What Do Thai Girls Expect From A Farang?

[dvk1951]

Some great retorts there LC and a keen sense of smell as well

Ok but generally you are? (at least according to the other forum members). But i will keep an open mind.

Nah, from the rest of your response, I don't think your mind is open enough.

Ppl seem to think that I am naive, but i don´t quite buy the "Opposite attracts" theory. sorry

You have your mind made up. So why bother posting your question in the first place? Everyone is different. That theory may be daft to you. But that has always been the case for me. I'm not attracted to Thai men. And quite a few other Thai girls have met are the same. So?

So thai men doesn´t really like farangs? I have been thinking about that one. I guess seeing fat, bald, obnoxious, p*ssed up, ugly, loud, smelly, smokey, fashion terrorist farangs with a nice thai lady under thair arm gets kinda annoying after a while.

So, keep an open mind eh?

Thats it? You only expect a nice loving caring handsome boyfriend/husband who is good in the sack and better financial status. Hum.. and what does the farangs get?

Me. My current boyfriend hasn't complained about anything yet though. So, I must do something right.

So you don´t get anything financially from your farang boyfriends?

Nothing, except a few meals/drinks here and there. I'm earning a local "salary". So, it's nowhere near expat's salary. But it's a good enough to take care of myself and my usual shit.

Do you mind telling me what type of work you do?

I work for a multi national company in spa industry. I have a degree from a top university in Thailand. I speak pretty good English. I look good enough for my age. Is that good enough?

Having said all that, I actually smell a troll.

[Rumourz]

I think I've heard more stories about gold digging western women than stories of Thai women.

Yeah.. agreed!! eg. Anna Nicole Smith..

[Yorkie]

(I hear a certain brewery is installing a pipeline directly from the plant into your home. They figured it would be cheaper than making those daily deliveries !)

Nah, they were just taking the piss.

You're referring to disposal of sewerage, yes?

[mark henry]

I’ve lived full time in Thailand for 5 years with a Thai wife 25 years my junior, and this is the conundrum I have been struggling with since I first visited Thailand 8 years ago. What is the magical attraction between young Thai women and older farang men? Every day I look in the mirror and see a 60 year old saggy, baggy heap of sh*t. Any US or European young woman would see the same and probably try to keep at least 50 feet away from me if not walk on the other side of the street. My wife says I am a sexy man for her. Oh yeah. Yet how come so many Thai young women (and I am talking about middle class professionals, not bar girls) go out of their way to flirt, sometimes heavily and even to the point of really hitting on me. It cannot be just because of the assumed money bags hanging out of my pockets or the potential security of being with a farang. It happens too often to be that simple. There must be something else. On the other side of the coin, why do so many farangs lose their brains when they come to Thailand and meet their first Thai ladies (usually bar girls in these cases)? Nowhere else am I aware of where men act so consistently stupidly. I can only put it down to some special affiliation (or is it affliction) between Thai women and farangs (particularly older ones) that I cannot understand.

Can’t say im that old as yet 50 well getting there.

Pondering over this now myself. Lovely cutie may be right that farangs are better in bed at least we would all like to think so.

Customs and traditions are different in every country. Farangs bring hope, financial stability into the lives of Thai woman and there families. Farangs as a rule do not strike there woman are not butterflies and I could go on.

A 30 year old Thai woman with a 50 year old man has a very good life for the duration of that mans life and brings status to her family (big face).

In most cases there future is bright.

It is there choice.

I'm only 2 years older than my Thai wife (i kick myself sometimes when i think i could of had one 10/20 younger than myself!!...i'm 42), never quite been able to gather from her why she wanted to marry a farang and come to cold, gloomy old uk with a guy with less than Brad Pitt looks.

I think the reasons have already been covered..stability, more financial security, better opportunities work wise and educationally (wife is in college learning English..free!), less crowded than BKK, not so hot! (last two my wife has mentioned) and as trivial as it seems my wife is always going on about having white skin and how much nicer it is than her (percieved) "black" skin as well as white skin having more status! I also think she immediatley got more status and street cred by marrying a farang in the eyes of her family and freinds.

