gerryBScot Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Hi folks I am just about to take my wife to the hospital in Ratchaburi and later this afternoon our son will come into this world, my first child. I would be very surprised if I was unique in having my first kid at this age and am sure there are a number of guys out there who were late starters. Any advice or suggestions from your experience? Many thanks. Will be back afk for the next several hours. Once more many thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tingnongnoi Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 congratulations Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bonobo Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Let me also offer my congratulations (with a touch of envy, as well.) I am 51, and my ex was unable to have children. So if I find a suitable match, I hope I will be joining you as an older first-time father. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skipvice Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 congratulations Gerry, I guess you will not be playing Golf any time soon then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiangmaibruce Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Well it's too late to suggest you get some sleep. Then again your Mrs will probably stay in the hospital for the next night or two, so you may have a chance. After that, unless you are one of the very lucky ones, you can forget about a good night's sleep for about the next two years. As a semi-centurion (or whatever the correct term is) this may knock you around a bit and could accelerate the hair greying process. Still a rather small price to pay in the overall scheme of things. Congratulations - well done Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueSmurf Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Yes! Congrates to you both..I had a son with my wife who is now 5( no not my wife!lol)when I was 45.have had 2 before so yes knew what to expect..Have found that the THAIS LOVE TO SEE children from mixed marriages and maybe your son will be a soap star here one day!!!!My wife and most thais in a settled relationship are great mums..You of course should have the money now ( i take it you are retired or part retired?) to enjoy your child to the full. Having quality time to spend together..No pressures of worrying where the next buck is coming from..Have another as soon as you can maybe when the first is 9 months old so there is about a 2 year gap..They will grow uo together and be close... We are still trying for our 2nd but my other sons from the uk although 22 and 20 love their youger brother to bits! They come out regularly and we go back as well... Get used to your son sleeping in the same room for ever! Ours still does.I was against it but feel its ok now..Only have to put the air-con on in one room and mum can here him if he wakes ...Its a great feeling being a new dad so enjoy it! Dave Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
webfact Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Congratulations! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IanForbes Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Congratulations. You've just taken the giant step into a new dimension. I hope you are ready for it. It will change your life for the better if you let it. Remember now that nothing else matters except raising your child properly and giving it as many opportunities as it's possible to have. In effect you give your personal life in exchange for that of your child. The more you put into the raising of the child now the more benefits you'll receive later as the child grows up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
davyboy Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Congratulations and the best of luck to you DADDY! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThaiBasil Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Congratulations! Prepare for the sleepless nights Prepare for the endless attention the little one needs (I am still surprised how a little baby can make all the adults around him soooooo tired sometimes and than wakes up happily if nothing ever happened again at 6:00, lol) Prepare to learn some Thai culture stuff involving babies (such as it is not good to show the baby itself in the mirror, can't walk beyond your own property with the baby after dark as it is not protected anymore by the small house "shrine" (forgot the word in thai, the small temple protecting your property and house from spirits etc.) and many more like these .... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnieLim Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 I am really happy for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zzdocxx Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Hey you are my new hero! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
offset Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Congratulations! Make the most of it I have so far I had my first baby 5 months ago I am 64 yes it is a life changer but for me it is so much for the better I now feel like you 50 years old Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swain Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 47 when my first born was brought into this world. My wife wants one more. I am happy with one. She is the light of my life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neeranam Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Well it's too late to suggest you get some sleep. Then again your Mrs will probably stay in the hospital for the next night or two, so you may have a chance. After that, unless you are one of the very lucky ones, you can forget about a good night's sleep for about the next two years. As a semi-centurion (or whatever the correct term is) this may knock you around a bit and could accelerate the hair greying process. Still a rather small price to pay in the overall scheme of things. Congratulations - well done Congratulations, although I complain about my kids now, they are the best thing to ever happen to me. Enjoy the birth, it's a truly wonderful event. When my firt was born, I was 37 and people said I looked 32. Now I'm 43 and people say I look 45. Aged 13 years in 6 years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bobsyouruncle Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Congratulations! 0-2.5 is easy, then comes the hard part. I hope you have patience, you're going to need it. The older we get the less we seem to have of it. Once they hit school it becomes a lot easier. