Yeah, but this is a know popular phrase to use in this forum. There real problem, is that people who use it, does not seem to understand it´s meaning. To be accused for victim blaming, one must tell that the victim was wrong in what they did and therefore, or deserved, the things happened to her/him. To try and inform of what the victim could have done to avoid, or done after what happened to him/her, can not be filed under victim blaming.