Cashboy Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 The Thai girl that I am seeing lives in Thailand but comes from a village 40 kms south of UdonThani. I went to visit her family and her 2 children. On the second day I was there; the youngest child (6 years old) came to me and said "Give Me !" (in Engllsh ) with his hands out in gesture of wanting money and calling me KEENOCK when I gave none. I should point out that: I am no desperate farang (the kind that I read about, that give all). I have principles and somebody (including a child) DEMANDING money from me is not going to get it. The Thai girl taught the boy to say "Give Me" referring to the money saga 2 minutes before he started demanding the money (this went on for 10 minutes) in front of the Thai girl and his other brother and friends. I was in no situation to be able to respond to the boy, not speaking Thai, What surprised me is that the Thai girl friend would: 1) Teach him to say "Give Me" 2) Not tell him to stop once he started and carried on for 10 minutes. 3) The Thai girl told me it is Thai culture to give money to children (say 60 bt a time), I found this surprising as her parents were paying farm workers 200 bt per day for farm labouring. The other thing that surprised me was that she tells me that her family are poor, yet the children eat only some of the food and then leave the rest that gets thrown in the dustbin. Lets face it 40 bt here and there is little to a farang and it would have been far easier to have paid up. However, I feel that it would be weak to give the money and have principles. Is this normal behaviour? Your comments would be appreciated. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post stoneyboy Posted December 11, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted December 11, 2012 At least you have someone to speak to. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I Like Thai Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 Stay away from the Village until you learn more about how things work. Also try not to be too set in your ways. Your ways might be correct in your culture, but can be grey areas in Thailand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Humbugged Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 Buy the kid a packet of crisps...that'll shut him up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cashboy Posted December 11, 2012 Author Share Posted December 11, 2012 Buy the kid a packet of crisps...that'll shut him up. I had already given the Thai girl money for this purpose and he had been eating these and soft drinks already. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plopmeister Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 (edited) 5 baht knom is enough...The <Snip!> were trying it on. Good on you to show your stance early. If a Thai child caledl me Kee Nok I'd slap its arse.. Edited December 11, 2012 by metisdead : Profanity 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I Like Thai Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 You gave the Thai girl money, but you didn't give any money to the Thai boy. He must have felt very left out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post David48 Posted December 11, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted December 11, 2012 It's just a guess ... but maybe you are not the first WhiteBoy to darken their doorway ... As for what to do ... do nothing ... pester power of kids is strong ... but it's only fed by people who have capitulated and ceded to the youngsters demands. . 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Humbugged Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 Buy the kid a packet of crisps...that'll shut him up. I had already given the Thai girl money for this purpose and he had been eating these and soft drinks already. gum then Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Humbugged Posted December 11, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted December 11, 2012 Teach the kid to fetch a ball.....or tie him to a stray dog. 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post manarak Posted December 11, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted December 11, 2012 I suppose I'd have given him 10 baht, smiled, waited for the weekend or whatever to pass and then changed my sim card. 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saakura Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 Cashboy, maybe the kid knows your TV handle or maybe you strut the stuff around? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cashboy Posted December 11, 2012 Author Share Posted December 11, 2012 You gave the Thai girl money, but you didn't give any money to the Thai boy. He must have felt very left out. You gave the Thai girl money, but you didn't give any money to the Thai boy. He must have felt very left out. When I refered to Thai girl, I wastalking about my girlfriend, not a sister of the son. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post jbrain Posted December 11, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted December 11, 2012 Get rid of the girlfriend. 12 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I Like Thai Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 You gave the Thai girl money, but you didn't give any money to the Thai boy. He must have felt very left out. You gave the Thai girl money, but you didn't give any money to the Thai boy. He must have felt very left out. When I refered to Thai girl, I wastalking about my girlfriend, not a sister of the son. In that case his mother gave him the sweets. You didn't give him anything. His mother was probably building up this image of you as being the fantastic Farang man to her son, prior to your visit. Then you basically ignored the young lad, he even went to the effort of learning some English words Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post rgs2001uk Posted December 11, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted December 11, 2012 Like mother like son. Please indulge me, where did you meet the mother, and why didnt the mother belt the kid? If it was me, I would tell the kid to, hoop pak shut up, and ask him tam mai poot mai pot why are you talking impolitely and lastly, krai son, who taught you this? Get a taxi and walk away from this BS. This certainly isnt normal Thai behaviour. 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post MJCM Posted December 11, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted December 11, 2012 Get rid of the girlfriend. I agree 100%, that must be one money grabbing <snip> ! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post cbrer Posted December 11, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted December 11, 2012 Run. Go for something a bit higher than a village girl with kids. