I have lived at VT 2B for ten years and while the locked pool door is an irritant, I have never been treated this way. Most of the staff know that I am a resident here. Your circumstances are strange, indeed.
I'm 75 and live with a nice 47-year-old woman who has no connection to the bar scene. She lost her traditional massage job during the pandemic and I took her in. I am no longer interested in the bar scene and visit 7-11 for my beer. She only eats Thai food so feeding her is cheap. She is casually employed babysitting for my landlady (who adores her). She is one of those people who never meets a stranger and is not pressing me for marriage. My situation works pretty well. I had no luck with women back in the USA, but I'm not likely to die alone here in Thailand. Men who stay clean and dress nicely can do fairly well here in Thailand.