Dating a younger Thai girl - or why I love Thailand.

[Tycoon]

Any wonder why people laugh at losers like this.

[jackinbkk]

If you are both happy then everything is ok....don't concern yourself with what others may think.

Why do you even bother posting this. Just be happy and don't worry

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They like to brag...

[HooHaa]

I don't think someone that has their own apartment, full time job, doesn't own a TV or smartphone and reads for pleasure would be a bimbo or brainless. I've seen 40 year old women on the BTS playing CandyCrush and dressing like a 20 year old with a HelloKitty bag. Yet that makes them okay because they're over 28?

im over 40 and i carry a hello kitty bag. whats your point?

[transam]

If you are both happy then everything is ok....don't concern yourself with what others may think.

Why do you even bother posting this. Just be happy and don't worry

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They like to brag...

Weeeeeeeeeell, some of us see the other side of the coin that the hansum OP has not...............

[JLCrab]

As for the finishing school -- with apologies to Professor Kingsfield -- they come in there with a skull full of mush and, when they leave, they leave with a different skull full of mush.

[wym]

Wym, this is exactly why my last thread was closed; you began discussing your "finishing school" which is particularly offensive to so many people here.

Which last thread was that, must have missed it?

And I'm not talking about any topic like that, don't know why you are.

Since you've posted, may I ask what benefit your students receive by sleeping with you? What I mean by that is if you are truly looking after their welfare and care about them, could you not just teach them whatever you teach and leave the sex part for a future partner?

I've constantly said my motives are primarily selfish like everyone else's.

The difference is I consciously do MORE to ensure my bed partners get MORE value in the transaction than just giving them some money and then sending them on their way.

But ultimately the value they get is up to the effort they're willing to put in themselves, which is why choosing girls based on intelligence and ambition is nearly as important as the other criteria.

In the end yes it all comes down to my getting my kicks, just that I've found the physical aspect itself gets somewhat boring sometimes no matter how spectacular, so I look for a bit more than that, and have found that actually helping them have a good future does that for me.

I also do volunteer work at Fr Joe's when I have time, some of the SOs have joined me in that once their English is good enough.

Edited March 11, 2014 by wym

[petermik]

My ex UK wife was 17 years younger than me, we were together 20 odd years.

20 "odd years" how many good ones

[Morakot]

Is the OP creating future emotional baggage for this girl?

[Morakot]

here's what the OP actually looks like:

[falang1969]

I am 45 and my GF is 26, been with her a year and never had any problems, never argue, have a great life, never been happier and she is now pregnant, which we both planned (I have never had kids and time was getting on for me, for her it's a great age to have her first kid). She was a normal girl with a normal job and had never even met a falang or spoken to (face to face) until I met her....all she did was work and home and knock around with a few Thai friends when she had time.

She doesn't drink but she has integrated with my falang friends and comes to the bar with me when I want to go.

Before the "you are so naive" brigade step in.....I have lived in Thailand full time for 6 years, I was with my ex (36) with 2 kids (living away) and 2 divorces behind her for 5 years and yes, she was ex-bar. It cost me a fair bit, car in her name etc etc (yes, I was a bit naive for a while) BUT I learn't a lot and put it down to experience. Some good but a LOT bad! I was too blind to see it for a long time!

I made a conscious decision this time round to only date "normal' girls and am glad I did. It restored my faith in Thai girls. I took my time and dated a few "normal" girls and avoided bar girls and the bar girl environment completely!

I don't get demands for this or that, I just live a normal life with a normal girl....simple as!

There are a lot of cynics on here that think every girl is a money grabbing <deleted>....just not true. However, I DO see a lot of blokes going head first into relationships with bar girls I have known and see them heading for a fall, but they can learn the same as I did!

So, to answer your question OP, no problem at all being with a 25 year old! I just wish I had done it 3 years earlier!

I also posted here about a year ago with the same concerns, there were the usual cynics (probably sitting in their Singha singlets' having been stung by a few bar girls) with their comments....and some great comments!

My advice is <deleted> what anyone else thinks!

[transam]

My ex UK wife was 17 years younger than me, we were together 20 odd years.

20 "odd years" how many good ones

To be exact, 23 years..........

