telldem Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 Is this a good idea? I'm worried about her, she has never been to Thailand and her back pack is almost bigger than she is. She will be staying with me for a week then go to a Buddist retreat for 10 days. After that do the backpacking for 2 months alone. She says she also wants to go to Burma, Lao, Cambodia, and Vietnam. Is there a place where I can take her to meet other single female backpackers, so she wouldnt be alone? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
namasata Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 Maybe find a hostel somewhere with travelers her age. Is she a seasoned traveler? .. Or is this her first backpacking trip? Up to her really ... Her safety depends a lot on her personal judgement/intelligence/experience/language ability. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Sheryl Posted February 23, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted February 23, 2014 Well I traveled all over Asia alone at that age. It is certainly possible to do safely IF one exercises reasonable caution. She'll easily enough run into other backpackers in her travels, but that is not always good -- some of them are more dubious/dangerous than the locals. Again, it all reverts to how shrewd she is and how good her instincts are. I think from your side all you can do is ensure that she is aware that things like rape, robbery etc are fairly common here, the seeming "gentleness" of people in SE Asia is misleading and she needs to be very careful, never hitch-hike, be wary of people putting drugs into her drink, don't walk alone down empty streets at night etc. And also be wary of taxi/samlor drivers especially at night or in remote locations. Tell her to take her cue from local women (non-bar girls, obviously - "normal" local women) wherever she is. If she doesn't see any of them on the street, she probably shouldn't be there unaccompanied either; better to take a longer detour and stick to routes she sees local women about on. She'll likely roll her eyes a bit when you give her this talk, but some of this will sink in, at least she'll know that these sorts of crimes exist here too. 12 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post impulse Posted February 23, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted February 23, 2014 I've got several nieces about her age. If they decided to visit me in Thailand (It would be against my advice), I'd Google and print out the stories of recent tragedies- rapes, murders, death by insecticide, full moon assaults, spiked drinks, scooter deaths, etc. A few pictures from a Thai newspaper could be more impactful than all the words I could come up with. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
telldem Posted February 23, 2014 Author Share Posted February 23, 2014 Maybe find a hostel somewhere with travelers her age. Is she a seasoned traveler? .. Or is this her first backpacking trip? Up to her really ... Her safety depends a lot on her personal judgement/intelligence/experience/language ability. The hostel sounds like a Good idea. Thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
telldem Posted February 23, 2014 Author Share Posted February 23, 2014 Well I traveled all over Asia alone at that age. It is certainly possible to do safely IF one exercises reasonable caution. She'll easily enough run into other backpackers in her travels, but that is not always good -- some of them are more dubious/dangerous than the locals. Again, it all reverts to how shrewd she is and how good her instincts are. I think from your side all you can do is ensure that she is aware that things like rape, robbery etc are fairly common here, the seeming "gentleness" of people in SE Asia is misleading and she needs to be very careful, never hitch-hike, be wary of people putting drugs into her drink, don't walk alone down empty streets at night etc. And also be wary of taxi/samlor drivers especially at night or in remote locations. Tell her to take her cue from local women (non-bar girls, obviously - "normal" local women) wherever she is. If she doesn't see any of them on the street, she probably shouldn't be there unaccompanied either; better to take a longer detour and stick to routes she sees local women about on. She'll likely roll her eyes a bit when you give her this talk, but some of this will sink in, at least she'll know that these sorts of crimes exist here too. She's from the States, a very smart and attractive young woman. Not looking to hook up with young men, just wants to do some exploring before she starts her Masters degree. I will show her this, thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Somtamme Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 And don't forget mentioning the real risk from poorly maintained buses / coaches. Friends of ours were recently involved in a head-on collision. There is no licensing system in Thai, so a simple check of the tyres could be wise. