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  1. UPDATE FROM VIENTIANE 

     

    Yesterday they refused my application and asked for a bank statement [saying that the amount didn't matter], kids' mom id, and mom signature on all copies of ids and tabian baan.

     

    Here's the full list I submitted with their approval:

    . Form, pictures with white background 

    . Passport and passport copies

    . Id copies of all kids and mom *all signed by the mother*

    . Copy of tabian baan for kids and mom *all signed by the mother*

    . Copy of kids birth certificates 

    . Original of kids birth certificates [returned to you] 

    . Bank statement [amount irrelevant, mine was <30k, screenshot from bank website] 

     

    Didn't have to book new appointment : officer said I had 5 days to reapply and I did it the following day. 

     

    Hope this is useful to you guys, good luck ????????

  2. Not sure about how it worked in other SEA countries like Cambodia, Indonesia, etc... but like another poster said, in Thailand there has been a real effort to integrate Chinese migrants into the society. The different kings regularly gave Thai names, titles etc...

    There should be other reasons such as ethnic provenance of the Chinese migrants : China is an ethnic mosaic, and the Chinese nationality refers to a whole lot of completely different cultures...

  3. you guys said something very interesting I want to bounce on for a sec :

    the huge brain resources necessary to play games have been proven to lower Alzheimer's symptoms, and generally speaking keep brains active and healthy.

    Also true for internet use (especially social media).

    I dunno about effects of coding on brain, but since you learn better from a community (forum or else), it can only be good to keep brains sharp.

    Kuddos on your efforts, Desertrat, and greetings to your learning companion :)

  4. I made the transition from teaching to my current job by being in the right place at the right time and going the extra yard for one of my clients. By helping him out without asking for extra money I laid a cornerstone which, 8 months later brought a job offer which quadrupled my salary overnight.

    what job is that ?

    (keep details private if you wish)

  5. my 2 bahts worth of advice comes as this : there are (mostly) 2 possibilities according to what you want.

    You want a serious relationship ?

    - do exactly the same as you would do in Thailand : be yourself, show your qualities, be serious. Just go faster because you won't be in FarangLand for long

    You want to have fun ?

    - have the girls have fun : find out what they like, then invite them for their favorite things (restaurants, cinema, concert, walk...). A few drinks won't hurt. At some point, try contact (take hands, hand over shoulder) and see reaction. If positive, act further (kiss). Repeat until satisfaction, or until you get a very loud NO!.

  6. As was said sign *only* when you agree with the terms of the divorce, as you will lose any opportunity to come back on it later, and also lose your visa.

    According to the marriage contract type you signed, you would be entitled to 50% of marital possessions, may that be land or else.

    Take your time, do *not* rush, consult a lawyer *asap*.

  7. Excellent thread so far, I rarely read past page 1, but here I read the whole thing. Ran out of likes, otherwise I'd share the love...

    My own 2 bahts worth : personally here because of ABC reasons and more. Loved the place, learned a lot from the people both from the sticks or from the city (more chinese culture influenced than westernized btw, though the icing on the cake looks western), learned a lot from their ways to deal with things.

    Living here sure is a culture shock, and rightfully so : who would cross half the planet to find the same thing than back home ? That culture shock has rocked my beliefs, my thoughts, my behaviors, my self. Altogether, after that great shake-up, I feel I am a better man now than I was when I set foot here for the first time 12 yrs ago. Kudos to this place for giving anyone another chance at life, with big smiles on top of it !

    Take that chance if you need it, ignore it if you don't. Please, just don't spit in the soup if it's not to your taste !

    **

    After 12 yrs, I'm still challenged with the culture shock, though I work with thais only, speak thai with them, and globally understand their ways. My experience with them is that though we have every aspiration of life in common, like mentioned by some poster above (secure food, shelter, heal kids when sick, try to have fun when we can...), the ways we try to fulfill these objective are quite different (culture), and thus it's very hard to find common affinities.

    My attitude as of now is to limit interactions to the minimum, as it seems to avoid most misunderstandings.

    **

    I now find myself in a spot where I believe it'd be quite beneficial for me to leave the place for some time and try my luck somewhere else, but no can do : I spent my time here building a family, and our 2 adorable kids need a daddy. They also need someone to provide them with tools to grow in this fascinating world. Missus won't do that, though I have to admit she does her best, her tools wouldn't get the kids very far.

    I am not separated from the missus though we have reached a dead end. I don't know whether we'll be able to go over that, and am beginning to think that we won't. Now, if we do separate (and I can still see my kids, nothing guaranteed here), how do you secure something for them ?

    I really feel for you, MJP, because you *did* what is right, and that has gone bye bye. Here you hit the right questions for any foreigner caring for their kid's future :

    Been split for five years now.

    It's a problem for many is this.

    How to secure a future for children here if something happens to you and how to take care of them when you simply cannot be there (most of us have to work).

    That asset was kept as an insurance policy if I died prematurely and as a nest egg for when they were older.

    In the meantime, as many others will have experienced, trying to be your own child support agency from a far away land requires the trust and cooperation of people here. This too can be troublesome as I'm sure others will testify.

    I unfortunately have no answer to offer, but looking as well...

    I won't elaborate much on my situation, let it just be said that MIL has done everything in her power from day 1 to be a &lt;deleted&gt;, and it seems like she's holding the winning hand. In my situation, FIL always great guy : poor lad has to *live* with MIL !

    How many Farangs and their Thai-Wifes could lead a peaceful life in Thailand if it wasn't for "The Nest of Snakes". = The Thai-Family.

    Even with the best of intentions, the Thai-Wife can not extricate herself from the powerful influence of "the family", especially father and mother unless risking loss of face, social standing and everything in between.

    The wording above is excessive, and would most likely be true the other way around in the west : I know personally 2 girls and 1 guy who married arabian/black just to piss-off their parents ! You can imagine the parents attitudes with their in-laws...

    Lets put it this way : if your wife asked you to forsake your family *forever* for her, would you do it ? Would you want to have to *choose* between your very own family and a spouse ???

    **

    Anyway, this post is not quite flowing the way I expected, my brain must have melted here somehow, probably due to excessive exposure to chili and sun !

    Midnight is getting closer, let me just wish you a happy new year 2014, may it be the best of the best !

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  8. The brand name is Merit Food Products, and it's just sound fishy that someone will go from 60 ton

    a year yield to 3,000 tons in a matter of few years and from the same size land,

    I'd guess there could be a misunderstanding somewhere between the source and the article writer. Mistranslation, 'bad reporting' ?

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