[brewsterbudgen]

I am 97 next birthday and my wife is 17. We're not concerned about the age gap, but everyone else, including the doctor, seems to be. When I bought my wife t the UK for my grand-daughter's wedding some people were a little surprised. But I just put that down to jealousy. Actually: both of us believe that age has nothing to do with it. My wife is 32 going on 17 at times (and 55 at others) and I am 65, sometimes going on 32 but never going on 97. Age is of no concern whatsoever. But genuine caring feelings are. She is a rarity: an honest, open, easy-going Thai girl with no issues and not at all interested in brands and money. For the first time in my life I feel I have someone who cares. And that is what is important. Enjoy life. PS: There is a slogan on the back of some newer Volvos: "Volvo for Life". Some wag around here has changed that to "Volvo for Wife".

Nice to have some genuinely heart warming posts amongst all the cynicism posted here.

[Metapod]

Do you honestly think a young bird is with you cos your a film star look-a-like ?

Young birds generally go with older farangs for one reason.

Of course she's not with me for my looks. I have no looks. And looks don't pay the bills anyways.

She's with me because we can communicate in Thai, I live here, I want a family, I am responsible, don't believe in beating a girl (perhaps thats how you keep yours in line?), treat her as well as I can and make her feel special. Much the same reasons anyone is in a relationship.

What is the one reason you're referring to? Money? Ah no….many girls here are offered large amounts of money for sex and turn it down. My girlfriend could earn far more in a bar than her regular office job. She enjoys visiting the bar for shooting pool and a few drinks but she loves the work she does in the office. If you think all girls dating older guys are money hungry, you're way off.

One day, ask a hot girl online to see all her emails of cash offers for sex. Its unbelievable (and pathetically sad). No girl wants to go to a movie alone, eat alone or have a family alone. Money doesn't change that. And in terms of a more physically attractive guy, maybe some girls want a guy who isn't offered phone numbers everyday and can appreciate what he has as he doesn't have so many choices as a young, better looking guy.

Your head is so far up your own ass that you actually believe the septic you're spewing.

Nothing against beta males enjoying success with the opposite in Thailand, just don't lie to yourself about the realities.

[Copenhagen Tourist]

I just turned 60 and my lovely wife is 47.

Its a rather new relationship since we have only been together for 30 years now.

Our life is filled with love and has always been.

The great secret is always to think like this: "will she/he be happy if I do this?"

Good luck with your life :-)

Edited March 11, 2014 by Copenhagen Tourist

[tetleythedog]

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great news son. I agree wholeheartedly.

I am late forties and my girl is 25 and beautiful.

As I type she has just finished sweeping, dusting and moping my entire home. It is her day off. She has a degree and works for a big company.

Everything is swimmingly good...but there is one huge problem lurking to torpedo both your and my relationships with these nubile young maidens.

Kids.

I often pinch myself when I wake up next to my girl. She cares for me, is amazing in bed (but still slaps me if I try to kiss her in public), and is smart, beautiful and good with money. She has a lot of options. She is no doubt thinking about kids, the white picket fence, the whole nine yards. And why wouldn't she. She studied hard and worked part time to put herself through college. She didn't fall pregnant in the village or lower her own moral value by working in a bar. She deserves a good partner and kids with that bloke. Problem is...I am not that bloke.

So the reality is we are both worthless pricks. If we weren't we would sit down right now with our respective partners and to tell them that we are not Mr right. And then release them to find a decent bloke who is able (and willing) to provide them with a life tatamount to their dreams.

99% of what you say is true, the only part i disagree with is "working hard to get a degree" everyone and their dog has a degree in Thailand, it's their "no fail" policy. They get them even if they are the proverbial dumdum, or even if they don't attend. Usually the accountants have to use a calculator to take 10 from 20 !

As for the relationship side , i agree, life is what you make it, and i, like many others have done the dad thing before coming here, and we don't want to go through that again.

Enjoy your relationship as long as it lasts, you are sensible enough to know the score, I respect your honesty and hope that when the inevitable happens , you and your lady stay friends.

[Metapod]

It's always the same few guys who complain about it. The dude with the muscle avatar will be along shortly to tell us why we don't have a real relationship like he does. And the other two or so usual whingers about older expats.

