micmichd Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 (edited) You don't have friends once your stigmatized. And nobody cares for an emigrant that returns without money, nobody will feel responsible. Worse, everyone will suspect you've got something to hide. I was in Germany last year, the bank refused to transfer my pension, so I was there completely without any money for 3 weeks. A situation to run amuck - and get locked up forever. Edited August 24, 2015 by micmichd Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fish fingers Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 (edited) Do you have family or friends "back home" that can bail you out short time to at least get you "legal" again here and able to look for work ? or assist you in returning to your home country where you can obtain work perhaps more easily and sort yourself out. No, I don't have any family left (although I'm only 38) and, since I came to Thailand 8 years ago, no friends left back home either. I just find this to be incredibly odd. No family or friends. Back home or in Thailand. How is this possible? There are expats who've been in Thailand 20 years plus, never returning home, yet still have family and friends. Sorry, but I don't buy it. I can see why (BTW he doesn't mention he has zero friends in Thailand), once in your 30's your friends go in different directions and its fairly easy to lose touch if living in another country, even w Facebook No Family.. its possible. In my case/ Immediate family I have just my mum; dad and brother died but I now have a loving wife Edited August 24, 2015 by fish fingers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seancbk Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 What is your nationality? Do you have continuing health problems? Have you worked in your home country and if so, for home long? Your writing sounds like you're from the U.S. If so, perhaps it would be worth returning and applying for disability. Just a thought. Belgium. Physically, I'm fine now (apart from some residual pain). My mental health has gradually deteriorated over the past six months though. I'm in a deep depression and I now suffer from anxiety on top of it. Sorry to hear of your situation Nicolas. Internations Bangkok seems to have quite a few Belgian members, perhaps you could seek help from fellow Belgians who might be able to offer assistance. There is also a Belgian Club of Thailand where you also could perhaps find fellow countrymen that might help - http://www.belgianclubthailand.com/ I'm sorry I can't offer any more help than to suggest you might reach out to those groups. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
opalred Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 a 38yr old belgium man that dont drink? the belgium govt should bring him home as a hero Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eskatonia Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 I just find this to be incredibly odd. No family or friends. Back home or in Thailand. How is this possible? There are expats who've been in Thailand 20 years plus, never returning home, yet still have family and friends. Sorry, but I don't buy it. The "no friends" thing can be another symptom of depression. I've been in holes where I truly believed I had no one to turn to, only to realise when I was better that there were people that would have helped me. Anyway, the OP has been given several good options on here including some decent Belgians willing to give him a go, so I sincerely hope he gets some help of all kinds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
micmichd Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 I just find this to be incredibly odd. No family or friends. Back home or in Thailand. How is this possible? There are expats who've been in Thailand 20 years plus, never returning home, yet still have family and friends. Sorry, but I don't buy it. The "no friends" thing can be another symptom of depression. I've been in holes where I truly believed I had no one to turn to, only to realise when I was better that there were people that would have helped me. Anyway, the OP has been given several good options on here including some decent Belgians willing to give him a go, so I sincerely hope he gets some help of all kinds. He didn't say "no friends at all" For stranded or sick Germans they have a help center (Deutscher Hilfeverein) in Bangkok and Pattaya. Maybe there is something for Belgians, too. I would ask Belgian embassy, they should know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luk AJ Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 I don' get it, I offered him help but no reply at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MockingJay Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Folks, forget it - I did send this guy a personal message with a lot of info about myself and family and what ups and downs I went through with an offer to help if I get more info about him in return, so I can make up my mind, but he did not bother to reply. If it were that urgent, there should have been something in my mailbox by now, but I got zip. This said, make up your own mind if it is worthwile to invest your time and brain cells in this one... I for myself will delete my message now and block the OP. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcfish Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Folks, forget it - I did send this guy a personal message with a lot of info about myself and family and what ups and downs I went through with an offer to help if I get more info about him in return, so I can make up my mind, but he did not bother to reply. If it were that urgent, there should have been something in my mailbox by now, but I got zip. This said, make up your own mind if it is worthwile to invest your time and brain cells in this one... I for myself will delete my message now and block the OP. Maybe he is exhausted and needed some sleep or maybe he got evicted. I wouldnt write him off that quickly, give him 24 hours to reply Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