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheryl Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 Well I traveled all over Asia alone at that age. It is certainly possible to do safely IF one exercises reasonable caution. She'll easily enough run into other backpackers in her travels, but that is not always good -- some of them are more dubious/dangerous than the locals. Again, it all reverts to how shrewd she is and how good her instincts are. I think from your side all you can do is ensure that she is aware that things like rape, robbery etc are fairly common here, the seeming "gentleness" of people in SE Asia is misleading and she needs to be very careful, never hitch-hike, be wary of people putting drugs into her drink, don't walk alone down empty streets at night etc. And also be wary of taxi/samlor drivers especially at night or in remote locations. Tell her to take her cue from local women (non-bar girls, obviously - "normal" local women) wherever she is. If she doesn't see any of them on the street, she probably shouldn't be there unaccompanied either; better to take a longer detour and stick to routes she sees local women about on. She'll likely roll her eyes a bit when you give her this talk, but some of this will sink in, at least she'll know that these sorts of crimes exist here too. She's from the States, a very smart and attractive young woman. Not looking to hook up with young men, just wants to do some exploring before she starts her Masters degree. I will show her this, thanks. Have her read this thread too http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/topic/151665-safety-tips-for-women-in-thailand/ Most of the posts are from expat women living in Thailand, and practical in nature. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
realenglish1 Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 With anything caution and smarts is the best combination. And in general Thailand is very safe but If I was doing what she wants to do I would hook up with someone else that likes what I do and do it together. A famous saying. Safety in numbers . Would I travel alone and site see in the USA no Always go with someone else. So answer to your question play it safe and buddy up with another woman and then go and have a good time Good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 When she arrives, if she is back packing she will no doubt meet other peopel int he same situation as her. I did it 17 years ago, hadn't even read a lonely planet & the internet didn't have a fraction of the info on it as now. If she is savvy, takes the same precautions as she would in her home town & uses the usual comment sense women need to survive in the world then she will no doubt have a great time. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neeeko Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 As much as I hate it, Khao Sarn road is a good place to meet other people traveling on their own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheryl Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 Yes but not the best location to go to right now. Meeting other backpackers is the easiest thing on earth, she'll run into them on trains, at bus stations, in the guest houses etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
olddoc Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 The young lady will be as safe backpacking in S.E. Asia as she would be in Europe. Common sense precautions are, of course required. The biggest risk she can expose herself to is the drug fueled people who hang around hostels and back packer accommodation. Avoiding "full moon" parties is also a very good move ! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wileycoyote Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 Yes ,just use caution and you will be fine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronthai Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 USA is not one of the safest countries for a 24yo woman alone, neither is Thailand. The use of common sense will get her a long way, but have her read up on many things said above and for the rest it will be "up to Buddha" as the Thais say. Personally, I would say NO to the simple question the OP asked, but that would go for any country, not just Thailand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hunter88 Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 No! Unless she goes with 2 or 3 others. Preferably men. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
me313 Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 It's safer to backpack here than in the US, for sure, but I don't advise any female to backpack alone on vacation in any foreign country or even her own country--it's just not safe at all, why take the risk? As someone above recommended, why not backpack from one hostel to the next - --using public transportation, but don't be isolated and alone anywhere, especially if you don't speak the language. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wat dee Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 I probably couldn't sleep for that two months!! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jomcondo Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 biggest risk is travelling alone in isolated areas.........quite a few of these thai males will have rape on their mind, that is unless she weighs 80kg+ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thailampang2012 Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 Most meditation retreats in Thailand are free and full of backpackers with good minds...I think will be the best place for her to find a good travel partner, male or female...and...tell her to never get any drink by a glass....or from an opened bottle....between a group of people. Safer to get hers and opens her own bottle...Also....to spend a little more in accommodation and get a private room on a guest house....not leaving documentation and nothing of value alone....and not to use transportation alone at night... ..Unfortunately this advise apply for ANY country in the world now... