Someone explain my luck

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Like the lady sang, girls just wanna have fun. Even the smart, classy ones like a guy who's fun to spend time with.

Obviously, it helps enormously if you actually enjoy the company of women, which doesn't really seem to be the case for a lot of guys who end up here, for whom they're just something to have sex with.

And that assumption is not supported by a scrap of evidence or even anecdotal experience.

I can think of at least one poster here who's suggested in the last day or two that women should just be for sex and men for company.

[rogeroc]

Since when has one become a lot, but yes i give you that it is at least an example. Even then i suspect it may have been a bit tongue in cheek though, i am never too sure with that individual.

[theguyfromanotherforum]

Don't try to meet a woman on a dating site. I met my wife on a penpal site.

Surely that's a joke.

You really can't be serious.

Zzzzzzzz

[wow64]

Op is a troll...

Live in Thailand... Handsome.. 35 but look 30 nice touch I might add 4+mil a year..

If u cannot find someone in that situation you just explained go jump off a bridge through helicopter blades landing in the river and turn up in pieces.

[namatjira]

You might think you are " relatively good looking " but in their eyes maybe you are not....well educated with an MBA and you can not manage to string together a few words of Thai ?..... Maybe you have a slightly high opinion of yourself.....

People become total flakes when they realise that the person they are chatting to is an opinionated bore.

[pinkpanther99]

JHolmesJr, I think you've kind of hit the nail on the head. That's been my suspicion for a while.

Before I moved here I lived in Singapore where finding and dating attractive women was extremely easy, but perhaps I'm too nerdy for Thai women.

I assume the hi-so girls are less interested in the bad boy type; am I wrong on that?

Thai women don't care if you're nerdy, most of them wouldn't be able to tell if this was the case or not.

You're 35, right? And herein lies the problem.

From what I can see most Thai women have a real thing for western men twice their age and three times their size.

Sounds to me like you're not what most of them are looking for.

[eldragon]

Women like to be playful. Lighten up.

Best advice of the thread.

The guys that seem to get the most ass in Thailand seem to be okay with the fact that their girl is either shady or immature.

I have to agree with this. If what I need to attract a Thai woman is to "lighten up" (although i don't think this is true), I'll abstain from Thai women. I like that I "think too much".

I said "playful", not some bubble-head. Plenty of smart playful Thai women out there. In your OP said you are looking for "a beautiful, fun girl", yet you come across as much fun as a pencil-sharpener. Lighten up.

Once you see how many of a Thai girl's playful behaviors and mannerisms would qualify as immature back home it's very difficult to unsee it, and you start detecting it everywhere. Also, after a while in the LOS you can start to long for the kind of straightforward interaction you find with western women, or even other SE Asian ones.

[sipi]

Maybe best the OP sticks to an American.

[KC 71]

Are you gay ?

[kkup]

Sounds like you should date yourself?

[grumbleweed]

When dating I have strict criteria i adhere to...

I insist on them having a pulse

Many of them are hunters. they move from one farang to another. A surprising number of my ex girlfriends are now married and living abroad, maybe they just want to get as far away from me as possible

I find playing lonely, shy and gullible draws them in to the sack. By the time they realize there's no money in the kitty, mission has been accomplished. I have found hairdressers. and for some reason nurses, to be easy targets.

For those simply out for some discrete fun, which some of them are, a flat stomach trumps a fat wallet.

[recycler]

Try Gay ;-)

[umbanda]

Get into Facebook, showing your life on it, and ask friendship to every woman living in your town that you find interesting looking at her pictures and comments.. Nobody will fake English skills or life situation on Facebook, like many do on dating sites. By the way, Facebook is the site where high class Thai women use to find new friends....even some millionaires, and stunning beautiful ones.

If you do believe that you are a good catch...go for it!

Edited February 3, 2016 by umbanda

[theguyfromanotherforum]

I usually not to be judgmental and have nothing against anyone who pays, does not pay, dates women that look like their children, etc, etc...

I am also not an expert on Thailand whatsoever.

However, it seems to me that most people who "pay" for a relationship are not in Bangkok.

Believe me when I tell you that most office girls that I met through my wife don't need a new Vios (they drive better cars) and are totally independent.

Most are really beautiful and are just looking for a relationship.

Mid 30's women that can be easily be mistaken for 20 somethings.

It seems to me that most guys (or older gentlemen like myself) move to rural Thailand and simply don't know any better.

The thing is, you can do a lot better unless you are a liar and cheater yourself.

