Cameroni

Could not agree more. This woman certainly is not a money grabbing person. She has been with me for 11 months and she just does not ask for money. At most 300 Baht for her phone bill, but this girl is not about money and she is certainly not with me because of money. Because I don't give her any anymore.

Stop talking nonsense please, she is not seeing other guys for sex, she lives in the same house with me 24/7. Unless she transports by means unknown to current science and has a body double that lives in my house your theory is total nonsense.

Well she lives with me and does not leave the house, so she is not getting money from anyone else.

I am a kind of pragmatic guy when it comes to relationships. I am over this "love" nonsense, which I find is just a fantasy of the soul. Yes, I've suffered from that a few times, and it seemed real then, but you soon wake up from this fantasy. So yes, now I look at it more as a pragmatic matter. I am just over 50 now and one really has to be a bit more pragmatic now. I am willing to accept some things I may not have accepted when I was 28.

I thought my odds were good because she only had 2 guys. But clearly, in the end, the odds will get you. A few blisters every 8 weeks is no big deal, but I'm really not thrilled about it. The risk is real, don't do what I did. The thing is, these blisters put you out of action for 8 days or so, so the enjoyment of sex is impaired. But if you wear condoms the enjoyment of sex is impaired. I know, it could have been worse, but I'll just have to live with it.

Yes, it's just what incentive would she have to do so, only to please me really. Or, as you said earlier, if she starts to really enjoy cuddling herself. She's had only 2 guys, and overall fairly positive experiences, from what I can tell. Her not wanting cuddling and such is more due to her being raised by an older grandmother, her father dying and her mother being absent. This is what caused it, I'm quite sure. Like OneFarang said earlier I am just wondering if this will be a major problem if she does not change it, or not.

I was thinking exactly the same. I'll get her to finish her law degree and get her out the house to take a job. This constant playing games on the phone is unhealthy and not good for her. Though she was a law student her education needs serious boosting.

Well, the situation has changed, I did raise it with her, that her lack of physical intimacy is not normal and she does make an effort to hug in bed now. I am just wondering if she will change in this regard, or if this will really bother me long term. After all the sex is good. Yes, the photo social media thing is a major annoyance, she is always on the phone playing games, but I don't think I can change that, and whilst annoying it's not a dealbreaker for me.

Only at the very beginning, but even then she never asked for it. I just gave it to her. But I have not done so for 7 months and she still never asks. I said in the thread header that she never asks, and that is the case. No lies at all.

She had a job when I met her, she worked in a factory. I told her come to live with me, and she did. She also studied law at university. I'm guessing she met him on a dating site, but then shacked up with him on an island. It quickly became apparent he was sex obsessed and after he insisted she do a threesome she broke up with him.

Yes, an older woman told me that. I don't think she meant to say she was a prostitute, she was just genuinely wowed by her body, which most people are. She said it first to her, then I asked what she said and she told me. But some of my friends think she is a prostitute because she is just so uber hot and dresses sexy, but she is not and never was.

It's not quite as bad with her, she actually enjoys sex a lot, never grits her teeth but has good orgasms. She's just not into the physical intimacy thing apart from sex. I'm just wondering if I cant get her used to that, or if she'll be like this all her life. She does cuddle me, but it's totally obvious she's not into that.

I actually did before this one, but that girl had a host of other problems and it sadly did not work out. She was terrible at sex btw.

Man, I was not thrilled about it, let me tell ya. That was another thing that really bothered me. But she did not know she had it, and got it from a Ukrainian Farang, so, you know. But yes, I did consider this.

No, she did not, but she did not know she had it, that it was a thing, that it existed. I had to explain it all to her. She really just did not know herself. Many girls have sex without protection in Thailand, Philippines etc, I don't really need an explanation for this.

You are right on two points, we have different love languages, and yes, hers may be gifts and acts of service. And yes, she clearly had a very hard childhood, with her father dying when she was very young, being abandoned by her mother and being raised by her grandmother. So she is a bit broken. The question is, can she be fixed?

I'm telling you, it's true. This girl never asks for money. I've also never experienced this before, and this is one of the reasons I think she may be a keeper.

I would be lying if I didn't say it's because she's so attractive. I have people in the street when we go out come up to me and tell me what a great body she has, she's 168 cm, super slim and very pretty. But it's not just that, she's really easy going, does her thing, let's me do my thing, she's just very user friendly, never fusses with money, she's funny, okay in bed. She seems to have a good character overall. I'm like you though, cuddling, kissing, all this is very important to me, but it's totally unimportant to her. And she knows she's very hot, so she can't walk by a mirror and takes constant photos of herself, she is highly focused on herself. This kind of bothers me. But I don't see it as a dealbreaker yet. Overall I think you're right though, it would be foolish to just look at looks. I just have not found a major in her character, apart from the lack of inclination for physical affection.

Nah, it came from a Ukrainian ex who was heavily into prostitutes, threesomes and such, she threw him out when he insisted she have a threesome. But she also knew he used prostitutes. That's how she got it. She has no tattoos, never worked in a bar, she was a law student and worked in a factory. A good girl.

This is by far the most thoughtful and best reply I've gotten. Thanks a lot. I think it hits the situation on the nail exactly. There is definitely something wrong with her emotional development. She keeps asking me every two weeks "Are you bored with me?" "Do you like me"? Which is so odd. We're living together for almost a year. How could I not like her?

I've never experienced this either. It does exist though, as I found out. I used to give her 2000 Baht per week at the beginning, but since I saw that she sent the money straight to her mother I stopped giving her anything, only the odd 200 or 300 to pay for her mobile phone. I also order some clothes or other gifts on Lazada for her now and then. She basically has all she needs. I told her I lost my job and and can't give her 2000 Baht. This was 7 months ago and not only did she just accept it, she never asked for money and did not leave. She may say I feel like ice cream, then I go get some. But she's really a decent girl, she just got unlucky she hooked up with this debauched Ukrainian.

She was a law student and worked in a factory. But after she moved in with me she did not have to work. I also considered if she does not like me, but bear in mind I have not been asked for money by her. In addition she shows signs of jealousy. After I asked about her past she revealed her father died and she grew up with her grandmother, he mother was mostly absent. So she never experienced physical intimacy from parents. I think her being disinclined to physical affection is due to this.

Okay, so I'm in a relationship with a 24 year old beautiful, slim Thai girl who never asks for money, living together for 11 months now. She is funny and does a good job of communicating, in the bedroom she does okay. Now a couple of things, before me she had 2 relationships, according to her, one with a prostitute using Ukrainian, who gave her genital herpes. Which, though I've never in my life had an STD, I now have as well. Not great. But anyway, it is what is. Now, the odd thing about this girl, she is like an island to herself. What I mean is, all those normal relationship things, watching a movie together, she never does. She literally never sits on the couch with me, she watches her own youtube films on the laptop. She was raised by her grandmother and she never learned being affectionate, these evening cuddles, she doesn't really like that. She kind of does it for me, but you can tell it's just not her thing. One part of me says, this girl is drop dead gorgeous, funny, good in the bedroom and doesn't ask you for money, give this a shot. The other says, her lack of physical affection and "do her own thing" attitude will be serious problems. What do you think is the best course of action here?

Assuming you get a "girl", I went to a famous luxury Spa in CM and I got a 68 year old grandmother. When I protested and asked for another masseuse I got a 58 year old. Cost me 2500 Baht for 2 hours. The massage was good, not great, but it wasn't a "girl" and it was not great value.

I also find it really strange they charge a flat fee to anyone regardless of age. Still tempted to take this one if Axa don't give a good quote.