[mark henry]

I think it's because of farrangs bigger willies

Most of my ex's refer to me as being a big prick

this made me laugh..thanks

[katnip]

TONG TONG TONG and shower shower shower which us Englishmen dont mind the showers its the Tong that is the problem

What is "TONG TONG TONG" ?

QUOTE(Jamie @ 2006-10-09 02:48:18)

I think I've heard more stories about gold digging western women than stories of Thai women.

Yeah.. agreed!! eg. Anna Nicole Smith..

I'd have thought the average western woman would be less concerned about the financial status of her partner, as many value their independence and now, incomes are often banked separately and household expenses shared.

If I think about Australia, the first purported "gold-digger" to come to mind would be Rose Hancock. She was from the Philippines and came to work as a maid for a wealthy and freshly-widowed man, 40 years her senior, called Lang Hancock. (Lang's wealth came from mining.) Their relationship progressed quickly. She is (was ?) quite a character. (See http://www.allenandunwin.com/Exports/produ...=9781865089348).

And I really can't think of more such stories from Australia right now, though there must be. I suspect there'd be a higher rate in the U.S. as there's more gold to be dug there.

[Beavis and Butthead]

First off, we are all not money grabbing little bitches, you know.

Sometimes, it's difficult for Thai girls who have dated foreign men before to date Thai men. A good number of Thai men wouldn't touch Thai girls who have been with foreigners. So, if a Thai girl has dated a foreigner, her chance of hooking up with a Thai guy gets slimmer.

LOL, tell that to Tippaporn

[newyorkman]

I speak pretty good English.

Oh come on now, don't be so modest. Out of all the Thai people I have talked to in Thailand, you speak the best English out of all of them.

She speaks really good English, and she talks like she's been around farang, based on her words and phrases. That's not standard English they tech her at school.

[elsie]

LOL, tell that to Tippaporn

I said "Thai men", not "Thai male leeches".

[newyorkman]

Hi

Im trying to understand how things work in thailand and more about thai girls. It seems that many girls i Thailand are looking for a farang relationship. Im thinking why would they do this unless it was for some economical reason. Does this mean that they are just on the lookout for a better more comfortable life (which is understandable)... hum. This got me thinking about the expectations they would have on a farang, Im refering to a regular thai girl looking for a farang not a bargirl.

I would like to have some kind of idea what would be expected from me, can anyone tell me?

By the way, Im 26 years old and from Sweden.

Thai girls would prefer Thai men; unfortunately Thai men have several fatal flaws (drinking, cheating, not working, etc.). So, they look to farang for better life, as my girlfriend explained to me after 2 years. Better life means everything. More love, more caring, don't forget more money and financial security. I don't mind buying her anything, she is beautiful. But first I made her sell all her gold and give me all her money from the bank to show me I can trust her. She did it. So I got her a business where she can make good money, about 50,000 baht per month. Buying her house and car next year. We're happy. Not the case with most farang. You have to test Thai girls first, otherwise you are likely to end up with a gold digger, as most farang can testify. You better off doing research on Thailand and come back like ... in 5 or 10 years.

[Beavis and Butthead]

I’ve lived full time in Thailand for 5 years with a Thai wife 25 years my junior, and this is the conundrum I have been struggling with since I first visited Thailand 8 years ago. What is the magical attraction between young Thai women and older farang men? Every day I look in the mirror and see a 60 year old saggy, baggy heap of sh*t. Any US or European young woman would see the same and probably try to keep at least 50 feet away from me if not walk on the other side of the street. My wife says I am a sexy man for her. Oh yeah. Yet how come so many Thai young women (and I am talking about middle class professionals, not bar girls) go out of their way to flirt, sometimes heavily and even to the point of really hitting on me. It cannot be just because of the assumed money bags hanging out of my pockets or the potential security of being with a farang. It happens too often to be that simple. There must be something else. On the other side of the coin, why do so many farangs lose their brains when they come to Thailand and meet their first Thai ladies (usually bar girls in these cases)? Nowhere else am I aware of where men act so consistently stupidly. I can only put it down to some special affiliation (or is it affliction) between Thai women and farangs (particularly older ones) that I cannot understand.

Can’t say im that old as yet 50 well getting there.