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NHT Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 (edited) Is this a good idea? No. I'm worried about her, she has never been to Thailand and her back pack is almost bigger than she is. So you should be. Why Thailand? There are dozens better places to backpack. She will be staying with me for a week then go to a Buddist retreat for 10 days. If she wants to experience Buddhism, Better go to where Buddhism is more Buddhism, and less street beggary, and more practiced by the public. Practice = Practice, not Prayer! She says she also wants to go to Burma, Lao, Cambodia, and Vietnam. All 4 - a "much wiser" choice. Hey, you asked the questions. Don't like the answers? Don't ask the questions! Edited February 24, 2014 by NHT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roblgs Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 Suggest trying the forum on Southeast Asia Backpacker. Might be a useful source of contacts and travel companions, and the main site could be a useful resource for information. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChrisKC Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 It's probably a bit late to offer this now but for what it is worth and for others who are in a similar position, I wholeheartedly recommend a website called www.couchsurfing.com When you go there you will see what I mean. I recommend it because I was host to many young people from around the world as well as being a guest with some fellow Couchsurfers in China and USA. We all had a rewarding experience and felt 100%safe. It is a safe way to get accommodation and usually free and with people who you can trust. Chris 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimbathewhitelion Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 Krabi Town is a backpacker home, though always remember the worse of Thailand - Phuket & Pattaya or anywhere that has more than 15 white people. Sent from my iPad using Thaivisa Connect Thailand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beetlejuice Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 A young attractive girl out in places unknown to her alone. No, of course not, she is not only not safe but also very vulnerable, no matter how smart she is. All I can say is; that if she is determined to make this trip, than she does so at her own risk and discretion. My personal opinion is; that doing this alone, no, I don`t recommend it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myluckythai Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 Thailand is not like South America for example. maybe the stories may fool you ,but there are absolutely many ways to have a safe and nice holiday. She should just think clearly and it is no different than visiting other tourist locations. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abhaya Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 As has been pointed out the most dangerous thing in Thailand is the driving. Just exercise the same common sense and precautions she would in the states and she'll be OK. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Sheryl Posted February 24, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted February 24, 2014 I am always amazed by how readily men suggest that women should confine themselves, restrict their movements, forego normal lives etc. Yes, of course there are potential dangers. There are also potential dangers in riding in a car or bus or airplane, but who would be willing to spend their lives never venturing beyond walking distance in order to be safe? One has to live, and living does involve taking some calculated risks. The sort of "life" being advocated for women in the name of safety is, IMO, not worth living. Good for her that she wants to strike out and see the world. And good that her uncle is concerned enough to ask. By all means inform her of what to watch out for, in a helpful manner (and "don't go anywhere by yourself/without a man" is NOT helpful). 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post tennala Posted February 24, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted February 24, 2014 My Daughter (22) just finished 6 months in Thailand, Laos, Cambodia, Vietnam and Sri Lanka. On her own but never alone. She always booked into Hostels and made friends very quickly. All the people she will meet are doing the same thing and everyone looks after each other. Give her the warnings but let her do it she will gain much and learn more than she ever will in uni. Cheers 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hecate Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 Definitely tell her to join ChickyNet.com, which is a website for women in Thailand. There are forums and meetups, and she could arrange to have lunch with other members when arrives in a new place. Meetup.com is another good site. Thailand is no more or less safe than the US, but some precautions need to be observed. In addition to what other members have said, I would add: Always carry a cell phone. Don't sit in the front seat of a taxi. If you are concerned about the driver, make a call to a friend and give them the taxi number. Doesn't matter if there is no one on the other end. Get the numbers of a couple of reliable taxi drivers and keep them in your phone. Don't use unsafe transport or products. Realize that what seems friendly to you, may be interpreted as flirtation by Thai men. Dress fairly conservatively. If you have to leave your valuables with management, put them in a sealed envelop and staple it shut. Write your name on the envelop and sign it. Scan your passport and email it to yourself. Make sure your room locks properly. Lock your bags. Go with your gut feelings. A couple of the rapes occurred when the woman stayed at the party after her male companion left, so this may send the wrong signal. Phuket and Koh Pha Ngan seem to have more problems than other places, but Thailand is generally safe and she should have no problems if she is careful. It's far safer for women than many other places, so I would encourage her to come. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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