How Much Do You Trust Your Partner?

[up-country_sinclair]

Maybe it's you and the company you keep.

You probably think yours is different

You seem to believe that because you've made horrible life choices that everyone else has too.

Quite frankly I can't even imagine being in a relationship like the one you've described that you're in. It's strikes me as extremely pathetic. Show some self respect and move on.

[John1thru10]

What's up with all the treads trying to replicate incredibly boring conversations recently?

Edited January 9, 2015 by John1thru10

[AnotherOneAmerican]

You seem to believe that because you've made horrible life choices that everyone else has too.

I made entirely normal life choices, same as everyone else.

You are just a bit naive, about relationships.

Some of us learn from life. Some don't.

Fool me once, shame on you.

Fool me twice, shame on me.

[empireboy]

Simple for me really Costas.

100% trust , both me to her and her to me. Been like that the 10 years weve been together.

Ditto in everything.

Same here.

My only advice... Do your homework first!

[Jungle Jim]

The question should be asked. Not how much you trust your partner. But where did you meet your partner. If you met her in a bar or massage shop your chances of it lasting and not getting taken to the cleaners are about nil. Would you trust a hooker back in your home country ? Can you understand or speak Thai? If not you are only asking for trouble. Be honest. I am curious how many here would tell the truth.

Edited January 9, 2015 by Jungle Jim

[chrisinth]

How much do you trust your partner?

I'm having serious issues at the moment.

Mine seems to enjoy sausage & mash much more than she used to, where did that come from?

Has she got a secret falang boyfriend?

Is she pregnant? She's 54 years old for goodness sake!

And i swear she is hording the after eight mints, although she could be sending these to her family without telling me as i haven't found any wrappers.

Too many questions, not enough answers............................

Apart from that, everything good, at least i can trust her to do the shopping, online banking and pay the bills.......................

[luk AJ]

Trust a little bit:) who on this forum would give you partner unlimitted access to everything you own? Never ever I would be so foolish and yet I have a very good relationship.

[thailandusauk]

"Cheating" is in the head of the cheated only...

This is so much nothing and people should buy a life...

Edited January 9, 2015 by thailandusauk

[Jungle Jim]

wow ! Where did you meet her ?

trust her not to steal my house ...... 0%
trust her not to have sex with someone else ...... 0%
trust her not to steal from my wallet ...... 0%

She's a great s&%g though!

[wvavin]

Costas2008, as delicate as you think my advice is no matter how you must reserve "something" for the real rainy days.

[thailiketoo]

wow ! Where did you meet her ?

trust her not to steal my house ...... 0%

trust her not to have sex with someone else ...... 0%

trust her not to steal from my wallet ...... 0%

She's a great s&%g though!

She is a judge in Family court.

[jgm005]

There are moments of I wonder but in the end I trust her completely.

My moments maybe due to my own failings.

[senor123]

Without a doubt, the best partners are bar-girls. I had one for a g/f for a few years. I never worried about whether she was cheating or lying because that was her job. I slept soundly knowing that.

[Nowisee]

Trust and love are tied together in many of these replies.

I keep money separate and safe from my emotional feelings.
When the split happens, there is enough to deal with, don't need added stress of financial issues.

[Yoshimura]

I trust the girl that I am with and it's hard to be 100% , I try to be realistic because it could all come crashing down at any time for whatever reason which is why I just try to keep it casual in a sense. I'm happy with no worries and concerns because I'm not totally wrapped up in the relationship so much to where I lose my self identity if you know what I mean. If it she should cheat on me for whatever reason, it wouldn't be a drastic change for me to be on my own once again. I'm not married and I will keep it that way because there is nothing on the line, if she cheats , she leaves empty handed, if we were married than it would be a different story, it would be much harder to be casual when you stand to lose out. In a perfect world it would be nice to have total trust in a relationship but this is Thailand and changing partners is so easy and there is so much temptation around us. I've been in a relationship where I had very little trust and I didn't enjoy the relationship at all, I felt like I was on borrowed time with her. It was my first and last mistake at thinking I could convert a bar girl into a girl friend. Doomed right from the beginning.

[peterb0576]

Trust my wife 100%,I was fleeced by my exwife (good old UK law) she got the lot, i kept my pension, my wife has her own car,her own house , works for a good company in Rayong, she trusts me 100% 2, she is 20yrs younger than me, we have a good life, we have fun, we both don't drink,smoke or gamble, we have good friends, infact we live a very normal life, and we don't give all our money to her family, did not pay her mum and dad so we could get married,or her brothers motorcycles or carsetc we have a very normal life so yes trust her 100%

[watcharacters]

You seem to believe that because you've made horrible life choices that everyone else has too.

I made entirely normal life choices, same as everyone else.

You are just a bit naive, about relationships.

Some of us learn from life. Some don't.

