Thai Girlfriend's Jealousy.

[Eastender]

They know anyway, I told them. They're a small family run school and I think of some of them as friends. I've chatted to them and confided in them about many problems.

This is not to say I won't think twice about having a relationhip with a student though.

[thomasjojo]

yes, I met one of those girls. I bailed out as fast as I could (done in some days when I realized)

She promized that she would stop, but I dont belive that much in changing human behaviour.

She even asked My sister, who was with us on a trip about my divorce back home, and I had told here the story! but she didnt trrust me at all.

There are girls and there are other girls. Some thaigirls mean that you can talk to them, but no other. that it should be enough with them. I asked: What about my female friends in Norway? can I talk to them? she said: do you really have to?

I said: bye, take care, have a nice life.

I left. Found another nice girl, that is NOT like that.

[thomasjojo]

you are the man of the house, teach her to sit when you tell her to sit, and cook when you are hungry, right now she is outta hand, she forget what is her role, be a man and get thing straight.

yeah right, thats the way to act like a man?

no F*** way.

My girlfriend can ask ME to cook, and to sit. And I do. So does she, if I ask. But we never have to ask. Its common respect as an individual. As aman and a woman, having a relationship. That is us. Nobody else. We dont have to be jealous, there is no reasons, but sometimes now and then you will feel that anyway, but thats in a normal way.

Mr Tomy, with all respect, I do not know you, but your note sounds like a stupid idea that girls are mens property and so on, as I so much see around the world, in Muslim world, and christian world, and so on, and that makes me sick! No one own other people.

get a grip!

[thomasjojo]

Thanks for all your replies. Very interesting, (especially Tomy's!), and taxexile - you may well be right in advising me to get out quick, I'm beginning to find this girl is a bit possessive to the extreme.

To add a bit more perspective, the girl in question is 29 years old, and seperated (but not divorced) from an earlier mariage to a Taiwanese guy.

hi

If you look at my other postings, I had this girl that was jeaulous as yours, she was also 29!!

but the mature and nice behaviour girl I met later and now still are together with, shes 23! so there is as I say, girls, and there are girls... age matter, but personal security is a major key.

for all men and woman.

[ray23]

Mr Tomy, with all respect, I do not know you, but your note sounds like a stupid idea that girls are mens property and so on, as I so much see around the world, in Muslim world, and christian world, and so on, and that makes me sick! No one own other people.

I totaly agree with you, but I think your missing a very important point here, the girls insecurity does not give her the right to possess you either. I didn't work 40 years to come here and have somene tell me where and when I can go, who my friends will be and change my natural responses to friendly people male or female.

I'm in a similar situation myself, the girl 29, not a goddess, but a very good lady for me and slowly becoming my best friend, she doesn't work out of the home, nor do I. I enjoy her company immensly, but there is no one on this planet that I want to be with 24 hours a day seven days a week, for the rest of my life.

I have spent six months helping her with insecurities and making sure she has friends to do things with, from within the farrang community here. She has grown and has relaxed a bit but it's not over yet. If she had not made some progress in this area she would have to go. Retirement isn't meant to be in prison in any form.

She is not perfect and niether am I we are just people, who have joined together for a mutual benefit. I'm way past that all encompassing love after three devoirces, till death does us part or a good court order. I want her to be happy gives me great joy when I see that in her, but I have to be happy to.

Relationships of any form are never cut and dry anywhere including Thailand, it takes a lot of give and take from both people for a true relationship to work.

[thomasjojo]

Relationships of any form are never cut and dry anywhere including Thailand, it takes a lot of give and take from both people for a true relationship to work.

Totally agree that u have to work TOGETHER to sort out any problms, but what I meant was that in some cases, the work will be too hard, or the chanses that it will be no improvment at all is also there. As i could see. She was a godess, beautifull, working in a hotel as cashier, nice job, nice girl, but it was as you mention.

I have been married in my country, that was ok, but I experienced the oposite, she want to divorce because of another man. I was not good enough anymore (hey i am 31, doiing well, looks ok). I prefere the thai girls attention, if I had to choose. But I rather be with my Teerak that care as me, but do not jealaous without reasons, (we just exhanging experiences here, smile. I like that) and we work out the small things we hit that is a collission between us.

My opinion is, that the man and woman have to interact (such a popular word this days) on an equal line. as close as its possible. We all like to say that Men is from mars, girls from Venus. might be a kind of true, but I think we are more equal that that. So, If I am not the jealous type, its hard for me to live with the jealous type. As I see from this tread, this is an issue.

But the point is as you say, not a THAI issue, but a human interaction issue, in a global matter.

sleep well, its late here in London, c ya later. Take care

[Arnold]

you are the man of the house, teach her to sit when you tell her to sit, and cook when you are hungry, right now she is outta hand, she forget what is her role, be a man and get thing straight.