Pondering over this now myself. Lovely cutie may be right that farangs are better in bed at least we would all like to think so.

Customs and traditions are different in every country. Farangs bring hope, financial stability into the lives of Thai woman and there families. Farangs as a rule do not strike there woman are not butterflies and I could go on.

A 30 year old Thai woman with a 50 year old man has a very good life for the duration of that mans life and brings status to her family (big face).

In most cases there future is bright.

It is there choice.

I'm only 2 years older than my Thai wife (i kick myself sometimes when i think i could of had one 10/20 younger than myself!!...i'm 42), never quite been able to gather from her why she wanted to marry a farang and come to cold, gloomy old uk with a guy with less than Brad Pitt looks.

I think the reasons have already been covered..stability, more financial security, better opportunities work wise and educationally (wife is in college learning English..free!), less crowded than BKK, not so hot! (last two my wife has mentioned) and as trivial as it seems my wife is always going on about having white skin and how much nicer it is than her (percieved) "black" skin as well as white skin having more status! I also think she immediatley got more status and street cred by marrying a farang in the eyes of her family and freinds.

Your Thai wife is very lucky

[Beavis and Butthead]

The OP is from Sweden and is 26. I don't know why he would even care about all of this. It is a well known fact that Sweden has some of the most beautiful women in the world. At 26, he should be all over that and oblivious to all of this nonsense.

[newyorkman]

First off, we are all not money grabbing little bitches, you know.

Yes, many Thai girls are seeking relationship with foreigners. First thing that came to mind is "Opposite attracts". Many white males find us attractive. And many of us find white males attractive too. And yes, better financial status is a part of the whole thing also. Another thing is that a lot of Thai girls believe are more faithful than Thai men - which I personally like to keep races out of it. Anyone can be a cheater.

Sometimes, it's difficult for Thai girls who have dated foreign men before to date Thai men. A good number of Thai men wouldn't touch Thai girls who have been with foreigners. So, if a Thai girl has dated a foreigner, her chance of hooking up with a Thai guy gets slimmer.

And last but not least, we believe that foreigners are better between the sheets.

So what do we expect? A nice loving caring handsome boyfriend/husband who is good in the sack.

I never see in all the years I spent in Thailand one time when Thai girl with decent job or even without one has ever tried to date a poor man, farang or Thai. Money is a big issue, as it should be, because man should provide for his future family. Still, in Thailand money increases status, and every Thail lady seeks to increase her status and improve her life. When she can't do it with Thai man, she turns to farang. You maybe the exception to the rule, but I would be very careful to trust any Thai from the start. Of course, the girls never tell you this.

[LoveDaBlues]

The OP is from Sweden and is 26. I don't know why he would even care about all of this. It is a well known fact that Sweden has some of the most beautiful women in the world. At 26, he should be all over that and oblivious to all of this nonsense.

Have you seen him?

[Axel]

...

Sometimes, it's difficult for Thai girls who have dated foreign men before to date Thai men. A good number of Thai men wouldn't touch Thai girls who have been with foreigners. So, if a Thai girl has dated a foreigner, her chance of hooking up with a Thai guy gets slimmer.

....

I still remember an interview I saw a few years ago with a Thai lady who just had divorced her Danish husband (Unfortunatelye her son died later in the Tsunami)

Her words confirm what you said, to the effect she would not exclude a future marriage but must be again a foreigner as Thai men would be not too interested.

[Beavis and Butthead]

Could be an imposter Mr Blues?

[Bizz]

Blind to the obvious.

EU AMERICAN AUSIES Have an average salary of 1.5 to 3mil baht per year.

This buys a lot of face.

She never complains washing ironing is always done, food always prepared.

We Farangs have the best of both worlds and instead of complaining bitching about Thai woman just look at what you had before between the sheets.

Thai woman are the greatest.

We are all going to die with a smile on our faces.

I for one adore my Thai GF I think the sun and moon shines out of her. Always feel good contented.

Relationships have to be worked hard.

Understanding Thai culture is very important.

Excepting Thai culture you are on your way to a happy and fulfilled life.