Fool me once, shame on you.

Fool me twice, shame on me.

[Jungle Jim]

Why in the world would you stay with someone you don,t trust ?

Simple for me really Costas.

100% trust , both me to her and her to me. Been like that the 10 years weve been together.

Ditto in everything.

[Tchooptip]

trust her not to steal my house ...... 0%

trust her not to have sex with someone else ...... 0%

trust her not to steal from my wallet ...... 0%

She's a great s&%g though!

And in spite of the situation you manage to control your blood pressure ! Congratulation

[Jungle Jim]

Well at least you learn something. Don,t get involved with a bar girl , a massage girl or one that had a foreigner before. If your that dumb or hard up you deserve what you get.

I trust the girl that I am with and it's hard to be 100% , I try to be realistic because it could all come crashing down at any time for whatever reason which is why I just try to keep it casual in a sense. I'm happy with no worries and concerns because I'm not totally wrapped up in the relationship so much to where I lose my self identity if you know what I mean. If it she should cheat on me for whatever reason, it wouldn't be a drastic change for me to be on my own once again. I'm not married and I will keep it that way because there is nothing on the line, if she cheats , she leaves empty handed, if we were married than it would be a different story, it would be much harder to be casual when you stand to lose out. In a perfect world it would be nice to have total trust in a relationship but this is Thailand and changing partners is so easy and there is so much temptation around us. I've been in a relationship where I had very little trust and I didn't enjoy the relationship at all, I felt like I was on borrowed time with her. It was my first and last mistake at thinking I could convert a bar girl into a girl friend. Doomed right from the beginning.

[starky]

implicitly or she wouldn't be my partner... sounds to me like you shouldn't be with yours.. or are you having a sly Thai bash? Because any woman in the world can do the same things that so many Thai women get unreasonably accused of on forums such as these

[kingstonkid]

Costas in the beginning there were doubts and the guard was up but we have been together 4 years and she has not only never given me reason to doubt her but has only gotten better.

[luk AJ]

50% of marriages fail, face the truth, be realistic. The question is not wether you trust your partner, just don't take the risk loosing it all.

[F4UCorsair]

Costas are you sure you're not seeking advice for something that has happened, and not something that may happen?

Edited January 9, 2015 by F4UCorsair

[starky]

Simple for me really Costas.

100% trust , both me to her and her to me. Been like that the 10 years weve been together.

Ditto in everything.

I agree with N47HAN and Crossy 100%.

I have known my wife 21 years and been married to her for 16 years this April.

Congratulations. Just wish there were more posts like this but I believe those that are happy don't bother screaming it from the mountaintop unlike the so many "boo hoo Thai girl done me bad stories" that people love to trot out. Truth is there is no data that states a relationship between a Thai and a foreigner has any less chance than any other relationship in the world it's just all bar stool BS perpetrated by clowns that want relationships with hookers and didn't go in with both eyes open.

[up-country_sinclair]

You seem to believe that because you've made horrible life choices that everyone else has too.

I made entirely normal life choices, same as everyone else.

No, you most certainly did not make "normal life choices, same as everyone else".

Everyone else doesn't have an ex-wife who "takes everything they had".

Everyone else isn't in a relationship with someone who they can't trust not to "steal money from their wallet".

In fact, the majority of people don't end up in these types of pathetic and desperate circumstances.

You've made horrible life choices and you're clearly bitter about how it played out for you.

[abhaya]

How much do you trust yourself?

[Costas2008]

Costas are you sure you're not seeking advice for something that has happened, and not something that may happen?

I'm not seeking any advice here.

I have been burned from my ex-wife, not Thai but British and I always have my guard up with my Thai wife.

As AOA said;

Burn me once, shame on you, burn me twice, shame on me.

For the past 7 years, I have enjoyed my life with her and I can say that I adore her.

But situations can change, as many posters said.

So nothing wrong of me having my eyes and ears on alert.

I wouldn't like to go through the same again in my life, so better be prepared than sorry.

[stopthegreed]

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Too many variables. If it's food prepared in the store, it'll differ from one Big C to another and it'll depend on who's preparing it. I doubt they have some country-wide uniform preparation guide for such things.

Thais don't tend to use a lot of table salt in cooking things, but it'll be present from fish sauce & other add-ons used in cooking & preservatives and they may use MSG & the cheapest cooking oils which could be another concern if you're worried about what you're actually consuming.

Simple for me really Costas.

100% trust , both me to her and her to me. Been like that the 10 years weve been together.

DONT TRUST ANYONE. And in particular a girl friend and her family. It's all about your money not you !!!

[Soutpeel]

I don't wholly trust anyone, except my parents and brother

The question one needs to ask themselves if their spouse did the dirt on them could they start over pretty easily or do they have all their eggs in one basket

Plan for the worst and hope for the best has always been my motto