How Can I Track Down A Person In Thailand?

[little_muppet]

Listen mate, you dont have to worry if she disappear, but if she really disappear and in serious issue watever her family would make a reccord to police station within 24 hr already. u told that she also told u about her current boyfriend...maybe she is just decided not to contact u anymore because her bf ask to? dont u think? as if she is ur EX now and she got new partner than u should 1 step back... as to respect ur ex gf choice of life.

As if u sent her e-mail and she did not response than it her choice not to contact u, but surely if her family or relatives didnt make a record to police station as she is an absence person (it written in thai law tho) than u can be sure she is not die yet, but just want some more distance from you.

Think about it.

Peace...

LMP

[bina]

thai males really really really dont like it when their wife/girlfriend continues in any form of relationship with anyone that can be construed as 'past bf/husband'...

numbers have to be wiped out of cellphones, photos put away, etc etc....

its a real no no...

bina

[seonai]

Good on ya Bina ...

[jayjayjayjay]

Guess I wasn't so clear about things. We seperated a long time ago, over a year, and I already saw her since - this should have been the second time. And she already had one serious boyfriend since, and she did tell me about that, though not really enthusiastically, and only after I asked her. And that was it as far as love was concerned, now it's just friendship. That's why I find things so strange - last time she was happy to see me and willing (though not happily) to tell me that she had someone else. And this time - a complete silence...

Exactly as my last post predicted, looks like your capable of reasonable communication.... Use this to find a new friend and hopefully girlfriend who will lcare for you. Her telling you "reluctantly or not" that she has a new man is irrelivant. She does not want you! Accept it and move on.

How does that old cliche go, "theres plenty of fish in the sea" and thank goodness Thailand is the easiest country in the world to meet girls in. So don't waste your time any longer, go and find new girl, throw away all contact with this old one, phone number, pictures, delete all emails and email contacts, the ID card you said you have(really make an issue off it, burn the bloody stuff, have your own cerimony, rejoice in the fact), and start a new day by talking to a dozen girls "today". Chances are that one of these girls will take your fancy and she might just be the new Miss right for you. Most here get hardened to these types of scenerios, for me, I just hope the best for you but the whining hoping for a reconciliation with this girls it a TOTAL WASTE of TIME.......... go hunting cheif, and enjoy the search and I hope your heart will mend.......

[Erap]

Thanx Jay, with every day that passes this is beginning to look like the most sensible option...

[britmaveric]

Well mate - balls in her court now. Just enjoy yourself.

[MrSquigle]

Where were all the 'leave him alone' type characters in another MIA thread ???? huh ?? huh ???

[mikethevigoman]

Thanx guys. No, she was not a prostitute, but a waitress, and for the 3 months I knew her I didn't pay her a dime (excluding food and drinks - but I guess that's what you pay when going out with any Thai girl). And no, she had the same phone number for about a year, I was calling her from abroad without any problems until 3 weeks ago.

I went to her last working place in Bangkok, but she left it a few months ago to go back and live with her parents in Saraburi. While in Bangkok she was living with her relatives, but I don't have the address or phone number for either place (I do have her ID number though). One month ago she stopped in Bangkok on the way to the South. And for the last week or two - no contact, not with me or any of her friends.

Sit down and relax sounds like a good idea, the problem is that I am seriously getting worried. She has no reason to be afraid of me, I made my intensions quite clear, and I'm sure she understood. Is shutting down the mobile phone and not writing E-mails a typical Thai reaction? The thought that she doesn't want me to find her naturally did cross my mind, but wouldn't it have been more simple just to send an E-mail and say "I need to be alone for a while, don't contact me anymore" or something like that? Again, she knows I would respect any decisions that she makes.

So is there any way to continue? Or should I abandon the whole thing?

I would say there lies the problem ! "and for the 3 months I knew her I didn't pay her a dime" Edited January 18, 2008 by mikethevigoman

[LaoPo]

I really enjoy the love/like/hate Heng undercurrent that surfaces from time to time.