My 2cents worth

[klink]

So to sum it all up one could say that thai girls looking for a farang relationship is in fact looking for better financial status ie. money. How much depending on how good vs dark her heart is (greed?). And off course since we are open minded we know that there are exceptions to this theory that some thai girls infact likes farangs for other reasons like:

-Opposite attracts.

-Farang has a reputation of being good in the sack (big willies).

-Farang has a reputation to being of good character. (easy to control )

-Thai girl has dated a farang before and now thai men is not interested anymore (why?).

-It's just a feeling inside that tells them that farangs are their soulmates.

-Sincere love, not money.

-Some may have bad experiences about Thai guys.

-Something different, maybe a little exotic to them.

-A guy who won't open a can of whoopass on them after a few whiskeys would be cool.

I thought that thai girls dating farangs would lower their status in Thailand. But they really do get higher status from everyone, except thai males or what?

I know what people think in Sweden when they see a Swedish guy with a asian wife, she is seen as a prostitute and he as a loser/pervert, I would say it is low status over here to bring over an asian wife(maby jealousy).

The OP is from Sweden and is 26. I don't know why he would even care about all of this. It is a well known fact that Sweden has some of the most beautiful women in the world. At 26, he should be all over that and oblivious to all of this nonsense.

Well Sweden is a good country to be born in, but its cold and expensive. Right now im looking for a new country to spend some time. Thailand seems like a good county for me, only thing I don´t like is the military cues and farang prices. And I have always liked the look of asian women.

Thanks for all replys, I got more than I expected.

Edited October 9, 2006 by klink

[Donz]

Blind to the obvious.

EU AMERICAN AUSIES Have an average salary of 1.5 to 3mil baht per year.

This buys a lot of face.

She never complains washing ironing is always done, food always prepared.

We Farangs have the best of both worlds and instead of complaining bitching about Thai woman just look at what you had before between the sheets.

Thai woman are the greatest.

We are all going to die with a smile on our faces.

I for one adore my Thai GF I think the sun and moon shines out of her. Always feel good contented.

Relationships have to be worked hard.

Understanding Thai culture is very important.

Excepting Thai culture you are on your way to a happy and fulfilled life.

My 2cents worth

A great 2 cents worth

[GuestHouse]

Thai girls would prefer Thai men; unfortunately Thai men have several fatal flaws (drinking, cheating, not working, etc.). So, they look to farang for better life, as my girlfriend explained to me after 2 years.

I'm falling about laughing at the above, but please don't take it personally, I fall about laughing every time I hear it.

[meadish_sweetball]

Simply put its different for all women - there is no cookie cutter answer why a particular lady likes another person. Thai ladies are no different than Swedish or any other ethnicity.

That's a bit of a stretch. Being Swedish and having lived in both cultures, I would say there are some major differences between Swedish and Thai women - not discounting the fact that everyone *is* an individual and different from each other.

But it is still possible to look at cultural tendencies.

Thai women *tend to* be more inclined to do see household chores as "their job", many also tend to expect the man to show leadership qualities.

They are less likely to speak directly about what they feel, especially if it is something negative, and likely to value family life highly and to be respectful towards older people (and as a result expect younger people to show them respect, too).

Most do not pursue intellectual interests or read novels for fun.

They will usually be more careful with their looks and dress than most Swedish women, feeling that it is important to present a well made up front outward in all respects.

They also tend to be less assertive and secure in new environments as a result of not having been brought up to mind themselves from an early age - unless they come from a family where that was necessary. Middle class families tend to keep their children very sheltered and have rather strict rules for their children. As a result, Thais at university level typically have less experience of making do on their own than Swedish counterparts.

^All generalizations - and of course you will find Thai women who dont show any of the above characteristics, but that is what I have seen myself during my years here.

My advice is that you should not rush things, take time to learn about the culture, be naturally suspicious (although not paranoid) and inquisitive... To rush into a relationship with somebody from another culture without understanding the implications means a higher likelihood for misunderstandings and perhaps even a crash landing later on. Ta det lugnt och fint, helt enkelt...

[teej]

Tell me exactly how they will eat me alive? give me the rundown how it works please.

Im trying to understand how things work in thailand and more about thai girls. It seems that many girls i Thailand are looking for a farang relationship.

hmmm, and you got this impression from visiting where in Thailand exactly???

