Ok, I don't relate to some of her more interesting choices in life but everything she has to say in this article I have said a million times. Is there any woman out there who doesn't look in a mirror and see her flaws? It may not be "feminist" to admit to it, but I suspect there are very few women out there so totally confident in the way they look that they don't.

Confidence is sexy. Intellectually, and from experience, I know that-but that doesn't always mean I can easily feel it in my body. For me, getting naked in front of someone-both physically and emotionally-can be close to impossible.

If I'm having a good day-if I like my hair, my lipstick, my outfit-I'm happy to show off. But often, I'm so fixated on the flaws I see in myself that I can't appreciate that someone would want to truly see me complete naked-with the lights on.

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Funny thing you posted this..Ive been feeling down lately..so today i wore something i thought looked good and went to get my hair washed and blow dried at the hairdressers for a pick-me-up. Trotted along to the local golf driving range feeling confident and attractive and ended up having 3 attendants all asking me what i needed. One guy could speak English well and turned out to be a private instructor..who gave me a lesson for free! (Turns out he also plays in a band for fun..and has asked me to go along to watch them play later this week ) When i think about it, i didnt really look so much different from the other last few days when i was feeling down, but what i wore today was confidence and a smile. Those elements really do make a woman look much more attractive regardless of what she is wearing. Im going to make a concerted effort to feel good about myself no matter what is getting me down in life. I think if we do that, we will encourage good things to come our way.

(I realise this doesnt discuss the being naked in front of someone, its just a general comment on confidence probably comes over as attractive and appealing)

Strange!! Today it is really hot outside, 30 degrees. So i decided it is time to ditch the jeans and put a skimpy dress on.

But firstly, had to de-hair underarms and legs. Which led to a whole cleanup - washed hair, shaved, manicure and pedicure. Then on with the Dove Body Lotion with a bit of a shimmer in it.

I feel like a million dollars!!

Now I just have to find somewhere to go and glow!! Excluding the supermarket, where I have to go anyway!!

For a mans two cents worth ...

I have always thought that my eyes see 'Pretty', my heart sees 'Beautiful'.

If you feel good about yourself, this will show in the way you act. My heart will notice this - and respond.

You do not have to be pretty to be beautiful.

Yes Seedy and vice versa there are many pretty women who suddenly become fugly when they open their mouth as the attitude is a complete turn off... I also see beauty as something more comprehensive one only has AFTER knowing that person better, everything before is just pretty, cute or attractive as that is only the outer shell, the real beauty is internal and a complete package of presentation....

Seedy, when i feel beautiful within my self i feel extra beatiful outside myself.

On my travels, 20 mtres to the supermarket and 20 metres back. I sat myself down and watched the world go by. Had a wine or two, and i met one of my neighbours who sat as well and we watched the world go by.

Logic of the story - I looked good and did my daily 40 meters. And my (female) neighbour said that she had never seen me look so good. And that she likes the music i blast outs nightly.

I have a friend who wishes to take me dancing....

Back tomorrow....

Hakuna Matata

The fact is, i am too skinny, I look like sometheing from Belsen.

I am embarrased about my skinniness so it takes time for me to put on my summer clothes.

But, today i beat them and got all dolled up.

I guess that i am like a fat person who won't go out - the skinny version.

Took a big thing to put on a dress and walk today.

I am not an anorexic - i love to eat, just have a strange metabolism.

Patsy, you just proved that it really doesnt matter what shape you are, its about feeling good about yourself that matters. The thing too is that men like a variety of body shapes, but if you have a hang up about it, then they will notice your hang up (not the body shape). So dont let yourself feel down about your body. When it comes down to it, just having a functioning body is a wonderful thing.

I am embarrased about my skinniness

But, today i beat them

Good girl. Beat them every day.

how stupid

There are women out there who suffer and i am me me me me

Sorry

Sorry

No need to be sorry.

I feel communication is very important to learning. Make a mistake - learn from it and move on. Need help - ask a question.