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cdnvic Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 Women aren't a commodity. Don't refer to them in that manner. Run. Go for something a bit higher than a village girl with kids. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maccaroni man Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 i like the OP style he is aware of his surroundings and that will always keep him out of harms way. I agree with other posters as well if some kid calls me a cheap, i'll give him a boot up his bum and send him on his way. At the end of the day it is clear the OP has a taxi to ride as long as he has the fair. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anon210 Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 Run.Go for something a bit higher than a village girl with kids. If the OP is not desperate as he stated, then I concur with this advice. A mother who does not know to teach basic politeness to her kids is not worth wasting time with. And you can certainly find a more stimulating intellectually company than a village girl. Sent from my GT-N7000 using Thaivisa Connect App 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cbrer Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 What sort of conversations do you have with this village girl? What do you have in common? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lemoncake Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 It's just a guess ... but maybe you are not the first WhiteBoy to darken their doorway ... As for what to do ... do nothing ... pester power of kids is strong ... but it's only fed by people who have capitulated and ceded to the youngsters demands. . i would say for "what to do" is to move on, because boy is a mirror of the parents and if you think this was bad, i believe there is much worse to come, unless of course you happy to be a "cashboy" soon to start building houses for the parents, buy bike for the brother, gold for the sister and very possibly jumping from the balcony at some point(this is a joke about the balcony jumps) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fatfather Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 You did right. Don't pay for no reason. Thai kids never ask their relatives just for money, so why should you be asked for? Your GF have to protect you because she like to stay with you, if she don't... start thinking. I'm living in Isaan for quite a while and till up today I don't have to touch money, my wife does it. If I like to give money for sweets I just do it but no kid comes to me and demand something. Trust your heart, not your balls. Fatfather Sent from my HTC Desire HD A9191 using Thaivisa Connect App 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post lemoncake Posted December 11, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted December 11, 2012 (edited) You gave the Thai girl money, but you didn't give any money to the Thai boy. He must have felt very left out. You gave the Thai girl money, but you didn't give any money to the Thai boy. He must have felt very left out. When I refered to Thai girl, I wastalking about my girlfriend, not a sister of the son. In that case his mother gave him the sweets. You didn't give him anything. His mother was probably building up this image of you as being the fantastic Farang man to her son, prior to your visit. Then you basically ignored the young lad, he even went to the effort of learning some English words the kid is 6 years old, what are you talking about? furthermore kid says keenok which is insulting not only for the meaning but for the fact that a 6 year old can say it and not get slapped across the face. In real village thai family's if the kid steps out of line or says something as insulting as a keenok, that kid would get a slapping of his life. Call any Thai a keenok or a buffalo and see what happens, why is it acceptable or excusable to use the words addressing a foreigner? Edited December 11, 2012 by lemoncake 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lemoncake Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 3) The Thai girl told me it is Thai culture to give money to children (say 60 bt a time) This observation alone should be enough to consider looking for someone else who does not have a "thai culture" of giving 60 baht to a 6 year old on demand by a 6 year old 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anon210 Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 3) The Thai girl told me it is Thai culture to give money to children (say 60 bt a time) This observation alone should be enough to consider looking for someone else who does not have a "thai culture" of giving 60 baht to a 6 year old on demand by a 6 year old Indeed. First-time thai village dwellers often misunderstand the value of things. Being asked 60 THB by a 6-year old is aking to being asked 600 THB (or 6.000!) by an adult. In short, completely disproportionate with the size and value of the cost of life in a village. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Boo Posted December 11, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted December 11, 2012 here is a bit of prospective for you. My husbands niece earns 1 baht per every grey hair she plucks from his head, after an hour of searching she gets around 15 baht & is thrilled with it,. Any 6 year old from any country demanding money & calling me cheap would get a slapped arse. Your gf (who is a woman I would hope, not a girl) has no respect from you & looks at you as a cash cow. I would suggest laying down some ground rules. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meatboy Posted December 12, 2012 Share Posted December 12, 2012 just a taste of whats to come.be prepared if you dont know your known as a.t.m. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cashboy Posted December 12, 2012 Author Share Posted December 12, 2012 As people have asked for more information: The Thai Lady left the village when 16. She worked and studied iin Bangkok. She has Bachelor of Administration from a government university and has a good well paid job by Thai standards working at the head office in Bangkok of the largest sugar cane company. She is therefore no Bar Girl that I fell in love with because I am unable to attract and score with western girls................LOL Her 2 children live with her mother and father in the village 40 kms south of Udon Thani. The way i met the Thai Lady was that I was coming to Thailand to look at investment potential and change of life as the West and its currency is pretty much screwed for 10 years (i might write a posting about this). I went on a dating web site as thought it would be interesting to meet up with someone, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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