balo Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 (edited) Folks, forget it - I did send this guy a personal message with a lot of info about myself and family and what ups and downs I went through with an offer to help if I get more info about him in return, so I can make up my mind, but he did not bother to reply. If it were that urgent, there should have been something in my mailbox by now, but I got zip. This said, make up your own mind if it is worthwile to invest your time and brain cells in this one... I for myself will delete my message now and block the OP. Maybe he is exhausted and needed some sleep or maybe he got evicted. I wouldnt write him off that quickly, give him 24 hours to reply Yes lets hope so , some people are looking for an easy escape, I hope he never considered it and will contact the members here offering him the help he needs Edited August 24, 2015 by balo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nikmar Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 My I reiterate my offer. I think I know this guy and if Im right then hes a decent fella. Get in touch if you can mate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mankondang Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Please, everyone let's all side on the side of safety. Depression is a bugger, and pushing everyone away is a typical symptom. Talking face to face is very hard let alone on TVisa. It's like walking on eggshells, we need to be supportive and very patient. Please stick with him and keep up your support. I must congratulate all of the positive response you have given, keep it up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chonabot Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 (edited) Writing jobs are everywhere, only people who do not want to work don't do it... Where are all these writing jobs please? I'd be grateful if you could post a few addresses. Thanks for your assistance. www.upwork.com www.elance.com Or use your noggin and Google = article + writers + wanted Alternatively send me a pm and I can send some copy writing work your way Assuming that your written English and creative skills are at least par for the course. Edited August 24, 2015 by chonabot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elliss Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 (edited) Thailand has many farang chancers , with limited finances , living here on false hope. They rely on the kindness / stupidity of other farangs ,such as borrowing money , whist playing their sad, bad luck song. If you do not have the financial back up , needed for health issues etc , you should stay in your home country . Edited August 24, 2015 by elliss Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
micmichd Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 (edited) Thailand has many farang chancers , with limited finances , living here on false hope. They rely on the kindness / stupidity of other farangs ,such as borrowing money , whist playing their sad, bad luck song. If you do not have the financial back up , needed for health issues etc , you should stay in your home country .[/quote You don't get it, do you? This guy had to spend all his money for health issues, that's why he's broke now. Wonder how long your financial backup would last in a situation like this. You would probably find your way jumping from the balcony. Edited August 24, 2015 by micmichd Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luk AJ Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Thailand has many farang chancers , with limited finances , living here on false hope. They rely on the kindness / stupidity of other farangs ,such as borrowing money , whist playing their sad, bad luck song. If you do not have the financial back up , needed for health issues etc , you should stay in your home country . The chances you are right and I am wrong are probably 9 to 1. But if he really is in need we can't just discuss this as an entertainment topic on TV. Once and a while this TV forum was able to help expats in urgent need, we have to stay alert for such possible cases with prudence of course. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DavidB4 Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Dear Nikolas, i am Belgian to, I discussed your situation with another Belgian friend. We may be able to help you, but we want to meet you first. Send me a message. Good for you!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
n210mp Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Lives can fall apart anywhere but it certainly complicates things when that happens to foreigners in Thailand without a support system. I think the OP is legit and to those who diss him I would say -- there but for the grace of God goes you. So do I Jingthing ! Good that so many on her can empathise with the OP pity that there are so many who can't! Just as an aside when I lapse into one of my periodic "Deeps" i try to force myself to look at videos like the one in this link for some encouragement. I am lucky insomuch that I can self medicate on some positive logic like the vid, I know that when I am having a really bad dose of the black dog syndrome that is nothing and now one who can help me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fish fingers Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 I just find this to be incredibly odd. No family or friends. Back home or in Thailand. How is this possible? There are expats who've been in Thailand 20 years plus, never returning home, yet still have family and friends. Sorry, but I don't buy it. The "no friends" thing can be another symptom of depression. I've been in holes where I truly believed I had no one to turn to, only to realise when I was better that there were people that would have helped me. Anyway, the OP has been given several good options on here including some decent Belgians willing to give him a go, so I sincerely hope he gets some help of all