What Is The Big Deal About Thai Girls?

[givenall]

On the off chance that you really mean what you post and are not trolling, (and when I look at each of your previous posts, they all seem to be in the same vein), I will write this. What you describe can just as easily describe some women anywhere in the world and is not only a Thai phenomenon.

Furthermore, what you describe is only accurate for a very small portion of women anywhere.

Agree, they just are a lot more outspoken and visible. Normal nice Thai gal are very shy and you don’t hear about them. So few bad apples don’t mean they are all like that.

But people especially Woman all over the world want better life and someone to take care of. And we Men like to take care of them. So fine a nice one and stick with

[a2396]

you need to get real. we knoe why the girls do it.

explain whjy the men do it.

Certainly, the men are 50% of the problem, spending like drunken sailors on women they know little about and, It is quite unbelievable, the amount of money squandered here.

[bonobo]

On the off chance that you really mean what you post and are not trolling, (and when I look at each of your previous posts, they all seem to be in the same vein), I will write this. What you describe can just as easily describe some women anywhere in the world and is not only a Thai phenomenon.

Furthermore, what you describe is only accurate for a very small portion of women anywhere.

Sorry, but I don't agree with you. This IS a Thai phenomenon. I have lived in Malaysia for one year and never saw anything to the extent of fleecing foreign men as to what goes on in Thailand. It is almost like these women (Thai) are operating by some sort of "union rules". I get the same kind or similar methods of operation (MO) with many, many of them. Of course, the majority of Thai women are honest and do not stoop to such tactics. It just seems to be with those who get involved with foreign men. In such cases, ethics go out the window. ..and I am NOT talking about bar girls & hookers.

 When Korea was poor, I saw the same thing and heard the same complaints.  I have seen it in the Philippines, Guatemala, Mexico, Egypt, Indonesia, and Brazil.  And for the glorious three years when I was raking in the cash, I saw it, or at least attempts at it,  in the US and Italy.

I have read about this happening in India.  And from a specific sector in the US, I have seen this type of behavior repeated over and over.

The difference is that for women of this ilk, if they are Korean, American, Italian, or whatever, the bulk of us do not have the financial means to be attractive to them (excepting the one demographic in the US I observed, ad I am not in the right demographic to be a target there.) In Thailand, the Philippines, and other places, many more of us are now "qualified" to be targets.

I still contend though, that for every golddigger with a distinct lack of ethics, there are far more women who are not in the same category.

[saintofsilence]

Because of the thousands of men that have parted with their cash and purchased house's cars etc in Thailand to a Thai Lady and many times within months of meeting them It has really stuffed it up for any chance of a honest loving relationship with 90 percent of the Thai women .

People are in la la land if they think anything different , and yes I am speaking from experience

They mix together compare stories and assets and they will move on if you won't live up to their demands.

It is simply the Power Of The Pussy v The Power Of The Mans Brain.

And I the think we all know which one has the lower odds at the bookies.

[cognos]

we fall in love with Thailand, and then insist that only a Thai gal will do

signed: lots of us

[a2396]

Because of the thousands of men that have parted with their cash and purchased house's cars etc in Thailand to a Thai Lady and many times within months of meeting them It has really stuffed it up for any chance of a honest loving relationship with 90 percent of the Thai women .

People are in la la land if they think anything different , and yes I am speaking from experience

They mix together compare stories and assets and they will move on if you won't live up to their demands.

It is simply the Power Of The Pussy v The Power Of The Mans Brain.

And I the think we all know which one has the lower odds at the bookies.

AGREED 100% But, there is always the remaining 10%. You might get lucky. Hope springs eternal. I think I have found one, but the jury is still out yet, because she is overseas until September.

[fletchsmile]

No two things in this life are the same. Similar yes. Same no.

From this old wizard's observations, having wandered this earth throughout many lives:

Similar things do indeed happen in other countries. Yet Thailand does have a more unique and prevalent experience of the topic raised than most I have seen.

Rarely have I ever seen more than a superficial analysis of why, and you're unlikely to find the answers on a Thai Visa thread. Usually it decscends into no more than superficial drivel here. Life is much richer and more complex than you will see in each of the few lines of each post....

Economics, politics, religion, culture, history, fate, chance, biology, physiology, cosmology, metaphysics, nature, nurture... and tens of scores of others. All have their part to play on this one.

[sarahsbloke]

Fall in love as much as you want, BUT don't give anyone your money UNLESS

1) They earn it

2) You have so much you don't care

Now that works for boys, girls and ladyboys of any nationality.

[myrealprofit]

On the off chance that you really mean what you post and are not trolling, (and when I look at each of your previous posts, they all seem to be in the same vein), I will write this. What you describe can just as easily describe some women anywhere in the world and is not only a Thai phenomenon.

