Should I help?

On 6/20/2020 at 7:20 PM, BangkokReady said:

But it isn't a loan.  It's a gift and is being requested to assist in education.  It seems reasonable to make it conditional (since the justification is that it is for education and presumably a better future) upon the child genuinely making an effort, otherwise the gift is squandered and they may as well not pay.

 

"Please, it's for her future!!!"

 

**student proceeds to perform badly and squander opportunity**

 

"Gee, I'm so glad I spent my money on securing a good future for her."

Why the assumption of so many negatives?

If my son (at high school / at uni) asked for some additional funds with some brief explanation which he always had ready to show me, I always responded 'OK are you sure that's enough Baht?' And transferred the money to his bankbook. 

I never say this money as a loan, I saw it as the support I am responsible to give you and that he is entitled to.

I never ever suspected any 'games', If I did I would have carefully commented 'how come xxx' but I never had to do that.