I know a 14 yr old thai girl who was recently pregnant and had an abortion.

[BangkokReady]

1 hour ago, Liverpool Lou said:

Looks as though it is you fulfilling that well-researched role!

 

There's an odd group that pop up whenever "consensual" sex with an underage adolescent comes up.  They get really angry and quite forcefully declare that the person has to be called a paedophile.  They seem to desperately need the person to have the label of someone who basically rapes babies and children attached to them.

 

It seems like they have a weird obsession with the whole thing...  🤔

[ubonr1971]

10 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

Imagine not being able to afford a free education system.  Or was it that the mom was off her face at 3am and didn't take her kid to school? 

EP programs in govt schools are not free shirlock. Around 20k to 25k every 6 months. 

[ubonr1971]

10 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

It seems like they have a weird obsession with the whole thing...  🤔

Its called a normal educated responsible attitude

[BangkokReady]

3 hours ago, ubonr1971 said:

Its called a normal educated responsible attitude

 

Getting angry and demanding that people who arent paedophiles be called as such is normal, educated and responsible? How so?

[Jonathan Swift]

On 12/1/2024 at 9:21 PM, NickyLouie said:

How about this; mind ur own f business in TH

How about this: I admire his compassion, values, and unselfishness, of which you apparently have none. You don't have to be like him, but the moral vacuum behind your crude comment is particularly reprehensible. 

[Jonathan Swift]

On 12/1/2024 at 9:11 PM, ubonr1971 said:

It wasn't me. 

 

We run a small business, and years ago, the mother (AAA) of the child (BBB) who recently got pregnant-  used to work for us. She was a nice kid who played with our child. She quit after a few yrs but 2 yrs ago came back to ask me for a loan to pay BBB's school fees at the EP program of a govt school. I said to her she can work it off by coming back part time in the evenings and doing cleaning. She accepted the offer and I remember saying to her that she should make BBB come here and do her homework. It never really happened. She just let the girl stay at home alone. She is a single mum. They divorced a long time ago. Father is an alcoholic with no contact. 

 

To describe AAA:

- Nice person but simple with low IQ

- Earlier this year she asked me for more money. She hadnt paid her moped finance. 3 months behind. She stupidly did finance on a 55k moped and total loan was 133k or something like that. 

- We were going away for a holiday and I offered her fresh fruit and vege from our fridge. No thanks she said. 'We only eat meals from 7 11

- Recently AAA decided to come work full time with us again. The deal was I would clear the loan 25k to zero. Pay her 20k a month plus OT. She quit after 3 weeks and now back to doing low paid market job and coming back working for us part time paying off the debt. She is financially irresponsible and stupid. We have a very happy work environment with 6 staff. Its all a good laugh and vibe and busy business. Unsure why she quit. 

- Several months ago AAA told us that her daughter was screaming and fighting with her at the village room where they stay. The landlord said no more noise or they are both out. 

 

BBB:

- Obviously had no father

- Hopeless mother who is not strong with discipline

- Overweight with her ultra processed food diet

- After the screaming incident above AAA asked my wife and I to talk to her. I told her that if she is a good girl and studies hard I would pay for her school fees for free and send her to university as well. I said no boyfriends though until she is older. We later found out that she was already having sex with the 27 yr old thai guy (boyfriend) at the time of that meeting.

 

My wife and I found out she was pregnant via one of our staff members whose friend knows the 27 yr old. I sent some assertive messages to AAA stating my disapproval and that its illegal and the guy should go to prison. AAA doesnt talk to me now when she comes back to work part time.

 

My wife said stay out of it and dont report anything to the police. The guy or his family could come after me. The wife said to me that I should not intervene in anyone else's problems

 

In a western country I would not hesitate to go to the police and report this. But here I think its too dangerous. Its weak of me I know but I have to think about my safety and my family's well being. 

 

The abortion was done at the big local govt hospital. The dr's said she is too young to keep it. 