Spot on Tomy

Too many weak guys are wearing dresses now a days to make women think they are sensitive and more appealing. Thai women need boundaries like any child.

Jealous thai wenches should be discarded

[Axel]

Too many weak guys are wearing dresses now a days to make women think they are sensitive and more appealing.

Shua guys, I said it b4. "I am the boss in the house, and my wife allowes me to say so."

OK, not the time for jokes, give her the remote control to the TV, she will watch it like a hen sitting on her eggs and you go to your pub or wherever you want to go.

So, both are happy, where is the problem?

[dr_Pat_Pong]

Methinks Eastender is a troller. On General Topics he has a well connected Thai lady pregnant and is contemplating doing a runner.

[dr_Pat_Pong]

"on a lighter,or perhaps even a darker note,may i direct you to the recent post,

in the "general" section entitled "concerned,please advise." "

I read the above post and it scared the shit out of me!!!

Why would it do that Eastender...you wrote it. Surely you don't think we are all stupid here do you ?

[kwiz117]

"on a lighter,or perhaps even a darker note,may i direct you to the recent post,

in the "general" section entitled "concerned,please advise." "

I read the above post and it scared the shit out of me!!!

Why would it do that Eastender...you wrote it. Surely you don't think we are all stupid here do you ?

Yes, Dr PP.

I also noted the same, but too late.

I replied like many others here without realizing it.

[muay_thai]

So Eastender, hows the doughnut loving girl ?

[dr_Pat_Pong]

As a Troller...Eastender took a break from Thai Visa.

[shemmy]

eastender geat out.... get on the bus gus! make a new plan sam, don't need to be coy roy, just get yourself free....................many strange people come fro udon nutsville and there breeding!!!! AAAAAHHHHHHH!!!

[dr_Pat_Pong]

eastender geat out.... get on the bus gus! make a new plan sam, don't need to be coy roy, just get yourself free....................many strange people come fro udon nutsville and there breeding!!!! AAAAAHHHHHHH!!!

Whatever you are on ...it is sooooo strong.

[ThaiAdventure]

As a Troller...Eastender took a break from Thai Visa.

What's a Troller?

[dr_Pat_Pong]

A poster that posts flaming or argumentative topics with malicious intent.

[shemmy]

what I'm on is my honest opionion,that's it .Ive gleaned from your other postings your quite contraversial,,,, we'll that's your right,,,,,,,,,,,good luck

[dr_Pat_Pong]

eastender geat out.... get on the bus gus! make a new plan sam, don't need to be coy roy, just get yourself free....................many strange people come fro udon nutsville and there breeding!!!! AAAAAHHHHHHH!!!

Sorry Shemmy but that offering was a bit unintelligible to me.

[shemmy]

Dr. P,you hadto readan earlier posting by eastender.He refered to her as being from udon nutsville .I was simply having a little fun with while emphasising that a lot of desperate women come from the Isan region,In my opion when their bad they are the most dangerous Thai women.

[dr_Pat_Pong]

My problem with Eastender was he was running two seperate topics on women. A jealous gf and a pregnant one. Not the same women and both BS stories. Anyway, he left us.

[ThaiAdventure]

Dr Pong:

If BS was a banning offence then I think there would be no-one left on this forum! You havn't been taking lessons from IT have you?

[dr_Pat_Pong]

Your attitude and style has played a great part in it all. In that fair art you are in a class of your own, albeit one tinged with a very mean streak.

[ThaiAdventure]

I love a mean steak!

[surin]

I love a mean steak!

I think you meant a man's stake!!

[DaveYo]

I cannot believe how long it took you guys to notice that Casper was among you.

Dr. PP, why you let the cat out of the bag early, this would have been a great test of smarts.

Hahahahahahhahaha

My tummy hurts laughing here. Has me in complete circles.

Daveyoti

[jwildgrube]

For what ever it's worth, I have a Thai friend with a Thai girlfriend that is always the subject of his girlfriend's intense jealousy and mistrust. Not having a lot of experinence in this corner myself, I have observed that this is not unusual behavior in general for Thai women.

But, in all fairness, it's not like ex-pat men have are known to be all that faithful to anyone in Thailand -- esp Bangkok with all the bar enticements luring them away to stray.... so, try to understand, but be aware that the jealousy will probably never go away...

[Roger13]

eastender geat out.... get on the bus gus! make a new plan sam, don't need to be coy roy, just get yourself free....................many strange people come fro udon nutsville and there breeding!!!! AAAAAHHHHHHH!!!

Sorry Shemmy but that offering was a bit unintelligible to me.

.... get on the bus gus! make a new plan sam, don't need to be coy roy, just get yourself free!!!

Doctor,

You don't recognise this song?

Roger

[ThaiAdventure]

Doctor,

You don't recognise this song?

Of course not! Classical music does't have words

[dr_Pat_Pong]

Keep it up