It's one thing for a spouse to want to care for you, cook for you, bear your children, clip your nails, etc and quite another to call her down from upstairs to get you a beer when you are 10 feet away.

Exactly.

She should stay downstairs and wait for the next command to save you having to raise your voice to be heard upstairs.

Problem solved, no need for a raised voice ... I have a servant bell.

Raised voice - - - Amateurs ...

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It's one thing for a spouse to want to care for you, cook for you, bear your children, clip your nails, etc and quite another to call her down from upstairs to get you a beer when you are 10 feet away.

Exactly.

She should stay downstairs and wait for the next command to save you having to raise your voice to be heard upstairs.

Problem solved, no need for a raised voice ... I have a servant bell.

Raised voice - - - Amateurs ...

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Who would be without one, the OP for sure.