Mystery Solved

[hocuspocus]

Following my topic about the Monks a few weeks ago I have received information as to why the Thai young men have no financial responsibility for their parents. My new wife told me today when I asked why she supported (very well) her parents financially (with my money) and we do not live anywhere near them. But her brother who lives with the parents because (get this) he has honored his parents by been a Monk for between one to three months. The brother who works in the sugar cane when he is not laying in the hammock next to his Papa is free to spend his money on whatever he wants without putting hardly anything into the family pot. Meanwhile my wife apart from paying the family car payments of 5200 baht a month (my money) she has just took out a 21000 baht loan to tide them over and on top of that she just spent 5000 on a two ring gas cooker plus the bottle. Now she is talking about buying them a new TV.

Now before anyone tells me she is only with me for the money, well you are probably right but I get what I want once or twice a day (on the cheap really). Yes the family are probably waiting for me to die so my wife gives them the contents of my Thai bank account which I keep for my visa but very shortly that will be transferred back to the UK so they will probably be in for a shock when I die.

Surely we live in a sexually equal society and the females should be given the opportunity to become a Monk and get the same privilidges as the Thai males.

I rest my case.

[bkkjames]

What?

[transam]

What Case.......?

[Bung]

So your paying for sex then?

[Costas2008]

Love you man.

You've got it 100% right.

Enjoy yourself as much as you can........life is short.

As about the money......who gives a s$it, they are only here for us to enjoy life.

Wish there were more people around like you and me

[h90]

her brother doesn't pay because you pay already everything.

I know enough Thai men who give money for their parents and I know Thai women who doesn't....

But who catch the walking ATM who pays

[hocuspocus]

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So your paying for sex then?

Did I say that?

[ramrod45]

Geez, it's probably cheaper to rent, and have more variety, less drama, and no commitments. It still amazes me how many guys come to Thailand and really want one thing only, and are pretty much ready to sell the boat to get it. To me, when it becomes so important to a person, either they must have low self-esteem, need to prove their "manliness", or have some domination issue over women that they need to screw all day. I don't know, life seems to have a lot more to offer than satisfying the little head, but then again, if it floats your boat, so be it. But in this case, sounds like another ATM walking around.....

[WitawatWatawit]

Have I got this right? You're saying that because the brother has spent a few idle days as a monk, it entitles him to be idle for the rest of his life and contribute zip to the family? Mate, book yourself into the nearest temple and send the wife out to work.

[hocuspocus]

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Have I got this right? You're saying that because the brother has spent a few idle days as a monk, it entitles him to be idle for the rest of his life and contribute zip to the family? Mate, book yourself into the nearest temple and send the wife out to work.

That's what she told me today. Have thought about the Monk thing but do not have a work permit.

[Rooo]

To expat life.

[apetley]

I guess I'm grateful that my parents in law have, amongst other attributes, enough self respect not to ponce off of their daughters.

Edited March 31, 2015 by apetley

[NeverSure]

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So your paying for sex then?

Did I say that?

Yes.

[VillageIdiot]

If you're not a troll, you're a sucker.

[sdanielmcev]

Maybe you should think with the big head? I mean since it bothers you.........

[peterb17]

Sometimes I think sex is rather overrated - it's certainly costing you a fair packet- not much each month- but then add it all up over the year.

The monk story is just nonsense.

[billphillips]

It's quite simple really. If someone else is paying, no need for them to pay as well. Too much money into the family piggy bank can only bode badly. Such as alcohol, gambling, expensive food and vehicles etc. it's so good of you to come to this faraway land called Thailand and support the large number of people that you do. I'm sure that they thank you every minute of evert day. Stop now, everybody needs to realise that they have to work every day, every week, month, year for 50 years of their life. That's how you earn money, and it teaches you to respect it for what it is ... Hard earned.

[elgordo38]

I guess I'm grateful that my parents in law have, amongst other attributes, enough self respect not to ponce off of their daughters.

My g/f's family consists of 4 daughters and 1 son. The girls faithfully give what they can when they can for their parents upkeep. The son is to busy with his new g/f and new truck to contribute money. The father kept after the mother to get pregnant till a son was produced. To make a long story short the women are the back bone of Thailand the males are the spineless part.

