Advice. My Thai Gf Needs To Make Friends And Find Something Other Than Listening To Music.

[Berkshire]

The OP's sig is 'Sid Jameson'....

Sid James anyone (that is old enough to remember)?

I could be wrong, but suspect that the OP is having a laugh.

Could be. He's not revealing much. Perhaps he's stroking his own ego, trying to convince everyone that there's a woman who wants to dedicate her every waking moment to him. But surely he knows that needy woman like that are almost always hideous.

[Beetlejuice]

The OP has taken a powder and disappeared.

As i said; something odd about this one.

[GuestHouse]

Once again the point I often make about not introducing your wife, g/f or anyone you care about here on TV is proven right!

A bucket of bitter spite and envy.

[zzaa09]

Once again the point I often make about not introducing your wife, g/f or anyone you care about here on TV is proven right!

A bucket of bitter spite and envy.

Dangerously true.

[sidjameson]

Yea, what is it with this place sometimes?

When I lived in England I (like millions of others) struggled to make new friends at one point in my life and wondered the best way to go about it.

Social isolation is the problem of the modern age, but I guess all the posters who have replied so far have such sparkling personalities and fantastic social lives that they are unaware of this.

[rizenkroft]

Meat boy do you know what the title of the thread you spoke about" to do with a Thai gf miximg with Thais in your home country" ? Thanks

[SimonD]

Yea, what is it with this place sometimes?

When I lived in England I (like millions of others) struggled to make new friends at one point in my life and wondered the best way to go about it.

Social isolation is the problem of the modern age, but I guess all the posters who have replied so far have such sparkling personalities and fantastic social lives that they are unaware of this.

As was mentioned earlier, you need to give us more information about her interests, and stay in regular contact through the thread so as not to be seen as a troll. If you have any experience of the wariness of the general forum for these kinds of threads, they always begin to slide when the OP fades out... That said, if you are viewed as sincere, the positive replies will come.

What are her music interests? Does she play or just listen? Maybe a music society or club that plays her kind of music.

What part of Thailand is she from?

Edited February 3, 2012 by SimonD

[bina]

why does she have to broaden her soical sphere. some of us socialize enough at work and dont bring the work socializing home. here it is also not really 'the thing' that just one half goes out to socialize. its either as couples or with family members, and rarely, a boys' nite or girls' nite out. the best way is for you to socialize together with her, in company that both of you can enjoy, which is often the main problem because of language differences (chit chat in foreign language is often hard, either for you in thai or for her in english or whateve ryour native language is).

how about women's sports/fitness places, like getting her a gift of membership for a time, maybe if u went also, so u were separate but together. or what we do: hubby goes fishing by himself (its not really an israeli sport on a saturday but he's a loner anyhow) and i sit on the beach or in a boardwalk coffe house and read or stoll around. sometimes we go visit and split: he goes to his thai cronies and i visit with best friend in nearby town, then he joins for a polite cup of tea and we head home.

the best way to control jealosy (if u are out and she is at home worrying), and that feeling of 'strangulation (from a doting wife) is to do things that are together but separate.

the other possibility might be getting her a pet (if she likes pets); a small dog that she can fuss over, take out for walks, takeit to the dog salon, etc...

most people by a certain age dont really make too many new friends. work friends are just that. bringing home tpe friends, well, thats another story. and most thais prefer family and people they grew up with

[GuestHouse]

What part of Thailand is she from?

What kind of mindless logic do we need to employ in order to offer advice on the basis of 'What part of Thailand is she from"...... or is this a piece of bate hoping to bring in more personal information to feed more prejudicial attacks?!

Edited February 4, 2012 by GuestHouse

[meatboy]

Meat boy do you know what the title of the thread you spoke about" to do with a Thai gf miximg with Thais in your home country" ? Thanks

someone started a topic on finding friends for his wife when they move to the uk,there was some interesting replies.i am sure it was in general topics but quite a while ago,sept-nov.sorry cant giv y any more details.i will try and find it this morning.

[NanLaew]

What part of Thailand is she from?

What kind of mindless logic do we need to employ in order to offer advice on the basis of 'What part of Thailand is she from"...... or is this a piece of bate hoping to bring in more personal information to feed more prejudicial attacks?!

Hell yeah! I mean we already have the Thai-Chinese, hi-so uni graduate with connected family mentioned so we need to make sure this is the case since different advice is needed if she is a pug-nosed, brown-skinned, splay-toed dwarf from Isaan that used to work Cowboy, NEP or the Coconut Bar in Pattaya.

[NanLaew]

What are the OP's social skills like compared to his girlfriend? Fed up with the 'Up to you' response when asking her about a night out or what's for dinner? The man is supposed to lead in this department... a girl LOVES to be taken to new places rather than take the lead. Maybe the OP wants her to go out with her friends so that he has more time to do his own thing.

Years ago, I regularly dated strippers in the US. I worked days, they worked nights. It was great!

[rizenkroft]

Thanks Meatboy I'll have a search again too cheers!

[Beetlejuice]

My Thai wife, myself and our kids all live here in Chiang Mai, Thailand.

My wife does not have many friends as such, she is still in contact with old acquaintances she used to know, but now keeps in contact with them mostly by the occasional phone call.

She is just happy being in the circle with our children, her family and parents. She does chat with the neighbors on occasions but never gets close with them. Even when there are do`s on at the Temple she’s not really interested.

Nothing wrong with that, it`s just that some people are not social mixers and prefer doing they’re own thing. I would never try and push my wife into befriending other people or socialising if it`s not her scene.

Think of this in another way? The OPs otha alf is 32 years old. What would happen if she really got into the socialising scene and were to begin staying out until the late hours or maybe not even returning home at all on some days? I’m sure the OP would not appreciate this.

In my opinion, if she is happy just staying at home with the OP than just be grateful. Unless it`s the OP pushing the issue because it is he who has become bored with having her around?

[Semper]

Unless it`s the OP pushing the issue because it is he who has become bored with having her around?

Yes, I think this is the problem. And maybe he should reconsider having a full time gf.

[transam]

I had a similar issue with my ex wife; but in Hong Kong. I really pressed her into making friends with the Thai ladies in our community. They however were all ex prossies / bar girls married to old men (unlike her) and really it was the worst thing I ever did. The corrupting influence of a gaggle of older ladies (even just a few years older) that were from a much different back ground caused horrendous problems which was not really noticeable for the first year. Then the rot set in. Be very careful about pressing this point; if she is not taking an interest in the wives / friends of your mates, then there might be a very good reason for this. If she feels obliged to befriend them, she will be missing with a very dangerous creature indeed. "Ropey old ex hooker turned madam farang" is the latin term I believe for the genre. In part, it was this simple act by me to get her friends which meant 3 years later I was showing her the door.

+1

[zzaa09]

You'll need to provide more info, like where are you, and a bit more background info on her. Is she far from her family?

In addtion how many Phd's does she have ? and it goes without saying she is hi-so Thai-Chinese..... and what family connections does she have in goverment, military, police or immigration...(tick the appropriate box)

Do local Mafia connections count?