It's the " real " relationship bit that confuses me. It's simply not possible to have a relationship with a Thai women the same you'd have with a Western women. Why , well they all lack education , common sense , logic and so many other things that you'd think everybody in the World knew , but they don't. You can't have any real conversation with any of them. Try asking basic history questions .... who's Mohammed Ali , who's Adolph Hitler , what happened to JFK , etc , etc .... , try talking about current affairs ..lol , you're wasting your time. From bar girl to hiso virtually all are as thick as two short planks. Assuming intellect is an important part of any " real " relationship you'll struggle to find that ingredient in any Thai / Farang liason. As far as age difference is concerned who gives a shit in Thailand. It's great , you get to date and screw women you wouldn't stand any chance with in the West but lets not kid ourselves it's a " real " relationship.

Only on thaivisa. amazing....

i guess one can come to that conclusion when they are an ignorant fat old man sitting in beer bars and gogos everyday of the week.

any girl with intelligence knows to give men of your 'quality' a wide berth

thanks for the insight "nana pong". surely two places you have spent a considerate amount of time in to develop such a credible view on thai women.

Edited March 11, 2014 by Metapod

[taqila]

17 yr difference maybe looked at where we come from! I'm ok with 37yr gap now, and in 4 years gap has happily ranged from 51 yrs to 32 yrs! In LOS & SE Asia, Thank Gosh!! You are only as old as the girls you feel

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[davejones23]

My last gf in the UK was 18 years younger than me and no-one stared. They mostly assumed there was under 10 years difference.

My Thai gf is only 9 years younger than. She doesn't have any emotional baggage like you complain girls of her age have. Sounds like you might have been dating bar girls if that had so many farang boyfriends. It's not normal for the average Thai woman to have a string of farang boyfriends.

Anyway, you current age difference isn't anything out of the normal. And why do you care what others think?

[Slinky1958]

Story is I seen a guy in a bar he was 48 and his wife was 20 he was very upset that a guy called him a baby snatcher ! I said dont worry mate .so why you so upset he said that guy just ruined our 10 anniversary. Lol

[joshstiles]

Don't be an even bigger idiot than most people here....stop worrying what others think about you and just LIVE

[davejones23]

It's always the same few guys who complain about it. The dude with the muscle avatar will be along shortly to tell us why we don't have a real relationship like he does. And the other two or so usual whingers about older expats.

It's the " real " relationship bit that confuses me. It's simply not possible to have a relationship with a Thai women the same you'd have with a Western women. Why , well they all lack education , common sense , logic and so many other things that you'd think everybody in the World knew , but they don't. You can't have any real conversation with any of them. Try asking basic history questions .... who's Mohammed Ali , who's Adolph Hitler , what happened to JFK , etc , etc .... , try talking about current affairs ..lol , you're wasting your time. From bar girl to hiso virtually all are as thick as two short planks. Assuming intellect is an important part of any " real " relationship you'll struggle to find that ingredient in any Thai / Farang liason. As far as age difference is concerned who gives a shit in Thailand. It's great , you get to date and screw women you wouldn't stand any chance with in the West but lets not kid ourselves it's a " real " relationship.

I think you've just shown everyone that you're the uneducated one. Why should Thai people know about Western historical figures such as Mohammed Ali, Hitler, JFK, etc. Do you know the equivalent Asian historical figures? I bet you don't. I bet the Thai women you meet talk about the dumb farang they met who doesn't have any idea of some Thai boxing superstar from 40 years ago. And when you say current affairs, what do you mean - Western current affairs I presume. It's a fact the Westerners know little about current affairs in Asia. How many politicians could you name from Asia? I bet you know less than you think the Thais know.

I think the main problem is you. How could an educated Thai woman hope to have a "real" relationship with someone as uneducated as you appear to be. Sorry to be so harsh, but you need to take a real look at yourself.

I'm not at all surprised that you can't find a "real " relationship with an attitude like you have.

Just think, most Thai people weren't even born when some of teh people you mention above were around. How many boxers, politicians do you have knowledge of who were around before you were born.

You are shockingly arrogant and uneducated. But the sad part is that you don't even realize it. But others can see it so clearly.

