Marriage Agency Sinsot

[mark45y]

I read an article on another site about a marriage agency run by a Farang. The agency was charging a fee and expenses and things like that which I imagine is normal but in addition to that they told the ladies to negotiate the sinsot up front and during the first interview.

40 year old divorced women with two kids were asking for sinsot and the poor suckers were told by the translator that it was a normal Thai custom!

[Mossfinn]

This has got a 7 page, 40 post per page response written all over it

[geriatrickid]

Or maybe, people are so tired of the topic they will just say blehh, lift a cheek and expel some flatulence.

[Thongkorn]

Or maybe, people are so tired of the topic they will just say blehh, lift a cheek and expel some flatulence.

Do you mean fart, careful you could follow through.

[BigWheelMan]

This has got a 7 page, 40 post per page response written all over it

Not until the OP gives the source of this information, otherwise it`s just hearsay.

[a2396]

This has got a 7 page, 40 post per page response written all over it

Not until the OP gives the source of this information, otherwise it`s just hearsay.

It ain't hearsay for these agencies to put the sin sod demands up front, packaged as "Thai Culture". I read one website that stated "if you don't pay sin sod, she is likely a bar girl." I don't know about the matter of sin sod for women with kids, but I wouldn't doubt it, knowing the mentality of these so-called marriage brokers.

[Will27]

This has got a 7 page, 40 post per page response written all over it

Not until the OP gives the source of this information, otherwise it`s just hearsay.

It's on the Stickman site Mr Happy.

Regards

Will

[mark45y]

This has got a 7 page, 40 post per page response written all over it

Not until the OP gives the source of this information, otherwise it`s just hearsay.

It's on the Stickman site Mr Happy.

Regards

Will

Yes that is correct

[Spee]

4 words .... run far .... run fast

[mark45y]

I can see paying the sin sod in some cases where we are talking about an unmarried person of high moral character. Or using it as show money at a wedding. But in the marriage agency scenario the women were told before they signed up with the agency that sin sod would be negotiated before the first date! And that women of all ages and marital status are eligible for sin sod payment. It sounds much more like an incentive for the ladies to choose a husband with a particular agency who chooses to con the guy into paying an extra fee disguised as sin sod.

The story paints a picture of a man who speaks no Thai going into an agency who provides a translator and prospective bride. The translator tells the victim he can negotiate the amount of sin sod thereby establishing an element of trust.

When in fact sin sod should be negotiated by the parents and not the lady in the first place. And never in the case of an older women with multiple marriages and children.

Seems to me like another scam but in this case one perpetrated by the Farang who owns the marriage agency.

I am not saying the marriage agency gets a cut (although they might) but the money is used as an incentive to get women to use the agency.

Who ever heard of discussing sin sod on the first date! Come on, that is a stretch even for Thailand.

[Patsycat]

Perhaps the men who use these agencies should read up a bit about Thai culture and surf the net for information before putting themselves into this situation.

Louis Theroux did a programme about one of the Agencies in Bangkok a few years ago.

Edited April 25, 2010 by Patsycat

[aussiebebe]

Seems to me like another scam but in this case one perpetrated by the Farang who owns the marriage agency.

I am not saying the marriage agency gets a cut (although they might) but the money is used as an incentive to get women to use the agency.

Who ever heard of discussing sin sod on the first date! Come on, that is a stretch even for Thailand.

I don't think agencies are the root of this, I meet plenty of couples, usually through my wife, friends of friends and neighbours, and the men, the foriegners, have often paid sinsot to their wives even if they are divorced or have children. Living here, I get to see deeper into things and there is a real expectation on the (usually) women's part to be 'kept' and not have to work, while being supported by the foriegner. Interestingly, my wife discussed how it applies generally to Caucasian-Thai partnerships, in her opinion. For example, one of our neighbours is a Japanese man, whose Thai wife supports him! It's her house and she has a full-time job while he lives the life of Larry.

I believe the main thing the foriegners should be warned about isn't the sinsot, but the lifestyle some Thai women expect during the marriage. I have some friends whose Thai spouses earn as much or more than they do, but many more who are the sole breadwinner. Most Thai women want monthly allowances, and maids, and nannys and I've noticed many cases where my friend's children haven't picked up their Dad's language because they've just been left with the nanny everyday, while their Mum goes out shopping.

[BigWheelMan]

4 words .... run far .... run fast

And never have there been truer words spoken.