Do Locals Bore You?

[xsplat]

I’m irrascible today. Snappy and foul. I stink up the place with edges and tight corners and forgotten peeves. Mostly I miss western style conversation.<br /><br />Thankfully, I can fall back on habits strong enough to reel back in the friends I alienate. “You type so fast - you must be a great secretary.” The habits are strong enough that my heart feels real appreciation. I force out many socially required good graces, as I grit my teet in expectation of MY societies good graces. Edge. Discourse. <br /><br />My social needs can be met in Asia as easily as Cinderella’s romantic urges can be met by her husband 5 years and 3 babies after her social climax.<br /><br />It gets on you, as is wears you. Until you wake up on edge with the frustration of boredom; the lack of discourse-moisture making your skin itch and crack.<br /><br />Just go ahead and try, within the local expections, with heat shields and clouds and puffy cushions and air bags to decelerate the impact, just try to begin to explain cultural differences, and the locals will reach for their flags to fend off the devil. <br /><br />Asians are indirect, obtuse, obfuscating. They can not tolerate a question about their personal being. They don’t have a personal being, and would rather not feed such a perverse growth. They have concerns about propriety, culture, fitting in, debts to family, obligations, face, and status.<br /><br />It is impossible to have a western style conversation with an Asian enculturated person - never the twain shall meet.<br />…<br />And yet here is where western women are who I can’t talk to. About why Asian women have their own very specific super power. Here is where western women are too heady to want to even approach the issue. They believe that the word “shallow” holds more weight than the word “sexy”.<br /><br />There are many things western women would prefer to defend against, to deflect, to reflect outwards into someone else’s sin. What is the word for that? To project. There are many internal problems of western culture that western women raise their flags against, to fend off the devil.<br /><br />“Asians are so petite and short, and men who go to Asia are so big and fat and bald. Asians are so poor, and men who go to Asia are so deluded about how important money is to those girls.” <br />It’s a litany against the indistinct values of western women. <br/><br?>Yes, petite is sexy. Whose problem is that? Who invented that? Oops, my bad! I like petite.<br />Yes, women like power and money. Who invented that? Asian women? <br /><br />Western women pretend that the give and take involved in seduction is somehow supposed to be focused on something that has no physical basis. As if that is somehow more real.

Edited February 16, 2008 by xsplat

[Boo]

seems to be no point to this thread, certainly nothing to do with locals boring the op, more like the op wanting so start some silly gender issue. Not gonna happen. OP, if you have problems with western women then be grateful you are in thailand & be done with it rather than getting your pants in a knot.