stickylies Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 If she owns and runs the bar why would you have to pay her a bar fine - or anything for that matter? Exactly.. ..and if she asks, time to move on. Why on earth you people are so stuck on with prostitutes is beyond me.. some men simply like the whole prostitute concept. no attachments, no follow-up/looking back, feeling of power, etc.... just a matter of taste and priorities i guess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Tiger Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 Ask her if your beer will be free as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ericthai Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 Does she have someone else that can look after things for her or will she need to pay someone to run things while she is gone. If she has to pay someone to do her job then I suspect she will want this money from you. Then again all depends on what she is looking for. Maybe she wants you for life and will say she needs no money that you dont need to support her and she wants a more meaningful relationship. Who knows what the scenario will be. We dont know you, dont know anything about her so how can we tell you want she wants or dont want. If you are so worried about a bar fine then maybe you cant afford Thailand and should vacation somewhere cheaper. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crazykopite Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 UP TO YOU !!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thejcb Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 What are all you experts scribbling ? Who knows and who cares. I have been here 20 years and still don't know what is going on with 'regular' Thais, let alone the Thai prostitutes, who incidentally, I rarely associate with. They have nothing to say, its the same ol' crap over and over again. Why do you lot get so obsessed with them. Why even tell them what your name is ? Just take them, bonk them and get rid of them. That is what they are here for and nothing else. This is how Thai men treat them, they don't care what their names are or take them for dinner or have silly giggly conversations about rubbish with them. Its ridiculous ! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rollrunna Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 Well she did mention to me that you were coming back, and we discussed it; you know the bar fine, and i said that as you were an existing customer that helped get her started that perhaps she should not add the 'bar fine '.. just accept the occasional drink etc...on top of the usual costs...... well you are an old friend now too.... ... hey lets have a drink together when you arrive.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kennypowers Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 Meanwhile, 67.8 million other Thai people say, "Why farang so stupid"? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barradave Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 If you don't like it go to another bar. One way or the other, you will pay a bar fine. If you are comfortable with your current arrangement just pay the fine and get on with it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SteveB2 Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 'Troll Of The Year' - award winner You sir, brought a smile to my face today. Cheers 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
empireboy Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 Everything is negotiable.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BanTamo Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 (edited) always Always ALWAYS PAY THE <deleted> BAR (just my own rule of 'thumb') Edited April 29, 2014 by BanTamo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
apiwan Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 April tis the month for weird posts. They keep coming Sent from my SM-N9005 using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kennypowers Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 Also, if any mods are watching this I would ask that the title of the thread be changed. It's deeply offensive to suggest this has anything to do with Thai culture. Considering Thai culture is made up of three core elements; nation-religion-monarchy - I ask that you remove any reference that suggests prostitution is a cultural practice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BanTamo Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 Nice one Kenny *guffaws* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chumley Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 I'm a carpenter and just became a contractor. If I worked at a set rate for you before why should it go down when my overhead went up? Why does any cost benefit for me go to you? I have all the risk. The benefit should be mine. You have to decide what it's worth to you and negotiate. If it's just an "arrangement" maybe you should go shopping for alternatives. Shopping can be fun! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClutchClark Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 (edited) Don't you remember your ECON 101? Its considered an "opportunity cost". Assuming you do not pay a "bar fine" then every time she goes with you she loses the bar fine she would have received by the other guys she could have gone home with. She suffers a loss. Ofcourse, the flip side to this is if you are stuck paying the bar fine and the nightly rental price, you, as a consumer, might find a similar product for a better "out-the-door" price and then she would lose whatever it is she gains by your company. Perhaps you can work out a long-term discount. Maybe you could purchase a punch card, every dozen you get a freebie. She might already offer this to her other customers. It encourages customer loyalty while allowing the merchant to keep prices high. Why has no one started a "TripAdvisor" type "ratings" format for bar women in thailand? Edited April 29, 2014 by ClutchClark Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ianatlarge Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 imo A man always pays, one way or the other. Simpler to pay upfront. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mercman24 Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 I have seen some stupid questions asked on this site, and I think this one ranks up there with the best, ha ha 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smotherb Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 If she owns and runs the bar why would you have to pay her a bar fine - or anything for that matter? Obviously, you are unaware of the intent of the barfine. It is revenue for the bar. If you take an offering of the bar away from the bar, you pay the bar. She may indeed not charge you a barfine, but if you want to keep the same happy go lucky arrangement you now enjoy, pay the tab. Otherwise, you could play the old game--meet me at the seven after work. However, that rarely works with the owner and you have to be a "hansum man" or a "sweetmout" to best play the game. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
realenglish1 Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 What the heck do you care if she charges you more. She is a hooker plain and simple If you want it Pony up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smotherb Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 What are all you experts scribbling ? Who knows and who cares. I have been here 20 years and still don't know what is going on with 'regular' Thais, let alone the Thai prostitutes, who incidentally, I rarely associate with. They have nothing to say, its the same ol' crap over and over again. Why do you lot get so obsessed with them. Why even tell them what your name is ? Just take them, bonk them and get rid of them. That is what they are here for and nothing else. This is how Thai men treat them, they don't care what their names are or take them for dinner or have silly giggly conversations about rubbish with them. Its ridiculous ! "Just take them, bonk them and get rid of them." Exactly. This is perhaps a better wording of an old strategy, the "Cold Beer Theory". Treat the ladies of negotiable virtue as you would treat a cold beer. Pick one, buy it, consume it, get another. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elzach Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 Posts like this one = only in Thailand. OP, you "have been seeing the same Bar Girl for the last 3 years" = you're not very much in demand, are you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Strangebrew Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 From what it sounds like your paying her now so why should that change or are you a cheap <deleted>? Look if couple hundred baht is a strain on you use your hand What an Idiot. Just pay your Whore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrfaroukh Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 I have no idea what arrangements you do have with her. Do you just pay for the food, extra money etc. If not then it is entirely up to her to charge you or not. Anyway it is not you who helped her with opening the bar so you can not expect her not to charge you if she wish. But just remember here even if you marry they will still charge you for one reason or the other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slipperylobster Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 to her, you are just another tom, hairy, dick....whatever. pay up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rlopes Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 You mention her as your GF. I doubt she is in her mind. Find a nice girl, there plenty outside of bars and such. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slipperylobster Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 It's pretty sad that one can thing of Hookers and Barfines as a cultural experience... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Banzai99 Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 Ha Ha BKK, I know what you mean but TBH, I've seen a lot of guys send over 10000thb a month, only to find their girl was cheating anyway. In answer to your direct question, no, it doesn't bother me. I know guys that send a lot more than that, but they don't care, they can afford it and it makes them feel good, they do it more for themselves than the recipient. I wish they'd send me some money every month. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thakkar Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 How is this a cultural question? Anyway, a good rule of thumb is to ask yourself: What would Jesus do? And proceed accordingly. You're welcome. T 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony125 Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 If she owns and runs the bar why would you have to pay her a bar fine - or anything for that matter? Because he's not a boyfriend just a trick/John like all the other customers she goes out with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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