Growing Old

[peter991]

The other day a young person asked me how I felt about being old. I was taken aback, for I do not think of myself as old. Upon seeing my reaction, she was immediately embarrassed, but I explained that it was an interesting question, and I would ponder it, and let her know.

Old Age, I decided, is a gift.

I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometime despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken aback by that old person that lives in my mirror (who looks like my mother!), but I don't agonize over those things for long.

I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant. I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 a.m. and sleep until noon?

I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 50's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ... I will.

I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set.

They, too, will get old.

I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when a beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turn gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day.

Peter

[suegha]

This is exceptional, I love it!

[Jet Gorgon]

Thanks, Peter! That's me. 5555

[macb]

Well that is a wonderful writing but I cant compete with that very good Peter:

I did find this link its a poem attributed to old age (Humerous I might add, I have to put the link because of copy-write

http://www.funnypoets.com/poetry/seniormoment.htm

My thought: My mum is now 86 yrs old lives on her own with various ailments but still cleans and manages to cook her meals, she likes her independance I ring her once a week sometimes more I shop for her on-line from mt THailand address and it is delivered to her when I want.

Age is all in the mind thats my philosophy, if you going to sit and think I am 57 now so I need to act like it then its a mistake, yes the body ages but the mind does not have to, and I am sure the body will react to how your mind thinks.

Think 57 body 57

Think 30 body 30

Think healthy body healthy

Well may sound stupid but my thoughts

[Jet Gorgon]

Totally agree, Macb. I'm older but wouldn't change the brain for a younger model.

[Crow Boy]

Totally agree, Macb. I'm older but wouldn't change the brain for a younger model.

In the words of the great Groucho Marx "a man is only as old as the woman he feels"