too many people feel entitled to stay in thailand, they use tourist visa exempt entry to stay here long term i.e. they are not tourists. obtain the appropriate visa for your status in the country and you'll have no problems, try to misuse the visa system don't be surprised and/or complain if you do have problems. is this difficult to understand?
regarding female IOs, i've never had any problem, of issue, with any IO, male or female, but then i have the appropriate visa for my entry to, and time in, the country.