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crossy Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Once they hit school it becomes a lot easier. Of course they will need books, uniforms etc. Then school ends and they 'need' cars Many congrats to the OP. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tutsiwarrior Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 congrats and don't worry...if you are part of a traditional thai family the baby will be 'absorbed' and there won't be much that you can do anyway... I was 44 when my son was born (now 59 y.o.) and was nervous as hel_l although I was making good money and had no reason to worry (other than the dodgy relationship with his mother). Try to enjoy him while he is little...they get so big, so fast. My boy will be 15 soon and I'm already worrying about his 'O' levels in the UK. I have a bunch of beautiful thai nieces now and a little step-grandson just came. It ain't true what they say about thai babies bein' scared of falangs! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
astral Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Good luck as he grows up and wants you to keep up............ Hope you will have the energy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sk1max Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Hi folks I am just about to take my wife to the hospital in Ratchaburi and later this afternoon our son will come into this world, my first child. I would be very surprised if I was unique in having my first kid at this age and am sure there are a number of guys out there who were late starters. Any advice or suggestions from your experience? Many thanks. Will be back afk for the next several hours. Once more many thanks. Congrats. spend time with him and speak English to him all the time, give the lad a chance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
astral Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 .............speak English to him all the time, give the lad a chance. Agreed. That is the biggest gift you can give him!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G54 Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Congratulations Not my idea of heaven, I will admit, but it sounds as if you are happy and that is what really counts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sandstone Art Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 I would like to join the rest here to Congrats you and your Mrs. As for a 'first timer' father, try not to spoil the baby too fast! Talk nicely but firmly to him. Shower your love and when he give you the first smile, the first chuckle, the reward is worth all the sleepless nights! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diablo Bob Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Congratulations, I am up to 3 now..... 12, 6 and 2 1/2 (No more!) Whenever I need a smile, I just look to the kids to provide me the amusement to lighten up my day........ It also makes me appreciate my parents more, realizing that they had to deal with me at these ages, and I am amazed at their patience...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Datsun240Z Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Congratulations!Prepare for the sleepless nights Prepare for the endless attention the little one needs (I am still surprised how a little baby can make all the adults around him soooooo tired sometimes and than wakes up happily if nothing ever happened again at 6:00, lol) Prepare to learn some Thai culture stuff involving babies (such as it is not good to show the baby itself in the mirror, can't walk beyond your own property with the baby after dark as it is not protected anymore by the small house "shrine" (forgot the word in thai, the small temple protecting your property and house from spirits etc.) and many more like these .... Same Same, Congratulations! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gerryBScot Posted July 7, 2009 Author Share Posted July 7, 2009 Benedict was born at 14:41 this afternoon and weighed in at 2.75 kg. Thanks for the wise words and congratulations. Really kind. I am not quite sure what lies ahead as my wife is a filipina working here, as do I. But we are both thrilled to bits with our new son, he is healthy and mum is making a good recovery. There are some pictures posted on my blog. www.gerryb-inthailand.blogspot.com . In truth it is a fairly daunting propsect but I feel really positive about the whole thing. I cannot describe the feeling of being left alone in the nursery at the hospital with the boy in my arms, while his mother was in the recovery room. Very happy with the medics and nursing team at the hospital. Once more many thanks. I don't care immediately about the prospect of not sleeping Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrbojangles Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Congratulations gerry. I had my first last year. A baby girl, now 10 months old. Before I had her, i never imagined the joy such a small thing could give. Every day when I get home from work, she is doing something extra that she couldn't do the day before. You'll love it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BAYBOY Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 All the best to your wife, the new boy and yourself.Enjoy very moment.........the good and the bad as he will be a teenager before you know it. The time will really fly as he grows up and you will get younger ( at least mentally!!) I am 64, have a 37 year old son in England, daughter 35 with 3 children in New Zealand, and have a 9 year old son here in Thailand.Two of the grandchildren are older than their "Thai Uncle. My wife is now 51 and at 42 he was her first child. So we are both a couple of oldies. He has been a true delight and speaks, writes and reads both Thai and English fluently. Do try to teach your new boy both languages as he can then have a foot in both camps. Being a proud father is a great feeling and having a son/daughter to make you proud is what to work at. Congratulations again. BAYBOY Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
isanb Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 Congratulations gerry, Time to have an avatar : Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PastEgo Posted July 7, 2009 Share Posted July 7, 2009 congratulations i am in my 40s and my first little one 4 months ago it is truly amazing how much happiness children can bring into this world Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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