Relationship advice

[StJunker]

Hello guys, i want to ask your advice..
I had meetings with thai girl few months already.
Few days ago we decided to live together, in my room in Pattaya, she resigned from work and moved to Pattaya, she worked in the insurance company in Bangkok...
Now she doesn't have to work, i will pay for everything plus will give her 10,000 baht per month.
At the first day when she moved in, a bit later after breakfast she ran away hang out with her thai friend girl(?) in restaurant and skybar, came back at 1 a.m. after I asked her to come back.
I was waiting her whole day in my room, had a lot of work to do. She left room totally messy, even didn't clean the table after breakfast etc.
She is 27 years old, i'm 35. I live in Thailand many years, had many thai girls, but never happened something like this.
What you will do in the same situation?

Edited December 19, 2018 by StJunker

[grollies]

I think I know the way comments are going to go....dump her.

 

Good luck anyway.

[Anythingleft?]

That key moment when the hooks have been set, all bets are off and it will not end well... shape up or ship out, only two options.....

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[CharlieH]

Honestly, after that story.I am surprised you even need to ask !

 

"My way or the highway".

"Change your attitude or your address" those are her choices.????

[NCC1701A]

_{wait until I get some popcorn. ok go.}

[NCC1701A]

46 minutes ago, StJunker said:

she worked in the insurance company in Bangkok...

doing what? has she ever been to Pattaya before? Where is she from in Thailand? Does she have a baby? Has she ever worked in a bar?

 

46 minutes ago, StJunker said:

She left room totally messy, even didn't clean the table after breakfast etc.

rare for me to have a Thai woman in my house who does not leave it cleaner than it was before she got there.

even bar girls clean up the kitchen in the morning.  

 

46 minutes ago, StJunker said:

she ran away hang out with her thai friend girl(?) in restaurant and skybar, came back at 1 a.m. after I asked her to come back.

leaves you alone in Pattaya? most Thai women put you on a leash and you can't get away from them. she does not care about you.

 

46 minutes ago, StJunker said:

What you will do in the same situation?

there are thousands of beautiful and really wonderful girls in Thailand. I am very nice but I have a zero tolerance for personality mismatches. Sometimes it takes a while for issues to pop up. So out the door she goes. 

 

Edited December 19, 2018 by NCC1701A

[mauGR1]

She looks like a girl everyone would dream to get married with

[MaksimMislavsky]

1 hour ago, StJunker said:

She left room totally messy, even didn't clean the table after breakfast etc.

Very bad sign. Given the rest facts you've provided, this relationship is very unlikely to develop into anything good.

[mogandave]

If she lived and worked in Bangkok, how is it she has friends in Pattaya?

Out until 1am? Change the locks.

[Hummin]

25 minutes ago, mogandave said:

If she lived and worked in Bangkok, how is it she has friends in Pattaya?

Out until 1am? Change the locks.

Everybody have a friend in Pattaya ????

[Hummin]

One more of these TV clickbaits,,,,,,,,,,

[shadowofacloud]

Please, don't feed a most obvious troll.

[mogandave]

Please, don't feed a most obvious troll.

Why?

[mauGR1]

35 minutes ago, shadowofacloud said:

Please, don't feed a most obvious troll.

I'm against starvation of sentient beings, let's feed him with troll food,i say

[StJunker]

I don't have any bad feelings about thai people, my friends have thai wives and have very good relationships.

I like Thailand and thai people, i just want your advice in this situation...

 

[mogandave]

I don't have any bad feelings about thai people, my friends have thai wives and have very good relationships.

I like Thailand and thai people, i just want your advice in this situation...

 

 

How did you hear about the forum?

 

Have you really only been a member 3 hours?

 

Where is your girlfriend tonight?

[scorecard]

19 minutes ago, StJunker said:

I don't have any bad feelings about thai people, my friends have thai wives and have very good relationships.

I like Thailand and thai people, i just want your advice in this situation...

 

 

Perhaps it's not her that's the problem.

 

Perhaps it's you, and you mentioned you've had many girl girls before.... 

 

 

[Hummin]

23 minutes ago, StJunker said:

I don't have any bad feelings about thai people, my friends have thai wives and have very good relationships.

I like Thailand and thai people, i just want your advice in this situation...