Furthermore, what you describe is only accurate for a very small portion of women anywhere.

Agree, they just are a lot more outspoken and visible. Normal nice Thai gal are very shy and you don't hear about them. So few bad apples don't mean they are all like that.

But people especially Woman all over the world want better life and someone to take care of. And we Men like to take care of them. So fine a nice one and stick with

Glad you said that, I was just thinking about that and how I need to really improve my Thai language skills because I do meet a lot of great girls, but I don't speak enough Thai and they speak almost no English, which can be a good thing. It seems like the better their English speaking skills are, the more exposure they have had to Foreigner's (obviously, and not always the case)

[somtampet]

myrealprofit

You seem very wet behind the ears if you believe that only thai women do this kind of thing.U seem to have been hurt by a thai lady,get over it man,some are very nice,as you say

[wishtobethai]

I was married in the UK 20 year my wife never work think she was worried about breaking a nail, on the divorce she got all about £375000. I went to Europe for some time after could see my self loosing the very little money I had left. 8 years ago I hit Thailand what a place Bangkok was such a surprise for me as I was going to a place called Pattaya never made it to Pattaya and pleased I did not as maybe I would be all thinking like you. I heard these stories so many times about the girl had all there money been sending money for all the family bought her self some new jeans had there hair done these girls are only after one thing, a lot had married them to. I wish my UK wife had only bought a new pair of jeans and had her hair done. There are lots of girls in Thailand that are not just after money most are 30ish as girls in Thailand who are not married by the time they are 35 feel that they have been left on the shelf all have good jobs don’t have kids or lots of family in the hills somewhere that need lots of money . Myself after 8 years now back in the UK with Thai wife and new baby it’s the best value for money I have ever had

[Mossfinn]

Myself after 8 years now back in the UK with Thai wife and new baby it’s the best value for money I have ever had

Which supermarket did you frequent?

[Stricken]

Where a 70 year old man can have a 20 year old girl and get away with it

[retdson]

At least we've been spared the '.if you marry girls from a bar what do you esxpect. my wife, who has a doctorate from Chulalakorn' tells me that ....." responses. BUT - sure, tarts will take your money. That's how it works. If they love you lots - they won't take so much of it. And if you prove true - they might not take any at all. All of this is meticulously documented....this thread is hamster and wheel stuff.

Edited April 30, 2010 by retdson

[BlackArtemis]

At least we've been spared the '.if you marry girls from a bar what do you esxpect. my wife, who has a doctorate from Chulalakorn' tells me that ....." responses. BUT - sure, tarts will take your money. That's how it works. If they love you lots - they won't take so much of it. And if you prove true - they might not take any at all. All of this is meticulously documented....this thread is hamster and wheel stuff.

That's because we realize that it doesn't matter the family background when it comes to the amount of money going in and out of relationships. The bar girl factor may influence other things, but not the fact that guys seem to throw $ out.

I think it's the fact that it feels like monopoly money. All those bright and colorful notes and their biggest note a big 1000 doesn't mean much to a foreigner. it's easy to get caught up in the "it would cost x times more in my country, I'll take it" and then buy a ton of cheaper things that add up quickly.

[iwad2010]

I've know folk who've got stung bad. But, if you look at the foundations of the relationship....well, you could say the writing was on the wall. You get what you paid for.

[Berkshire]

On the off chance that you really mean what you post and are not trolling, (and when I look at each of your previous posts, they all seem to be in the same vein), I will write this. What you describe can just as easily describe some women anywhere in the world and is not only a Thai phenomenon.

Furthermore, what you describe is only accurate for a very small portion of women anywhere.

Agree, they just are a lot more outspoken and visible. Normal nice Thai gal are very shy and you don't hear about them. So few bad apples don't mean they are all like that.

But people especially Woman all over the world want better life and someone to take care of. And we Men like to take care of them. So fine a nice one and stick with

Glad you said that, I was just thinking about that and how I need to really improve my Thai language skills because I do meet a lot of great girls, but I don't speak enough Thai and they speak almost no English, which can be a good thing. It seems like the better their English speaking skills are, the more exposure they have had to Foreigner's (obviously, and not always the case)

I think you're on the right track. Being able to speak Thai is a prerequisite for having a healthy relationship with a "normal nice Thai gal." I prefer a Thai girl who doesn't speak much English myself.

[Markaew]

I can't buy "she just wants a better life for herself". That is absolute BS. So she want a better life for herself as she takes all you have and kicks you to the curb. I agree with the statement the more she loves you then the less she takes. Guys are coming from other cultures where the wife has your back so to speak. Let me qualify that statement by saying that is not a hundred percent true. Here, in most cases, you turn your back and she has your wallet.

