A French-Thai long-distance love story

[Whyamiandwhatamidoinghere]

Just remember this story and his name. Another suicide statistic in the making. Love is never "True" in Thailand it is conditional as she has stated.

[Whyamiandwhatamidoinghere]

I have the perfect relationship and it is sometimes long distance. You see... She stays with her parents (long distance across town) and comes stays with me off and on. When we argue she runs home and takes time to cool off then comes back to continue. When I get tired of seeing her ass I tell her to go home because I need some quality time with myself or vice-versa. I'm not going to throw a monkey wrench into the works by getting married.

[hdkane]

You cynical bunch of losers, someone else posts something positive and relatively cheerful and what happens?

You are falling over each other to post your well worn and pathetic rhetoric.

Are your poor and boring lives so empty that they need a few seconds of moronic titillation from your thoughtless comments?

Get a life for goodness sake!

Also, ANY post or enquiry on this forum will bring negative comments. It's really disappointing that so many expats here are so smug and cynical. They act like spoiled kids. I joined and read this forum to learn about my adopted home, and hopefully gather informattion that might add to the quality of life. I even harbored the notion that I might meet some nice people. While I have learned quite a bit, the most trenchant lesson I've learned is that most expats are jerks.

[NeverSure]

You cynical bunch of losers, someone else posts something positive and relatively cheerful and what happens?

You are falling over each other to post your well worn and pathetic rhetoric.

Are your poor and boring lives so empty that they need a few seconds of moronic titillation from your thoughtless comments?

Get a life for goodness sake!

Also, ANY post or enquiry on this forum will bring negative comments. It's really disappointing that so many expats here are so smug and cynical. They act like spoiled kids. I joined and read this forum to learn about my adopted home, and hopefully gather informattion that might add to the quality of life. I even harbored the notion that I might meet some nice people. While I have learned quite a bit, the most trenchant lesson I've learned is that most expats are jerks.

"...the most trenchant lesson I've learned is that most expats are jerks."

Some are for sure, especially when they have an anonymizing keyboard. I do however have some good expat friends in Thailand so I don't have a broad brush. I'm always surprised when an expat states that he stays away from all expats. I think that's sad.

But I agree that if you start a thread on here you'll likely find the bitter ones. That's one of the reasons I rarely start a thread. However, I have always avoided some people and chosen my friends carefully. On here one doesn't get to choose who he talks to other than via the ignore feature.

Cheers.

[bangon04]

"He does not mind that he is not Pornpan’s first love and embraces her son, who is now 15 years old."

that comment sort of sums up the Thai contempt bemusement that anyone would want such a woman...??

[kinmaew]

Like moths to the flame. How much love would there be if he said "Ohh sorry I already have a house in France, farang cannot own house and land here so we rent do you still love me?" Don't worry farang the lovely Nok on Soi 8 will take care u

[jaapfries]

The following history is not mine, but from another farang I know. He is sharing this on a public web site.

If you do not care about love...not waste your time reading it, but ...perhaps will give some hope to the skeptic ones here....that probably still looking for love in wrong places..

I met my Thai wife through a friend and his wife. My wife is a Bangkok girl 15 years younger than me. She was a widow with two young daughters and her father had also died so she lived in a house with her mother -aunt and the daughters -a house with no men. As such she was the bread winner that fed the family. She was educated and had 2 degrees at university and a good but pressurized job as a manager of a Big C. She had managed to save enough money to buy 2 other houses which she rented out and her mother made noodles to help out the family budget and also a small shop attached to the family house.

After I asked her if she wanted to get married she said yes and we went to ask for permission from her mother who gave her consent. I paid 600 pounds dowry (@ 30,000 thb) which her mother waied and gave straight to her daughter.

My wife then came to live with me in England and worked with me in my market business. She worked hard and also educated me in customer service and retail that she had learned from Big C and our business increased (also customers loved her smile). The work was very hard in cold conditions and long hours but she always got stuck in and never complained.

Every month we sent money over for the daughters and every February we returned for a month holiday. The first and every time we went back to Thailand the mother-in-law handed over the same pound notes we had sent her unchanged into baht. Also she surprised me with a large gold chain and a precious Buddha amulet.

After that we took first one daughter over to the UK and the next year the younger one. They both went to school not knowing any English and they struggled but they learned to speak it in one year. At weekends they accompanied us to work and worked hard helping. They also cleaned and cooked at home. Eventually both girls gained degrees -the eldest one in English university and the younger one back in Khon Kaen University. The eldest daughter fell in love with England and went from strength to strength and now is a manager for an international retail company.

After seven years we decided to retire back home (Thailand) and we came back with the youngest daughter. I had sold our small house in the UK and my wife sold her two spare houses in Thailand and we built a riverside resort in Isaan but after being flooded twice we sold and moved here to the mountains where we do small farming.