[SoiBiker]

Sometimes I think sex is rather overrated - it's certainly costing you a fair packet- not much each month- but then add it all up over the year.

The monk story is just nonsense.

Sex is awesome. But if you build your whole life around it, to the point where you move halfway round the world to a place you don't otherwise like much and surround yourself with people you don't have a decent relationship with just because of it, maybe your priorities are a bit out of whack.

[peterb17]

It's quite simple really. If someone else is paying, no need for them to pay as well. Too much money into the family piggy bank can only bode badly. Such as alcohol, gambling, expensive food and vehicles etc. it's so good of you to come to this faraway land called Thailand and support the large number of people that you do. I'm sure that they thank you every minute of evert day. Stop now, everybody needs to realise that they have to work every day, every week, month, year for 50 years of their life. That's how you earn money, and it teaches you to respect it for what it is ... Hard earned.

Spot on- the bf says you are a rich man- well yes I am not exactly poor- but it is the result of getting up every day at 6.30 , commuting in packed trains and working for many years.

I won't pay a penny to his family on a regular basis- he has to work to support his Mum- who is a good lady.

I will be very generous for birthdays and help out for things such a funeral - but no monthly payments .

You need to set out strict rules- but then the OP seems to be thinking with a different head.?

[NickJ]

When her brother has a baby....they will think about you when they name him!!!!

Congrats dude you struck gold!!!!!!!!!!

[benalibina]

I guess I'm grateful that my parents in law have, amongst other attributes, enough self respect not to ponce off of their daughters.

My g/f's family consists of 4 daughters and 1 son. The girls faithfully give what they can when they can for their parents upkeep. The son is to busy with his new g/f and new truck to contribute money. The father kept after the mother to get pregnant till a son was produced. To make a long story short the women are the back bone of Thailand the males are the spineless part.

On your last sentence.....and so the myth continues.......who and why are they responsible for that ?

[krisb]

Are you angry at the brother, your wife or yourself for letting all this happen?

[wooloomooloo]

Twice a day for the money you're paying is cheap. You're on to a winner.

[colinneil]

OP why would Thais pay when they got you?

Pay up enjoy the daughter do not try to change the situation because you will not succeed.

My situation, wifes family all contribute same as me . I am never asked to pay, unless cost is shared.

F.I.L. comes our home eats goes away, goes another family home, eats goes away, i do not have a problem with that, wife is happy, so if she is happy i am happy and life is good.

[georgemandm]

Sorry to say this but why do western man come to thailand and put up with bulls?it from there thai partners if it were me not one bht I have lay down the law I pay I do if you pay you do but not with my money go and work and use your money not mine .

[hocuspocus]

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OP why would Thais pay when they got you?

Pay up enjoy the daughter do not try to change the situation because you will not succeed.

My situation, wifes family all contribute same as me . I am never asked to pay, unless cost is shared.

F.I.L. comes our home eats goes away, goes another family home, eats goes away, i do not have a problem with that, wife is happy, so if she is happy i am happy and life is good.

I know I will never change things but I will always have my moans about the situation. I am usually ok with the situation as I say I get what I want once or twice a day (a cooked breakfast and an evening meal) but when I have to go down to the village on rare occasions, like yesterday when I had to take my old fridge down there I get pissed off when her father does not even acknowledge me. So if I stay my distance from them I am OK. As Costas agrees with me the money is immaterial if you are enjoying life why worry as you have to spend your money somewhere and why not on a cook and cleaner.

[Aussieroaming]

I have never had to give a brass razoo....not saying I wouldn't listen if I was asked

[hocuspocus]

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Are you angry at the brother, your wife or yourself for letting all this happen?

It is the brother I have the problem with. My wife has always supported her family and I do not expect to change that but her brother should do more to help and ease the pressure I believe she is under.

[NoshowJones]

Hocuspokus. You are off your head, giving all that money to your wifes family????? It may be through your wife

but you are the one who is being so stupid.

No wonder lots of Thai girls are looking for Farang husbands with mugs like you around.

Surely this has got to be a troll post.