kinds. He didn't say "no friends at all" For stranded or sick Germans they have a help center (Deutscher Hilfeverein) in Bangkok and Pattaya. Maybe there is something for Belgians, too. I would ask Belgian embassy, they should know. somehow my forum name is attached to someones else's quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misterphil Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Hand yourself in to the Police station, and tell them that your the bomber they've been looking for. You'll get the 10mil baht reward and free bed and breakfast for the rest of your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tubby johnson Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Why has the OP given up on freelance writing, or work in general? A bad back hasn't deterred most people from contributing some work, and there's always abundant demand for freelance writers, as well as teachers, movie/TV extras, online marketers, telesales staff, etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
konying Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 My I reiterate my offer. I think I know this guy and if Im right then hes a decent fella. Get in touch if you can mate. I am guessing he does not have computer and easy access to one or internet, Most likely uses internet cafe but as he said only 2000 baht in the bank. May be send him PM, so if he does get a chance to log back in, he does not have to read the entire thread and possibly miss your offer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
konying Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Why has the OP given up on freelance writing, or work in general? A bad back hasn't deterred most people from contributing some work, and there's always abundant demand for freelance writers, as well as teachers, movie/TV extras, online marketers, telesales staff, etc. Back surgery is not a walk in the park, , sitting up is painful, not to mention all the pain killers, that either make you drowsy or sleepy. Once he was well enough to return to work, he said company he worked for has closed down or closing down. Once one has fallen into a pattern or depression, its not easy to think "out side the box" I am also guessing he may not be aware of where to look. How many TV members knew about Thai Visa prior to joining, I know it took me good 2-3 years to even discover Thai Visa existed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ozyjon Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 To everyone wanting to retire in Paradise, Thailand, Laos, Cambodia, Vietnam, anywhere outside your country, please read all the above --it could happen to you-- Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ryanhull Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 I know lads who have been in a similar situation here, one in particular I was out with last week... great guy he now has things sorted and a good job here, why am I telling you this? well don't panic your not the first person who has gone through this situation and you certainly will not be the last, alright you've been a bit of a numpty with cash combined with unexpected hits I understand.... peopleperhour.com is good for writers btw think straight and rational, blag as much as you can a ticket/way home and come back stronger and wiser. Your fault or not, sh1t happens... chin up and good luck mate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AhanFan Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 What is your nationality? Do you have continuing health problems? Have you worked in your home country and if so, for home long? Your writing sounds like you're from the U.S. If so, perhaps it would be worth returning and applying for disability and maybe returning. Lots of people live here on U.S. disability income. How? It does not seem plausible, but I guess it could be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ev1lchris Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Try the crowd funding. I really want to see you make it through this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meatboy Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 almost a 100 posts since he last replied,depression or LOVE SICK. me thinks we have all been TANGO,ED. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
micmichd Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 Not sure what the problem with his back is. I've got orthopaedical problems, too. I need injections in winter time, or sun. So, no expensive medical treatment required for me in Thailand. I would ask a doctor about this. Also, winter depression could be an issue, and a reason not to go back to Belgium. Without a place to go, outpatient care for treating depression would be impossible. Risk of hospitalisation in Belgium. Who would pay for medical care in Belgium? British NHS would be fine, but it's only available in the UK. As a freelancer in Thailand, he would probably have no health insurance in Belgium. So Belgian government would have to pay it all, from taxpayers' money. It might be cheaper for Belgium to leave him in Thailand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fey Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 (edited) if your options are that limited circumstances control you, rather then the other way around. prepare yourself mentally to do what you have to do. get ready to squat, eat from trash bins or turn to crime. you will do what you have to do to survive. you will survive, many other skint people do and there are things that work. you learn what works along the way. good luck. * i would do all this in my home country if you hail from somewhere civilized like belgium, and not in a third world foreign country. if things get life threatening your home country will pick you up. here you'll just die. i might try my hand a pickpocketing if i was without a ticket, but i'm a sneaky guy. may not work for you. Edited August 25, 2015 by fey Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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