Feels so weird

[maxman71]

I love living in Thailand even though there are no farangs where I live and I have no Thai friends other tham my SO.

I guess if one needs to have friends, Thailand in a non tourist area isn't the best place to live.

Back home there were lots of clubs to join to meet people, here ( where I live )there are zero.

Have you checked to see if there is Rotary Club, Shriners, or similar civic type organization in your area ? Maybe look into doing some sort of volunteer work at an orphanage, old folks home, or something like that.

[thailandbeachisland]

I think I am really lucky not to have friends around to waste my time in Thailand. Time is money...

[PhillyBoy]

I don't understand what you did wrong to Thailand? For most of us we came to retire here to enjoy life and take it easy and you can have a companion at any age.

At 24 you moved to Thailand? And did what? A teacher? A vagabond who received money from home? Or are you independently wealthy? Whatever the reason you could not have possibly known what the world had to offer. So you have now found a new experience. Lets see what you say after 4 years in OZ, wherever that is. You say you have more FRIENDS in a short time than you found in Thailand in 4 years? You might need to know what a real friend is. Try calling those new friends to come help you at 4 am, and see who comes. I have found after many years that you only have a few who will really help when needed.

Finally, everyone has different needs. Right now you need money, OZ and friends. I need a companion, warm weather, friendly people, nice golf courses, freedom, a great choice of foods from around the world, inexpensive housing, low taxes, and all for about 1/3 what it would cost me in my home of birth.

Good luck in OZ. I am in HEAVEN!

[SOTIRIOS]

...wasn't there some type of screening process involved in joining this forum....I can't recall.....

...it just seems like membership is multiplying....and I wonder if some people have been allowed to have more than one I.D. .....

...that's the impression I get......like for the past several months....we are getting 'played' on the forum.....

[krisb]

Thailand is for Thai's, period. But, the hospitality industry and entertainment, is the exception.

they do like Americans, I can attest to that, for a certainty, and as a musician, I have no trouble at all, becoming "friendly" with other musicians.

Last night, I walked into a rstaurant that I have been frequenting for about two months with my guitar on my back,

approached the musician who works there, and he plugged me right in, and we played for close to an hour.

It may be the bgeinniing of something, and it may just have been a great time for both of us as well as the employees,

but that said, without a Thai girlfriend, I would have gotten nowhere in this town and would have stayed in Chaing Mai, which is open for Westerners and indeed, dominated by them.

I just wouldnt try owning a business here, as I havent heard of one westerener other than bar owners, who can succeed here.

I would llike to be wrong about the last part and welcome those with positive experiences to share

Thailand is for Thais!

Aahhh, that's why there's so many living there

[paz]

Thailand is for Thai's, period. But, the hospitality industry and entertainment, is the exception.

they do like Americans, I can attest to that, for a certainty, and as a musician, I have no trouble at all, becoming "friendly" with other musicians.

Last night, I walked into a rstaurant that I have been frequenting for about two months with my guitar on my back,

approached the musician who works there, and he plugged me right in, and we played for close to an hour.

It may be the bgeinniing of something, and it may just have been a great time for both of us as well as the employees,

but that said, without a Thai girlfriend, I would have gotten nowhere in this town and would have stayed in Chaing Mai, which is open for Westerners and indeed, dominated by them.

I just wouldnt try owning a business here, as I havent heard of one westerener other than bar owners, who can succeed here.

I would llike to be wrong about the last part and welcome those with positive experiences to share

It is complicated to work as musician in Thailand, because the absurd regulations that do not allow individual work, you need must be hired by a company and having 4 Thais employees (at least on paper) for each foreigner. It would be 2 if you are married byut you wouldn't hear from me that it is a good idea.

Maybe in your case you could look at opening a music school. These are mostly loalte at the shopping malls, and from what I'm told, expensive. You could spend time to study the idea and prepare a business plan, interview potential Thai music teachers, and find a Thai partner with a real capital. I don't see why it shouldn't work, considering that prospect clients are easy to identify and reach for advertising.

[BradinAsia]

gin is good.

If you were located in Nahkon si Thammarat, I could understand the loneliness. I swear, I am the only whitie around. The Thai smiles are genuine though. I haven't seen one massage parlour, one nasty drunk, any motorcycle drivers with a helmet and no unruly kids. Lots of speeding vehicles and reckless drivers though.

As far as getting homesick or lonely, I think everyone may be different.

I've now lived 27 yrs in Asia and have never felt lonely or homesick. I've always

felt comfortable in Asia. Also, I've never felt any need or any particular desire to

meet other expats. If I felt that way I would've probably stayed in the U.S.

I have nothing against expats, they are much the same as me, and that's just it

-- spending time with expats doesn't help to immerse myself in Asian languages,

history and culture -- which is my main purpose in being here.

Everyone has his own purpose in life.

[Kangawallafox]

I come often,I'm here now,I could never relocate here it would do my head in.

[thaibeachlovers]

I love living in Thailand even though there are no farangs where I live and I have no Thai friends other tham my SO.

I guess if one needs to have friends, Thailand in a non tourist area isn't the best place to live.

Back home there were lots of clubs to join to meet people, here ( where I live )there are zero.

Have you checked to see if there is Rotary Club, Shriners, or similar civic type organization in your area ? Maybe look into doing some sort of volunteer work at an orphanage, old folks home, or something like that.

Oh, you misunderstand. I wasn't asking for suggestions of things to do, as I am quite happy on my own ( my wife is sufficient company for me, as I have always been content with my own company). I was responding to another poster.

However, your "old folks home" volunteering gave me a smile, as I am a suitable candidate for one of those myself.

[timewilltell]

Well maybe you did nothing wrong but just arrived at an age that didn't suit your circumstances and ambitions. Thailand has many great things to offer and also a lot of negatives like everywhere else. Some people find the negatives too hard and the positives not relevant enough and others can sidestep the negatives and enjoy the positives. Maybe a lot depends on your personality and life experience and also age has a bearing because opportunities reduce with age.

Perhaps the time was not right for you and maybe in time it will turn right or you may continue to explore and find home somewhere entirely different.

The sad thing is that other people's do not much like outsiders making their home. That is always a negative outside your native country but not necessarily one that cannot be sidestepped.

Good luck on your life journey - not sure the gin will help much except make you melancholy. Cheers.

[willyumiii]

Thailand can be very difficult for a young man of working age who isn't wealthy.

It is almost impossible for a non Thai to find good, if any employment here.

The discrimination is blatant and condoned.

A great place to relax and recreate if you have the means and can afford it.

If not, go elsewhere until you find yourself in a position where you can afford it.

Choke Dee!

[bizzle]

Great posts guys thanks. Was expecting a bashing but nice to see people really took their time.

Thanks again for all your advice

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[anon11]

becareful in OZ that don't suffer wimps at all you will have to MAN UP to survive........! ! ! or come back to Thailand if you can handle it