 

If I had to call my gf home after midnight, my dirty underwear from yesterday was still on the bathroom floor, and I was starving, I would go out to closest bar and find a new one. Many dedicated and good girls just waiting for a chance to be a good woman, for any man who take her out.  No need to sit up and wait!

Edited December 19, 2018 by Hummin

[alex8912]

39 minutes ago, StJunker said:

I don't have any bad feelings about thai people, my friends have thai wives and have very good relationships.

I like Thailand and thai people, i just want your advice in this situation...

 

When you step on the scale is it a high number?? If it is then she is a keeper and you should give her two more chances. 

[StJunker]

31 minutes ago, mogandave said:

 

How did you hear about the forum?

I think everybody who live in Thailand know about this forum

 

31 minutes ago, mogandave said:

 

Have you really only been a member 3 hours?

Yes, cuz mostly i'm reader, not writer. I read this forum quite often.

 

31 minutes ago, mogandave said:

 

Where is your girlfriend tonight?

Somewhere... I pushed her away... I just wanted to be sure i made right decision...

[mogandave]

Somewhere... I pushed her away... I just wanted to be sure i made right decision...

Wear you cum from?

[SteveK]

I say don't dump her.

 

Put up with her personality "quirks", give her loads of money, and see how things go. People learn lessons better themselves despite being told 1000x from others more knowledgeable than them.

 

When the train wreck finally happens, if you are still alive and not buried in a rice paddy, learn your lesson, move on, and get a good job to earn back all the money you have lost.

 

And doctors these days can make good prosthetic penises using skin from your back and thighs, so you should be OK long term.

Edited December 19, 2018 by pr9spk

[YogaVeg]

"I live in Thailand many years, had many thai girls, but never happened something like this." StJunker

 

Many years in Thailand, many Thai girlfriends, and day 1 on TV for relationship 101, is it?

Ok got it.

 

You clearly need to get her attention. Neither 10,000 baht and all expenses paid, nor your personal charm, seems to be cutting it.

Buy the family a water buffalo. Nothing says 'i love you' more than a brand new water buffalo. 

[BritManToo]

Shortly after I married a Thai lady she went out with her female friends and didn't arrive back until 4am.

But I'd already put all her clothes in bin bags outside the door for her and locked all the doors and windows.

 

Found her sleeping on the doorstep next morning, there was a bit of drama when I unlocked the door, but she didn't do it again.

 

I also learned from the experience, now when I pay a woman a wage to live with me, I specify their working hours are all the dark ones. If they aren't with me after dark, their employment is terminated.

I don't care what they do in the day, glad to be rid of them in the daylight.

Edited December 19, 2018 by BritManToo

[catman20]

10 hours ago, grollies said:

I think I know the way comments are going to go....dump her.

 

Good luck anyway.

yellow card, if no change follow up with a red card. ????

[Thaimike370]

Kick her arse straight out, then try growing a brain, wake up <deleted>.  Are you completely stupid after living here for several years?

[catman20]

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Shortly after I married a Thai lady she went out with her female friends and didn't arrive back until 4am.

But I'd already put all her clothes in bin bags outside the door for her and locked all the doors and windows.

 

Found her sleeping on the doorstep next morning, there was a bit of drama when I unlocked the door, but she didn't do it again.

 

I also learned from the experience, now when I pay a woman a wage to live with me, I specify their working hours are all the dark ones. If they aren't with me after dark, their employment is terminated.

I don't care what they do in the day, glad to be rid of them in the daylight.

Shortly after I married a Thai lady she went out with her female friends and didn't arrive back until 4am.

But I'd already put all her clothes in bin bags outside the door for her and locked all the doors and windows.

 

 

made me think of a situation i found myself in about 6 years ago.

 

started living with this Thai girl, 3 months into it we had a bit of an argument about 9pm one night she stormed off out of my house and never came back for 2 nights on her return all her bags were packed and i through her out also.

 

its the only way as i know if i did not do that that sort of thing would of continued, its almost like she was testing me to see who was the boss.

 

seen this sort of thing happen to many farangs here and they put up with that crap. i wasn't going to be one of them.

[kingstonkid]

 

[Destiny1990]

How is she in bed?

[catman20]

6 hours ago, mogandave said:

Somewhere... I pushed her away... I just wanted to be sure i made right decision...

 

 

u pushed her away ? or you man up and dumped her ?

Edited December 20, 2018 by catman20