AussieSteve Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 I would be interested to hear if anyone else has had the same problem as me. In my very first post sometime back I wrote about our sleeping arrangements and the fact that I wasn't too happy with them. I'll try and make this short.... my GF has a 12yr old daughter who has always slept in the same bed as my GF and her ex. When I came on the scene GF had split with girls father many years before and they moved in with me. First night as a family unit she wanted us to all sleep together, as daughter couldn't sleep alone. I was very uncomfortable with this (as I wanted to play) and in my culture the children usually have their own room which is why I rented a two bedroom house. I had bought a new set of bedroom furniture for the daughter but she wanted to sleep with mum. So after much discussion first couple of nights they slept in daughters room I slept in main bedroom. At this stage I was wondering what I had got myself into, but I love my GF so I needed to find a solution. So o/k after two nights I agreed to sleep in one bed with GF in the middle. This was ok because neither of us work so we can "play" when daughter is at school. After a few weeks GF got into the habit of half way through the night sleeping on the floor because she said she couldn't sleep as it was too crowded and daughter kept moving. So I often woke up with daughter virtually on top of me, and GF on floor next to bed. I solved the problem by moving daughters mattress next to the big bed so now she sleeps on the floor on her mattress and we have the bed to ourselves. Evidently it is quite common for families to sleep on the same bed even up to and past teenage years. Do a lot of Thai homes have only one bedroom? Has anyone else had this happen to them and what was your solution? I am expecting some comments on sleeping with underage girls but please try and keep it civil. Thank you. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post AnotherOneAmerican Posted May 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted May 11, 2014 (edited) Yes, many Thai homes only have 1 room. Yes, many Thais in a family all sleep on one mattress (often 3 generations all together). Yes, the adult couple often does have sex while everyone else is in the room (everyone else pretends not to notice). They also go out to 'short-time' hotels for an hour of Privicy sometimes, money allowing. You have three choices, sleep alone, sleep together, get the daughter to sleep alone. Sorry, fourth choice, find a new gf with no children. Oh, and I agree, it's not satisfactory for many men brought up in the western world. My sympathies for your predicament. Edited May 11, 2014 by AnotherOneAmerican 14 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Soutpeel Posted May 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted May 11, 2014 Personally, seeing as your not the father, I don't think its appropriate for you to sleep in the same bed, irrespective of any Thai "norms" although not Thai related, when I worked in the US, I had an American GF, who had a niece who used to come and stay with us weekends, and a similar story the niece didn't want to sleep on her own and wanted to sleep in the bed with her Aunt, right from the offset, I felt uncomfortable with this arrangement even though the GF and Niece who was 12, said it was ok and the GF would sleep in the middle, in the end I used to sleep in the spare bed room, and the GF would sneak away to the spare room once the niece was asleep in the main bedroom to play hide the Sausage and then go back and sleep next to the niece.. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lifeon Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 My fiancée s 2 nieces sleep with there father. One is 12 and the other 14. The mother sleeps alone. Got me stuffed, but our kids won't be sleeping with us. Sent from my SM-P605 using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post DP25 Posted May 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted May 11, 2014 Dude...for your own protection, you need to put a stop to this immediately. This situation is putting you in danger. 19 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AussieSteve Posted May 11, 2014 Author Share Posted May 11, 2014 Dude...for your own protection, you need to put a stop to this immediately. This situation is putting you in danger. Yes I agree I am not comfortable with this and am working on getting her back into her own bedroom. Any suggestions? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saakura Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 My fiancée s 2 nieces sleep with there father. One is 12 and the other 14. The mother sleeps alone. Got me stuffed, but our kids won't be sleeping with us. Sent from my SM-P605 using Tapatalk They may be sleeping in the same room, definitely not in the same bed. This does not happen even in asia if the daughter is 14. Many rural houses do not have any special bedroom with closed doors, they sleep communally. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fatdrunkandstupid Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 (edited) I see no problem here whatsoever. If getting a good night sleep is the issue, get a bigger bed for all three of you. If you are going to be accused of something untoward with the minor, that will happen regardless of where she sleeps inside your house. So perhaps, before the keyboard warriors assail you hereunder you can have a good think, and then post exactly why you are uncomfortable with the current arrangement. Oh...and because it is "not my culture" is not an answer. It is a cloaked avoidance of the real reason(s) why you are uncomfortable. Edited May 11, 2014 by fatdrunkandstupid 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Soutpeel Posted May 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted May 11, 2014 Dude...for your own protection, you need to put a stop to this immediately. This situation is putting you in danger. Yes I agree I am not comfortable with this and am working on getting her back into her own bedroom. Any suggestions? Offer to buy her an I-pad if she don't already have one....I AM being serious BTW.....tell her if she sleeps in her own room, you will buy her one so she will not be lonely in her own room.... 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Soutpeel Posted May 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted May 11, 2014 I see no problem here whatsoever. If getting a good night sleep is the issue, get a bigger bed for all three of you. If you are going to be accused of something untoward with the minor, that will happen regardless of where she sleeps inside your house. So perhaps, before the keyboard warriors assail you hereunder you can have a good think, and then post exactly why you are uncomfortable with the current arrangement. Oh...and because it is "not my culture" is not an answer. It is a cloaked avoidance of the real reason(s) why you are uncomfortable. Not going to answer this one as I may run the risk of being banned.... 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uptheos Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 Dude...for your own protection, you need to put a stop to this immediately. This situation is putting you in danger. Yes I agree I am not comfortable with this and am working on getting her back into her own bedroom. Any suggestions? Offer to buy her an I-pad if she don't already have one....I AM being serious BTW.....tell her if she sleeps in her own room, you will buy her one so she will not be lonely in her own room.... Yup. TV etc, make it a place where she feels comfortable. Isn't it hot three in a bed? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stubuzz Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 Sleeping together is village style. If ever there was an allegation of wrong doing, you could be charged in your home country. Criminal Justice and Immigration Act 2008 This act allows people to be charged in the UK for crimes committed abroad. I think Australia has a similar act in place. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AussieSteve Posted May 11, 2014 Author Share Posted May 11, 2014 I see no problem here whatsoever. If getting a good night sleep is the issue, get a bigger bed for all three of you. If you are going to be accused of something untoward with the minor, that will happen regardless of where she sleeps inside your house. So perhaps, before the keyboard warriors assail you hereunder you can have a good think, and then post exactly why you are uncomfortable with the current arrangement. Oh...and because it is "not my culture" is not an answer. It is a cloaked avoidance of the real reason(s) why you are uncomfortable. You may be comfortable sleeping with a minor but I think you will be in a minority here ( or maybe not ......this is what people often associate with Thailand) The "real" reason wether you see this as cloaked or otherwise is I want some privacy with my GF to have some "fun" Plus I don't want to be in a position of being accused of "touching" a minor. The fact that it isn't normally accepted in my culture covers both these topics. Or not??? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Soutpeel Posted May 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted May 11, 2014 Isn't it hot three in a bed? ...certainly was the few times I got involved in a 'ménage à trois' with two other consenting adult ladies.... 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fatdrunkandstupid Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 Buy her a puppy. One of those little waste of a dog Paris Hilton handbags. After she falls hopelessly in love with it, develop an allergic reaction to it. Dogs has to sleep in the other bedroom, she will follow. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soutpeel Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 (edited) I see no problem here whatsoever. If getting a good night sleep is the issue, get a bigger bed for all three of you. If you are going to be accused of something untoward with the minor, that will happen regardless of where she sleeps inside your house. So perhaps, before the keyboard warriors assail you hereunder you can have a good think, and then post exactly why you are uncomfortable with the current arrangement. Oh...and because it is "not my culture" is not an answer. It is a cloaked avoidance of the real reason(s) why you are uncomfortable. You may be comfortable sleeping with a minor but I think you will be in a minority here ( or maybe not ......this is what people often associate with Thailand) The "real" reason wether you see this as cloaked or otherwise is I want some privacy with my GF to have some "fun" Plus I don't want to be in a position of being accused of "touching" a minor. The fact that it isn't normally accepted in my culture covers both these topics. Or not??? "Steve" Pay no attention to this poster, he lives up to his monikor all the time by posting rubbish like this Edited May 11, 2014 by Soutpeel 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AussieSteve Posted May 11, 2014 Author Share Posted May 11, 2014 Isn't it hot three in a bed? ...certainly was the few times I got involved in a 'ménage à trois' with two other consenting adult ladies.... Yes it was too hot................. that problem was fixed now she has her own mattress. But still in the same bedroom. Hoping to move her soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 Dude...for your own protection, you need to put a stop to this immediately. This situation is putting you in danger. Yes I agree I am not comfortable with this and am working on getting her back into her own bedroom. Any suggestions? Offer to buy her an I-pad if she don't already have one....I AM being serious BTW.....tell her if she sleeps in her own room, you will buy her one so she will not be lonely in her own room.... Yup. TV etc, make it a place where she feels comfortable. Isn't it hot three in a bed? Some May thanks it's hot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AussieSteve Posted May 11, 2014 Author Share Posted May 11, 2014 Dude...for your own protection, you need to put a stop to this immediately. This situation is putting you in danger. Yes I agree I am not comfortable with this and am working on getting her back into her own bedroom. Any suggestions? Offer to buy her an I-pad if she don't already have one....I AM being serious BTW.....tell her if she sleeps in her own room, you will buy her one so she will not be lonely in her own room.... She's got one already....................... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soutpeel Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 Dude...for your own protection, you need to put a stop to this immediately. This situation is putting you in danger. Yes I agree I am not comfortable with this and am working on getting her back into her own bedroom. Any suggestions? Offer to buy her an I-pad if she don't already have one....I AM being serious BTW.....tell her if she sleeps in her own room, you will buy her one so she will not be lonely in her own room.... She's got one already....................... Need to find her some other suitable "bribe" then... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AussieSteve Posted May 11, 2014 Author Share Posted May 11, 2014 Still no reply from anyone who has experienced this personally in a new Farang/Thai relationship? I would be very interested to hear what you did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post transam Posted May 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted May 11, 2014 Still no reply from anyone who has experienced this personally in a new Farang/Thai relationship? I would be very interested to hear what you did. You should use YOUR head. YOU do not kip in a bed with a kid that is not yours..........Period..........I don't give a shit what YOUR GF says, it is taboooooo for you and me. Get some balls and put your foot down. ........................... 14 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maccaroni man Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 It's called the family bed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skint Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 You just need to tell her that it ain't happening and march her off to her own room, the only reason this happens is due to poverty. poor people sleep together and share bath water. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post arthurwait Posted May 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted May 11, 2014 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soutpeel Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 in a new Farang/Thai relationship? And this is another reason not to do it....its a new relationship 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Showbags Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 Sleep on the sofa until the gf sorts it out....deny sexual privileges for as long as it takes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post mrtoad Posted May 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted May 11, 2014 in a new Farang/Thai relationship?And this is another reason not to do it....its a new relationship Run for the hills Sent from my GT-I9500 using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 It's called the family bed No, it's call a big problem if the shit hits the fan with the OP's bird and a photo is handed to the BiB...... 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Showbags Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 or eats lots of beans and fart in bed. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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