 

I feel that, in the future, this girl might end up in soi 6 pattaya one day whilst AAA looks after the next baby. 

 

Another depressing day in Thailand. The 27 yr old pedo will get away with it. 

 

 

 

 

You are to be admired, it's a sad story. At least you tried, and more people should do so before they write off a troubled individual. I've had similar experiences where I've tried but found the person to be incorrigible, including my brother and his son, who both died in succession of overdoses at about the same age. I've also had some startling successes that I never knew about until they told me years later how I'd helped. My philosophy was that sometimes all a person needs is a bit of a push in the right direction to make a difference if they're teetering at a precipice. Are you sure there isn't a process that would protect your identity?

Edited yesterday at 05:15 AM by Jonathan Swift

[BangkokReady]

7 hours ago, Jonathan Swift said:

How about this: I admire his compassion, values, and unselfishness, of which you apparently have none. You don't have to be like him, but the moral vacuum behind your crude comment is particularly reprehensible. 

 

I think you're missing the point.  This kind of thing is not uncommon in Thailand, and it's unlikely that the people even want to change, let lone have the willingness to put in the effort.

 

You're likely approaching things from a very Western-centric viewpoint (as it the OP), where you think that the woman and girl are victims of "the system", when really, they are products of it.

 

How can you save someone who is perfectly happy with how things are, and doesn't even view themselves as needing saving?

 

You cannot "assimilate" someone into Western thinking where suddenly they will become uninterested in dating an adult, completely change their attitude to education, and realign their life-goals with Western ones.  You would need some form of brainwashing.

[ubonr1971]

40 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

How can you save someone who is perfectly happy with how things are, and doesn't even view themselves as needing saving?

 

you are a creep it seems. do you think the 14 yr old is perfectly happy? Read my post again. she is screaming in the presence of her mother at their room. the landlord has given a warning. 

 

Please think before you write bs

[Captain Flack]

A troll post has been removed.

[BangkokReady]

2 minutes ago, ubonr1971 said:

you are a creep it seems. do you think the 14 yr old is perfectly happy? Read my post again. she is screaming in the presence of her mother at their room. the landlord has given a warning. 

 

You know nothing about people.  The girl probably has no desire to change her situation.  Screaming arguments are probably fairly default for them.

 

2 minutes ago, ubonr1971 said:

Please think before you write bs

 

I don't write BS.  What I write is sensible and well thought out.  You simply don't like it because it highlights your errors.

 

I'm not saying you never could have helped, but at this point it's very unlikely that you can change anything.  Unless you were family or some sort of state authority, who could remove her from the situation and force her to change, but still the damage is really already done.

 

I commend the fact that you care and would like to help, that's admirable, but the fact that you attack people who point out the truth to you simply because you don't like it, is a lot less praiseworthy.

[Patong2021]

On 12/1/2024 at 3:27 PM, scubascuba3 said:

BBB will definitely end up in Pattaya and so it continues

 

Not likely.

Read the description. Overweight with her ultra processed food diet

Unless there is a fetish venue  in Pattaya for fatsos, she won't be flaunting her wares. I am anticipating domestic  violence casualty or drug dealing, e.g. drug mule.

Or maybe a tiktok influencer........

 

[scubascuba3]

4 hours ago, Patong2021 said:

 

Not likely.

Read the description. Overweight with her ultra processed food diet

Unless there is a fetish venue  in Pattaya for fatsos, she won't be flaunting her wares. I am anticipating domestic  violence casualty or drug dealing, e.g. drug mule.

Or maybe a tiktok influencer........

 

You haven't been in the bars recently? fatsos everywhere 

[Patong2021]

4 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

You haven't been in the bars recently? fatsos everywhere 

 

That's depressing. 

In Hua Hin,   it's  like a second career for elderly hookers. Maybe it's the hard living of drinking and smoking and late hours, but they don't age well. Lucky for them the customers are even older and don't see well in the dark.