In this culture it is "expected" of the woman to take all she can. My wife gets this from family, friends, acquaintances, and passers by. Many make efforts to break us up. The Thai people are proud that they can take your money because making and taking money is as high a priority in life as breathing. It's their version of socialism. The woman takes your money and they spread the wealth around. The whole society is based on taking foreigner's money. You can't own property so it goes in the wife's name. You have limited time in the country so the woman can set you up and then it's time for you to go.

I believe most or all decisions made in this country is based on how best to help the woman bleed the farang because it gathers the highest quantity of money per episode.

[Starlifter]

Because it better than spending money on South American women......or perhaps not

[PhilHarries]

you need to get real. we knoe why the girls do it.

explain whjy the men do it.

Sorry, can't do that I don't go for men.

The OP made a sweeping generalisation against Thai women that got turning into a bigger generalisation against women the world over.

It is human nature, as I tried to very briefly explain but obviously it went over at least one head here, and we are all the same to varying degrees. We all want more, we all want better for ourselves and our loved ones, we all want it NOW and, preferrably, we all want it for free. Why is it corrupt businessmen and politicians continue with their corrupt practices long after they have amassed more wealth then they'll ever spend in this life?

Of course, as others have pointed out, most of these Thai women gold diggers come from a certain profession. If you sleep with crocodiles do not be surprised if you get bitten.

[TheItaliann]

this topic is so rarely discussed on TV

[thaibeachlovers]

Where a 70 year old man can have a 20 year old girl and get away with it

In Saudi Arabia a 70 ( + ) year old man can marry a 16 year old. They came to my hospital to have penile implants so they could "consumate" the union!

[PhilHarries]

this topic is so rarely discussed on TV

Stick around, you'll see after a few years everything is repeats, just like television.

Don't worry about it, if you don't like the thread <deleted> and move on, or is that too complicated for you?

[sarahsbloke]

In Saudi Arabia a 70 ( + ) year old man can marry a 16 year old.

Thai law allows you to have sex with a 13 year old girl, as long as you are married to her.

(same as some states in the USA and Australia)

Edited May 1, 2010 by sarahsbloke

[MiG16]

I still contend though, that for every golddigger with a distinct lack of ethics, there are far more women who are not in the same category.

thank you Bonobo

[MSingh]

In Saudi Arabia a 70 ( + ) year old man can marry a 16 year old.

Thai law allows you to have sex with a 13 year old girl, as long as you are married to her.

(same as some states in the USA and Australia)

Are you saying that you can marry at 13 in Thailand ??

I really hope that's not the case.

[Ijustwannateach]

Let's NOT have this thread derailed with a discussion of comparative ages of consent.

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Back on topic-

Water tends to seek its own level. If you don't feel like you deserve a good, independent, self-actualised partner, then you probably won't look for one (or find one, natch). Thailand gives some people a cultural excuse to look for the 'wrong' kinds of people and then blame it on 'culture.' It's the old thing about the blind men describing an elephant, except that many of them are fixated- some of them ALWAYS get the trunk, the leg, etc. and then they think 'that's all there is to elephants' instead of changing the way they are looking for things. It's more comfortable for them than changing, because change and its uncertainty would seem too scary.

There's nothing in terms of people you can't find in Thailand; just depends if you're looking for it or not.

[elkangorito]

There is no big deal about them, they're just women, same as all the others.

A perfectly correct reply. It's the 'farangs' who are 'different' (desperate).

[473geo]

Let's NOT have this thread derailed with a discussion of comparative ages of consent.

....

Back on topic-

Water tends to seek its own level. If you don't feel like you deserve a good, independent, self-actualised partner, then you probably won't look for one (or find one, natch). Thailand gives some people a cultural excuse to look for the 'wrong' kinds of people and then blame it on 'culture.' It's the old thing about the blind men describing an elephant, except that many of them are fixated- some of them ALWAYS get the trunk, the leg, etc. and then they think 'that's all there is to elephants' instead of changing the way they are looking for things. It's more comfortable for them than changing, because change and its uncertainty would seem too scary.

There's nothing in terms of people you can't find in Thailand; just depends if you're looking for it or not.

Agreed........but what of those that are not looking, but are 'found', because water also makes it's own route, once in the flow it is enjoyable fun to go with the current than fight against it........until at times it is too late and you are in too deep!!

[elkangorito]

Agreed........but what of those that are not looking, but are 'found', because water also makes it's own route, once in the flow it is enjoyable fun to go with the current than fight against it........until at times it is too late and you are in too deep!!

Do you need detailed instructions or permission regarding relationships with Thai women? If so, I have some answers;

1] Treat them like you would treat anybody else...with respect.

2] As an adult (legally), I would assume that permission need not be sought.

3] Go with 'the flow'...if that suits you.

4] Saying 'No' is really not that difficult.

5] There is no such thing as 'in too deep', which is simply a 'failed escape' from a known 'unpleasant situation'.