Sometimes this is very hard - especially on an open forum such as this. But there are people here who will help you, who have no ulterior motive other than being helpful and at the same time helping themselves.

My search for compassion continues - sometimes I find it. But I always try to give it.

Actually, I find that attitude to be self defeating too Patsy. Other people's suffering doesn't make your feelings any less valid. There is no comparison that needs to be made. Feelings are feelings.

Its what we choose to do about them that makes the difference. So, why should you feel sorry because you feel too skinny and had a nice day in your pretty dress and felt good about yourself? You should be proud, because at least thats one less miserable person in the world

I've been feeling down about my weight lately, despite the fact that I am being told I don't need to. Seems like I need to join the club, kick myself in the pants and make myself look nice.

Last night i was sitting here in my pretty dress and one of my neighbours (who i have never met) went outside and sang a cappella "Under the Boardwalk". I was in seventh heaven!!! And all the rest of us clapped in unison when he sang the last verse.

Not wearing pretty dress today - but still feel good!!! In 10 year old fishermans trousers.

Happy 4th of July!! From a skinny, silly woman!!

how stupid

There are women out there who suffer and i am me me me me

Sorry

Why sorry? No need! Just keep feeling good about yourself Patsy.

I think all you LOVELY ladies should parade past mr neverdie for a viewing....if ur game

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I think it comes down to character. Having worked in language education for over 40 years I've worked with a lot of women and I can think of times when a woman has come for a job interview and I've thought "she really isn't very attractive". And yet, after hiring, because these women were good people and had self-respect and confidence, they became attractive. It's really interesting to reflect on how intelligent, confident and personable women become attractive without any new wardrobe or makeover or self-serving desire to please. "Attractiveness", I think, is an aspect of character, not size and shape and features.

I expect the same could be said for men.

So, in my search to be pretty I forgot to buy light bulbs. And i have no more candles.

So pretty Patsy is sitting in the dark admiring her hairless legs with the light from the TV and the computer!!!

At least with the shimmery body lotion i can actually see my legs!!

For a mans two cents worth ...

I have always thought that my eyes see 'Pretty', my heart sees 'Beautiful'.

If you feel good about yourself, this will show in the way you act. My heart will notice this - and respond.

You do not have to be pretty to be beautiful.

words of wisdom!

Another day, another story.

Yesterday my best female friend called me to go out. I went out all dressed up and spent the whole eveninlooking for them, her and her family walking between pub and pub. OK footy was on etc. And I did at least 5ks in foot walking.

As said on another thread - was a good girl got taxi home taxi crashes.

Now back in my cave.

Cannot be bothered, each and every time i try to make an effort with my look something weird happens.

Even yesterday, went to the shops and on the way home stopped for a wee glass of wine. This OLD guy at the next table started on and on about the fact that i was Dutch. I repeated ON and ON that i was Scottish Irish whatever, but after 30 minutes of banter he was telling me the best way to plant tulips. And how the Swiss are better at it than "You Dutch".

Can't win.

The worst was today.

On my way home from the shop, stopped off in a secluded beer garden type place.

There was a woman sitting in front of me, rather portly with a little cotton dress on that I would not wear outside of the beach.

So, i sat there, observing. She had the face of a harridan. Never smiled at anyone. And then...

She was sitting in front of me and as she sat she opened her legs. If her face wasn't bad enough, her entre jambes was even worse. A woman of a certain age actually went out knickerless.

And i got into one of those "can't look but can't not look" gazes. I left pretty quickly.

34 degrees in the shade here. People go a bit crazy.

lol, Patsy, and here we thought the Swiss were a staid and sedate lot. Knickerless older lady. the mind boggles

And i suppose all those Spanish vulvas will be going on, all f ing night, Veep veep

Back to my wonderful, went back to do my shopping and stopped off at the same place.

The lady in question was there in her whatever colour, with her legs wide open for all to see, to let a slight breeze waft aaround.

Kill me before i get to like that.