Samui and also in Sweden I see thai girls. And there are websites where thai girls are looking for farangs.

This would be an example of sample error... not representative of all of Thailand and it's women.

Agree with a previous poster that said if you are this naive, then you shouldn't even think of it.

What's wrong with Svensk girls? Can't find your alskling there? Min flickvan is swedish and i alskar her very much! hej da mate!

[meadish_sweetball]

The OP is from Sweden and is 26. I don't know why he would even care about all of this. It is a well known fact that Sweden has some of the most beautiful women in the world. At 26, he should be all over that and oblivious to all of this nonsense.

It may be this simple:

When you have lived in Sweden all your life, you may be on the lookout for a little variety.

The "long legged blonde" archetype so many foreigners get wild about can seem rather everyday to someone who has been around them all their life.

Also, the relationship market in Sweden can be pretty harsh. Both guys and girls are quite demanding when it comes to looks, fitness, intelligence career success and other qualities.

....

OP: Remember Samui attracts more girls on the lookout for farang than the average Thai town. The rest of Thailand isn't the same. Go somewhere with a bit fewer foreigners and try to experience something of Thailand outside the tourist routes....

[bodypaul]

It may be this simple:

When you have lived in Sweden all your life, you may be on the lookout for a little variety.

The "long legged blonde" archetype so many foreigners get wild about can seem rather everyday to someone who has been around them all their life.

Is it where the other man's (gr)ass is always greener?

[Unknown]

I would like to have some kind of idea what would be expected from me, can anyone tell me?

The same that what is expected from a girlfriend from your own country.

Security and 'children making' potential.

But you're a foreigner in Thailand, hence the security is not a given, whatever your social status.

So money comes into play...

[alexth]

It's pretty simple... IF you think something financial is expected from you... take money out of the equation and only date gals from similar socio-economic backgrounds as yourself.

That's a good advice...write it down and stick to it even when the most beautiful bargirl hits on you Good luck!!!

[GuestHouse]

When learning Thai I used to translate letters between Thais and their foreign b/fs and the foreign b/fs and their Thai g/fs.

Much is said about the BS stories the girls spin the guys, but this is a two way street.

A lot of guys come over to Thailand having saved all year for their two or three weeks of being a millionaire – or at least acting the part – bringing with them enough emotional baggage to fill the hold of a 747.

For every sick buffalo/leaking roof, there’s a foreign guy spinning some BS about owning a Porsche /Ferrari or not being able to make the promised return trip to Thailand because of some pressing big business deal – You have to read the Bull Sh1t to believe it.

Perhaps worst of the lies are those guys tell themselves. The set up with a prostitute, they know how she makes her money and then set about lying to themselves that she’s a good girl, ranting when she s0ds off with a fatter wallet. (oops sorry she’s the cashier – well yes and the cashier keeps an eye on what?).

Suffice it to say there is a steady stream of BS running both ways, more than a bit of it gets washed up here (but lets not go there, I can’t stand anymore of those clickable emotions).

It’s not just a case of what do Thai Women expect from foreign men? But what do Foreign Men expect from Thai Women and do each really believe what they see/hear/read is what they get?

Shock horror, the lying game sets up false expectations – How old are we?

The truth is a large proportion of these relationships falls right into the observation, “Thailand, where the worst of the east meets the worst of the west”.

And even when both parties are telling the truth, there’s enough cultural misunderstanding to wreck havoc.

Put simply, more than enough guys coming to Thailand don’t know what they want themselves, let alone care to really understand what the woman they take on really wants.

And when it goes wrong, they blame the woman, like they blamed the last woman before that.

Edited October 9, 2006 by GuestHouse

[Unknown]

Put simply, more than enough guys coming to Thailand don’t know what they want themselves, let alone care to really understand what the woman they take on really wants.

And when it goes wrong, they blame the woman, like they blamed the last woman before that.

Right.

[teej]

“Thailand, where the worst of the east meets the worst of the west”.

"Girlie bars, where the worst of the east meets the worst of the west."

[GuestHouse]

Teej, your kidding yourself.

But then again, like I said above

Perhaps worst of the lies are those guys tell themselves