I don't understand.
What's wrong with living with your wife in Pattaya?
It seems to be one of the best cities to live in in Thailand imo.
Less polluted than Bangkok
Near the sea
Malls, supermarkets, restaurants, hospitals, etc...
I've seen many westerners living there with there wives in peace.
You know, away from the bars and the nightlife in general.
Just living a simple, honest, chilled life.