Employee Guarantee Money?

[2leftfeet]

Yeah, I know it's no small amount bino, but 'relatively speaking' if this was/is the big kill.

I feel it necessary, 'cos the plan is for me to move permanently to BKK in the not too distant future - I have found from previous visits that there isn't too much work for me in my discipline, so it would be good for at least one of us to have a decent job till I can pick something up. Hence my reluctance for her to quit.

Regarding repayment, the whole amount would (hopefully) be repaid October via Western Union.

Perhaps all this is a test, I've no idea - the seeds of doubt are sown!

So, anyway, if I did go for this and if/when there are further demands, what happens when I tell her (yet again) I have little money? As it happens in this case I've told her I could only loan her the money from my C/card, she wasn't too happy about that and said she'd rather quit than me have problems, (which I won't have) but she could be a step ahead of me there.

I guess it's a balance between suspicion and trust...

why bother wasting 2 years of her life on a 'relatively' measly 100k?

100K is hardly "measly" to any Thai person- rich or poor. In fact, it is equal to a year's wages for a lot of the population who earn 8K per month. For someone like her who has a decent job, 100K is a substantial downpayment on a shiny new car... remaining payments would be about 3-4 k per month.

Why do you feel it is necessary to underwrite her indecision? She allegedly made the decision to leave a 60 K job and take a 40K job. Why does she want to quit such a great job after only 3 weeks? If she stays with the job for 2 months she will supposedly earn 80K, which would solve all the family problems, and have her 100K returned.

Has she discussed any repayment terms with you? Probably not.

Also- if you go for it, you will prove to her that she has set you up perfectly as taxin described, and there will be no end of these "measly" requests. In fact, the next problem will probably be much bigger, since a precedent has been set.

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[2leftfeet]

Hmmmm... can you mention which ones? in BKK?? and how long ago???

it's directly proportionate to the total amount of cash one can be exposed to, i.e 'bond' for Senior manager: 100,000-200,000; Cashier: 50,000; receptionist: zilch.

Ex gf of mines been a cashier @ 2 big well known hotels, she had to give 10k @ the first and nadda @ the 2nd

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[Joey Boy]

central bangkok, within the last year

[raro]

Just one more about the face-to-face talk:

My ex-g/f (no, we did not split up over money issues...) asked me to cover the retirement for er mother, not much but why me? She had six sisters, two of them married in Germany. So I suggested that every sister has to report her monthly family inncome and the overhead for rent, utility bils etc. From the net/net leftover an equal percentage would contribute to mother's retirement.

Half a year later: I am in Germany, and over a drink my brother-in-law asks me why I am so kiniau not sponsoring mother's retirement. I told him about my proposal, and he thought it is a wonderful idea. Interestingly, he never heard of it and wanted to discuss this with his wife. That was then the last time I have heard of it...

Lesson learned: Just draw up a plan that is feasible albeit difficult to implement and chances are the subject is removed from this planet.

Other example for the same strategy: My driver found out that I never had the monks in my company and felt somewhat uneasy about it. I welcomed this fantastic idea, mentioned that I would happily donate to some temple if I only knew what the money will be used for. So I encouraged him to set up a committee together with the secretary to evaluate the temples in the area on what social activities they conduct and present a report to me when they're done. No deadline imposed on this project.

[taxin]

I feel it necessary, 'cos the plan is for me to move permanently to BKK in the not too distant future - I have found from previous visits that there isn't too much work for me in my discipline, so it would be good for at least one of us to have a decent job till I can pick something up.  Hence my reluctance for her to quit. 

Regarding repayment, the whole amount would (hopefully) be repaid October via Western Union.

Perhaps all this is a test, I've no idea - the seeds of doubt are sown!

So, anyway, if I did go for this and if/when there are further demands, what happens when I tell her (yet again) I have little money? As it happens in this case I've told her I could only loan her the money from my C/card, she wasn't too happy about that and said she'd rather quit than me have problems, (which I won't have) but she could be a step ahead of me there.

I guess it's a balance between suspicion and trust...

why bother wasting 2 years of her life on a 'relatively' measly 100k?

100K is hardly "measly" to any Thai person- rich or poor. In fact, it is equal to a year's wages for a lot of the population who earn 8K per month. For someone like her who has a decent job, 100K is a substantial downpayment on a shiny new car... remaining payments would be about 3-4 k per month.

Why do you feel it is necessary to underwrite her indecision? She allegedly made the decision to leave a 60 K job and take a 40K job. Why does she want to quit such a great job after only 3 weeks? If she stays with the job for 2 months she will supposedly earn 80K, which would solve all the family problems, and have her 100K returned.

Has she discussed any repayment terms with you? Probably not.

Also- if you go for it, you will prove to her that she has set you up perfectly as taxin described, and there will be no end of these "measly" requests. In fact, the next problem will probably be much bigger, since a precedent has been set.

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You plan to move in the "non too distant future" ?.... Now this sounds to me like there are no real plans in place ?

Your right, there is not a lot of work for you in LOS and I would suspect this lady would prefer it this way, you are more use to her 1,000s of miles away ! "Absence makes the heart grow fonder and the wallet more weaker" !!

"Good for us at least one of us to have a decent job" ?.... So you think shes going to work her arse off while you wait around until you "pick something up" ? Most importantly, do you think her family will approve of that ? You may not know this but in a Farang/Thai relationship the farang is the provider, not the lady !

What happens when you say next time she asks for money and you say you have little money ? Your a farang, you have money, you cant possibly have "very little" Anyway, sounds to me like she doesnt care that you have little money, otherwise she wouldnt be piling on the guilt !!

"She would rather quit than you have problems (which you dont want)" ?.... ha ha, and she knows it !! The guilt close, best of them all !!!

Sorry mate, DUMP HER !!!!