I saved 2 people and almost drowned myself during an extremely strong undercurrent on Samui once...true!

I was saved by a nice Thai young man on honeymoon, also true; was it you ?

Full Moon Heng...full moon...

LaoPo

[Briggsy]

So your guess is that this is just typical Thai behaviour? Sounds strange a westerner - to change the phone number, E-mail address, Facebook account and blog page, and advise all of her friends in Bangkok to lie, just because the X is coming to Thailand for a few weeks! Would have been more simple just to send an E-mail and say "I do not wish to see you", but go figure...

The trouble with "I don't want to see you," is it immediately becomes a negotiation. "Oh you do really," "I don't believe that," "Why not?," "But I really like you," etc. The awkwardness of the situation is compounded if the person being rejected has the more assertive personality. It can go very badly if the rejected person has serious emotional instability. In many situations just avoiding that person and hoping they get the message is a better option.

[tattoodrob]

Tattoodrob: "also dont forget these girls break or lose there phones more often than the average bear!!!!"

Do average bears have phones?

thai bears.........yes

[Livinginexile]

Thanx guys. No, she was not a prostitute, but a waitress, and for the 3 months I knew her I didn't pay her a dime (excluding food and drinks - but I guess that's what you pay when going out with any Thai girl). And no, she had the same phone number for about a year, I was calling her from abroad without any problems until 3 weeks ago.

I went to her last working place in Bangkok, but she left it a few months ago to go back and live with her parents in Saraburi. While in Bangkok she was living with her relatives, but I don't have the address or phone number for either place (I do have her ID number though). One month ago she stopped in Bangkok on the way to the South. And for the last week or two - no contact, not with me or any of her friends.

Sit down and relax sounds like a good idea, the problem is that I am seriously getting worried. She has no reason to be afraid of me, I made my intensions quite clear, and I'm sure she understood. Is shutting down the mobile phone and not writing E-mails a typical Thai reaction? The thought that she doesn't want me to find her naturally did cross my mind, but wouldn't it have been more simple just to send an E-mail and say "I need to be alone for a while, don't contact me anymore" or something like that? Again, she knows I would respect any decisions that she makes.

So is there any way to continue? Or should I abandon the whole thing?

Ohhh we have another one

She's just a good friend huh? If she is JUST a friend mate she is sending you a clear message....LEAVE ME ALONE!!

Wake up and smell the roses dude.

Leave her alone

[Livinginexile]

Thanx guys. No, she was not a prostitute, but a waitress, and for the 3 months I knew her I didn't pay her a dime (excluding food and drinks - but I guess that's what you pay when going out with any Thai girl). And no, she had the same phone number for about a year, I was calling her from abroad without any problems until 3 weeks ago.

I went to her last working place in Bangkok, but she left it a few months ago to go back and live with her parents in Saraburi. While in Bangkok she was living with her relatives, but I don't have the address or phone number for either place (I do have her ID number though). One month ago she stopped in Bangkok on the way to the South. And for the last week or two - no contact, not with me or any of her friends.

Sit down and relax sounds like a good idea, the problem is that I am seriously getting worried. She has no reason to be afraid of me, I made my intensions quite clear, and I'm sure she understood. Is shutting down the mobile phone and not writing E-mails a typical Thai reaction? The thought that she doesn't want me to find her naturally did cross my mind, but wouldn't it have been more simple just to send an E-mail and say "I need to be alone for a while, don't contact me anymore" or something like that? Again, she knows I would respect any decisions that she makes.

So is there any way to continue? Or should I abandon the whole thing?

She's told her friends to tell you nothing....

Stalkers allways have the same excuses.

You read about their pleas in the papers after a court of law has convicted them and they are being dragged away to prison.

"I was only worried about them"..."I was just trying to look after her"....I thought we were friends"...etc etc

The poor girl is probably terrified.

Leave her alone