Looking For Like-Minded Friends For Mrs Banana

[Bananaman]

Since Bananawoman and I have relocated to the UK, the only other Thai girls she's met have been from Isaan, and while they're all pleasant enough girls, they do speak a different dialect and tend not to share the same interests as a 32-year old university-educated Chiang Mai girl. We're in the north-west of England, specifically in the Greater Manchester area and are looking for girls of a similar background for socialising with. Please PM me if you live anywhere close by and have a Thai missus who might be in the same situation.

Please don't anyone take offence from this post - there's no snobbery involved whatsoever. I'm merely trying to help my wife find friends who she has things in common with, in the same way that us expats seek out those with shared interests and experiences to be our friends.

Cheers

[somtampet]

No snobbery whatsoever and from Manchester too,now thats funny

[stament]

People form all different backgrounds can share the same interests. I think the better approach would be to explain what your wife's interests are as someone from Issan might have the same interest believe it or not!

Language shouldn't be too much of a barrier either as long as they both talk mainstream thai rather than cambodian or hilltribe!

[Bananaman]

No snobbery whatsoever and from Manchester too,now thats funny

Why is that funny? Manchester is famous for football and rain, not for being an epicentre for class discrimination.

[Bananaman]

People form all different backgrounds can share the same interests. I think the better approach would be to explain what your wife's interests are as someone from Issan might have the same interest believe it or not!

Language shouldn't be too much of a barrier either as long as they both talk mainstream thai rather than cambodian or hilltribe!

I think you miss the point. If I was a middle-aged intellectual with a penchant for classical music, yoga and macrobiotic food, I wouldn't really be looking to make friends with a 20-something, singlet-wearing, tattooed character who likes to prop up the bar all day. Not because I would have anything against such an individual per se but because we'd have very little to talk about. People naturally gravitate to those from similar backgrounds as themselves. I'm not saying girls from Isaan couldn't possibly share the same interests as my wife but rather that, as yet, we haven't found any that do. The language thing is an issue because when they all get together the Isaan girls insist on speaking the Lao dialect and they also talk about aspects of life in the east which my wife cannot identify with.

I didn't start this thread for an argument or to be flamed or to suggest that Isaan girls are in any way inferior but rather just to try and help my wife out.

[stament]

People form all different backgrounds can share the same interests. I think the better approach would be to explain what your wife's interests are as someone from Issan might have the same interest believe it or not!

Language shouldn't be too much of a barrier either as long as they both talk mainstream thai rather than cambodian or hilltribe!

I think you miss the point. If I was a middle-aged intellectual with a penchant for classical music, yoga and macrobiotic food, I wouldn't really be looking to make friends with a 20-something, singlet-wearing, tattooed character who likes to prop up the bar all day. Not because I would have anything against such an individual per se but because we'd have very little to talk about. People naturally gravitate to those from similar backgrounds as themselves. I'm not saying girls from Isaan couldn't possibly share the same interests as my wife but rather that, as yet, we haven't found any that do. The language thing is an issue because when they all get together the Isaan girls insist on speaking the Lao dialect and they also talk about aspects of life in the east which my wife cannot identify with.

I didn't start this thread for an argument or to be flamed or to suggest that Isaan girls are in any way inferior but rather just to try and help my wife out.

I think you're stereotyping people. Just because someone hasn't been to University (and I'm including all Nationalities) or have a tattoo or whatever else you want to say doesn't mean that person wouldn't like Yoga or Classical Music to quote your examples. I think that's the issue you're stereo-typing people and hence my comments and other people's.

As I said I think you'd get a better response if you said what you're wife's interests are. I'm a professional but I read the sun not the Times out of choice. However, I can easily and do converse with people from all walks of life and different social backgrounds.

I have to say I feel it is quite judgemental the way you're coming across.

[Seeker1953]

Mr Stament, I don't recall reading anywhere the OP asking for your opinion. I do read that he clearly asked for help for his wife, that he carefully phrased his request to solicit help and not to insult or judge anyone.

Why do you presume to think that your notion of how to help is wife is any of your business?

May I suggest you keep your judgements to yourself and, if you've no constructive comments to offer, no specific help to give, be quiet?

Now there, that's not a sterotype is it? It's clear, and pointed directly at you.

I eagerly await your attack.

Seeker

[7by7]

I can see where this is going; so closed!