortunate end to a young person in the prime of their life. :D

    [/b]As an aside though - are the press getting things a little mixed up here? Since when have Shenaz Kapoor and/or Ibrahim Okhai been Scottish names? :o

    McKapoor or MacOkhai maybe ... but ...

    Most likely since they either migrated to Scotland or changed and got Islamic names. Did you read the article. She was a leading figure in her university's Islamic Society.

  9. Arab town in Bangkok

    BANGKOK: -- Thai-based Rajthanee Realty, two Saudi investors and a UAE sheikh are building a $160m "Arab Town" in Bangkok, according to the Bangkok Post. The 2m sqft development will include a hotel, residential and office buildings, general amenities and a mosque.

    Rajthanee chairman Dr Boon Vanasin says more Middle Easterners are moving to Asia, particularly Malaysia, because they felt less welcome in Europe and America due to issues related to terrorism.

    --Agencies 2006-08-17

    Articles regarding issues like this one will always provoke comments like the ones already posted.

    With 2 sheik's from UAE and Saudi(countries used to host foreigners and is quite open for foreigners) are financing the project maybe just maybe they will have major influences??

    I also think that they might already thought of these delicate matters before they initiated the project.

    I think that the muslims in general, in Thailand is really not causing a lot. I do not mean the problem areas in the south. Have not stayed for a long time in Bangkok so I really dont know this but maybe someone can fill me in.

    In general I think it is a good idea....

  10. How long will it take for the this London scene to play out in Bangkok?These Pictures tell it all!

    Muslims have stated that England will be the first country they take over!

    These pictures are of Muslims marching through the streets of London during their recent "Religion of Peace Demonstration."

    These protesters are insane. Just look at the posters!!

    I certainly do not want to be muslim. I do not mind living next door to a muslim. The only thing that they need to do is to accept the laws and rules, unspoken or documented that the NEW country have set for themself and every other one that is VISITING their country. Then they need to respect the diversity of other people, cultures and religions, and adapt to them. No one else is trying to make them convert to another religion.

    Rule the world? Thats a lot of crap.

    Why do they need to rule the world?

    If the people in the world does not share their view its bound to happen again, War, War, War..

    Isnt it better to try to rule themselves first and control the bad elements within this group. It is these people that do all the harm and DESTROYS for all the good muslims.

    It certainly looks as if it is all about power through respect by terror. what is that all about !!!!@@@#

    :o

  11. I'm thinking of getting a new phone soon. I would like a camera that takes decent photos. Maybe 3 million megapixels? Although not as important - I would like one that I can play MP3s on - but I already have an ipod - so it's not vital.

    I'm not bothered about 3g or gprs. I would like one that looks good - I don't like some of the larger Nokias.

    My budget is around 10,000 baht - can anyone think about something suitable?

    Thanks very much!!

    3 million megapixels,, thats a mighty good camera.... :o

    If the camera wasnt such a big deal I can recommend a nice phone, Motorola SLVR. Not sure about the price though.

  12. Yeah I know who is the jerk that started this thread???? He just have to get a headexam

    All threads loose focus after some time, this one did it all too fast.. :o

    Lets be honest, I have not been in for some time and if I am the only one posting, forget it and remove it.

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