So what did I get for my 600 pounds? Well I got the money straight back -I got an educated and hardworking wife -two lovely daughters- a great welcome from all the large family including the family of my wife's late husband that we live near and do anything for us. I got 15 years faithful wife plus the money from her two houses… oh.. and nearly forgot a large gold chain--yes my sin sod was the best investment I have ever made "pure gold". Remember sin sod is more than buying a wife, as with everything in Thai life it's about bringing good luck –

it sure brought me some

@Umbanda: Good on You, mate ! - It's so good to hear a positive story on here. Please disregard all the wingers ! - My own story is very similar to yours and we're still going strong (even stronger !) after 22 years ! My beautiful Thai (Lawyer) wife is the single best thing that's ever happened to me. - Thanks for sharing !

[umbanda]

I have the perfect relationship and it is sometimes long distance. You see... She stays with her parents (long distance across town) and comes stays with me off and on. When we argue she runs home and takes time to cool off then comes back to continue. When I get tired of seeing her ass I tell her to go home because I need some quality time with myself or vice-versa. I'm not going to throw a monkey wrench into the works by getting married.

Good that works for you...but ...please...do not call that a "perfect relationship"....even for a long distance affair.

[BB24]

Those who have been 'conned' and taken for a ride, write cynical comments.

Those who have been selective/lucky and not taken for a ride, wish them all the best.

Same old, same old.

row row row your boat gently down the stream...............

[Jungle Jim]

Glad you figured that out that MOST expats are jerks. Have a chat with Mr. Toad and his gang and he will prove your point. Beware he will likely stalk you on every page.

You cynical bunch of losers, someone else posts something positive and relatively cheerful and what happens?

You are falling over each other to post your well worn and pathetic rhetoric.

Are your poor and boring lives so empty that they need a few seconds of moronic titillation from your thoughtless comments?

Get a life for goodness sake!

Also, ANY post or enquiry on this forum will bring negative comments. It's really disappointing that so many expats here are so smug and cynical. They act like spoiled kids. I joined and read this forum to learn about my adopted home, and hopefully gather informattion that might add to the quality of life. I even harbored the notion that I might meet some nice people. While I have learned quite a bit, the most trenchant lesson I've learned is that most expats are jerks.

[CapeThai]

everything should be fine as long as NO flirting

Yeah right, in Pattaya of all places...... He must be gay or she accepts the fact that he cannot get a erection...??

[CapeThai]

Glad you figured that out that MOST expats are jerks. Have a chat with Mr. Toad and his gang and he will prove your point. Beware he will likely stalk you on every page.

You cynical bunch of losers, someone else posts something positive and relatively cheerful and what happens?

You are falling over each other to post your well worn and pathetic rhetoric.

Are your poor and boring lives so empty that they need a few seconds of moronic titillation from your thoughtless comments?

Get a life for goodness sake!

Also, ANY post or enquiry on this forum will bring negative comments. It's really disappointing that so many expats here are so smug and cynical. They act like spoiled kids. I joined and read this forum to learn about my adopted home, and hopefully gather informattion that might add to the quality of life. I even harbored the notion that I might meet some nice people. While I have learned quite a bit, the most trenchant lesson I've learned is that most expats are jerks.

Sorry to burst your bubble Mr. Positive but the guys are simply talking about what they have seen happening in Pattaya. She is from Pattaya after all so it is what it is...

I know of ONE very cheerful EX supermarket worker who most probably would not have to take French lessons for too long....

[maidee]

the woman already got the house, in her name , as god forbid, that the farang would have the right to have land and 1 house in his name

now let's wait for an update of this happy story in a few months ...

Edited March 4, 2015 by maidee

[Whyamiandwhatamidoinghere]

You cynical bunch of losers, someone else posts something positive and relatively cheerful and what happens?

You are falling over each other to post your well worn and pathetic rhetoric.

Are your poor and boring lives so empty that they need a few seconds of moronic titillation from your thoughtless comments?

Get a life for goodness sake!

Also, ANY post or enquiry on this forum will bring negative comments. It's really disappointing that so many expats here are so smug and cynical. They act like spoiled kids. I joined and read this forum to learn about my adopted home, and hopefully gather informattion that might add to the quality of life. I even harbored the notion that I might meet some nice people. While I have learned quite a bit, the most trenchant lesson I've learned is that most expats are jerks.

I think there are expats here who have had the wool, if that's what you choose to call that furry box with a g-spot, pulled over their eyes a time or two or know one who has. They can tell you of more tragic stories of Thai women involved in outright theft of properties and life savings, murders and contributors to suicides (in the name of Love) of mostly good hard working foreign men trying to find their last chance at happiness than this strangely familiar long distance relationship/marriage story. So excuse those knowledgeable persons who know the reality of the harsh statistics verses a warm fuzzy feeling.

[AZBill]

Really! News?