[LaraC]

If you guys don't see any problem with it then why always be seeking validation from others? How many times does something like this come up each month? If you don't feel weird about it, why continuously go over it...and over it...and over it...

[shaurene]

That is not a great deal of difference in age. You both happy keep it up. You are not old at 42. I have been married over 4 yrs, I am now 72 she is 44 we love each other so much, she says to me my age is just a number. Been together over 6 yrs. I used to have a cock on me like a Jerusalem Cat now like a Jerusalem Donkey.

We go every where together, I have never been to a bar on my own since together and never will. You keep it up Mate stuff other people.

Long happy life together.

[LaraC]

72 and 44. Yep, nothing odd there. I'm sure she is over the moon to have a 72yr old partner

[Metapod]

That is not a great deal of difference in age. You both happy keep it up. You are not old at 42. I have been married over 4 yrs, I am now 72 she is 44 we love each other so much, she says to me my age is just a number. Been together over 6 yrs. I used to have a cock on me like a Jerusalem Cat now like a Jerusalem Donkey.

We go every where together, I have never been to a bar on my own since together and never will. You keep it up Mate stuff other people.

Long happy life together.

Wrong

For a girl in their early 20s, that is almost the age of their parents...

Do not delude yourself.

You are 72 years old. Of cause being "old" is subjective between groups of people, and the age gap becomes more natural the older people get.To you this guy isn't old. But to thai girls in their 20s he is a dinosaur.

I am in my 20s so I have a better idea about this than you guys who are looking at it from the outside.

[whoisyourdaddy]

What threat? Posters meet up in real life all the time. I'm only trying to dispel any misunderstandings and if meeting over a beer clarifies things, then why would it be construed as a threat? I was told it was a fantasy and I offered to show pictures in person…a threat? I don't think so. It would also be stupid to accuse someone of lying when you don't even know who you are accusing of lying.

Nonsense of a response yet you make the effort to reply? The teacher had uncontrollable body sweat, to the point of soaked clothing after 10 minutes at a slightly warmer temperature. It was disgusting.

How in the hell could I listen when I was spending my life working every waking hour? You don't make money by taking time off work to communicate with your spouse. Yes, business owners have a lot to learn when it comes to family life and taking time off for their spouse. Not too many people have to decide on $10,000 or taking the day off with your spouse but the sad fact is that most posters would take the money and be no further ahead than I am now.

I am glad to hear it was not a threat and thank you for the invite.

Correct me if i am wrong, but in your last thread 2-3 weeks ago, did you not rave on how great she was(the teacher) and how great she made you feel and so on?

Surely you did not make that thread on the same evening as you met her, and made it days if not week after dating her. So when did the sweat become a problem?

Did she not sweat before?

You are now raving on about new girl, have you just met her?

Any chance 2 weeks later she would also have some kind of problem?

And what i also do not understand, is why do you feel the need to make a new thread each time you change a girl.

You stated you speak Thai, clearly fluent enough to have conversations with the new girl(as you claimed)

You live here and work here, so do you not have friends to share your happiness and feel the need to post on internet? for what purpose?

[whoisyourdaddy]

I am getting closer to 40 and will not touch anyone under 28, simply because i find females over that age are more clued about life, men and their personal feelings.

i am not getting closer to 40 and will not touch anyone under 63 because... my wife won't let me. it's a cruel world!

But you are under the thumb

Thats topic for another thread

[HardenedSoul]

72 and 44. Yep, nothing odd there. I'm sure she is over the moon to have a 72yr old partner

While I'm willing to entertain the very remote possibility that this is an in-shape man who goes to the gym regularly, is in possession of all his hair and doesn't store his teeth in a jar on the bedside table, I believe it's far more likely that he's a corpulent, balding chap with a squat, overweight battleship of a woman who, realising she had few options left in life, only agreed to the union once she'd had sight of his bank balance and the last ECG from his full medical check up.

[attento]

What matters surely . . . . . Is the younger partner totally happy with the age difference ?

Edited March 11, 2014 by attento

[dighambara]

HMMM...???

In Asia, an older man is considered more stable and better off.

So what you say is the natural result.