Edited February 3, 2016 by theguyfromanotherforum

[remaxtony]

Luck....has nothing to do with it. Your original question is for someone to explain your luck.

The bottom line to finding a good fit is to be "out there" among the people. Your nerdy lifestyle is the major reason, as dating is a numbers game. The more ladies you meet, the more chances you have, and so forth. This is basic logic.

Online dating in Thailand is a crap shoot, as it is everywhere. I tried it a while back, and I also owned a bar in Pattaya with ladies, and learned from that entire industry that all of the working ladies in Thailand are on the dating sites too.

Bottom line with online dating is that its full of both working ladies and regular ladies and you would never know the difference. The working/bar girls on there are casting their net out looking for a meal ticket in every venue, Facebook included.

I used to laugh at the girls selling themselves in the bar, and watch them chatting with un-suspecting guys online from the dating sites while they lied that they were working at the mall and so forth.

Are there nice girls online too? YES.....I met two Hi-So girls online a few years ago when I tried it last time. But, you have no way to know on the first few dates, it would take a while to figure it out, and the best way is to visit them at work. If they have too many excuses of why you cannot meet them at work, rest assured that they are either working in a bar, or working an escort night life style.

Back to the Hi-So's......I learned from dating a couple of really nice ones that their lifestyle can be fun, and it is refreshing that they aren't necessarily looking to you for your money. That part was great, but soon after the relationships got a little more serious, I saw how they were really spoiled in their upbringing, and very difficult to please.

Many Hi-So girls will not "date" Farang guys, especially if they don't already speak English. So, the not knowing Thai language is not too big of a deal. If she doesn't speak English, she is too Thai-centered and would be embarrassed by her Hi-So Thai friends to be dating a Farang. The girls not worried about this, already know how to speak English.

On this note however, I did go to school to learn Thai for more than one year, and if you are going to stay in country for a long time, it is worth the money.

Finally, just get out and meet more people and you will find more opportunity. Dating online is fine, but verify verify verify their lifestyle and job.....gems to be found but probably 50/50 on the percentage. Don't believe what they say or show, only what you can verify.

[catman20]

I agree with you about the fat girls, I've been on the dating sites before for many years, its a bit like the lottery most of the girls are doggie to say the least but I have met about 3 or 4 decent good looking English speaking Thai girls, but as they say you got to kiss a lot of frogs before you get a princess but it fun with the frogs so just chill relax don't panic and you will come across your princess.

[mesterm]

Someone explain his over-inflated ego.

[overherebc]

I used this line on a different website a while back, it might apply here:

"Better to have an average looker who will turn herself inside out in bed, than to have a stunning starfish"

You should think about that starfish thing. They have 5 appendages and the only thing spread out on a bed that has more than the requisite two arms and two legs !!!!!!! you can find on Beach Road around midnight.

I still have the rest of this topic to go so may reply again.

[Nigeone]

Well I'm a older guy, carrying a bit to much weight for sure but not in a slob type way..Not bad looking I guess and certainly nobody ever believes my age as I'm taken for a lot younger than I am...But I'm no oil painting for sure and I'm okay with that..I'm just me, nothing special and haven't got a lot of money or flash possessions and not really bothered about material stuff..Left that behind along time ago and know happiness comes from within and also Heath matters for so much... Having said all this I have had some lovely relationships with women of many different ages be it older or younger than me and enjoyed them all for what they were.. Have always treated them as a friend first and foremost and never looked for anything else initially and if it developed that was fine and if it didn't that was fine too... If your lucky to find someone to spend the rest of your life with so be it, if your not there's plenty of lovely people out there and if your struggling I suggest you look a bit closer to home and perhaps there's flaws in your personality that is a problem. Really if your 30s and got everything pretty well going for you it can only be you that's the issue.. Harsh but maybe true.good luck and watch the dating sites !!..when you get corresponding with someone get as many pictures as you can and put them through reverse image programs to see if there scams...Not 100% but you'll be surprised what images come up.!!

[darhut]

Office attire's usually a major giveaway but, hey, why don't you come down with one of those stupid farang attitudes and offer a couple of them a grand.

Interesting how you can tell occupation by attire. Some people have 2 jobs as well don't they? Anyway i will just see if i get another insulting reply for a simple inoffensive question.

OK well the next time I see a woman in a business suit with similarly dressed colleagues, I'll bear in mind that she could still be a hooker . . . and try to barfine her.

Maybe you forgot what you originally said? I'll refresh your memory.

"literally fighting off interest from attractive Thai women and they're not hookers either."

If you have to fight them off they are most likely freelancers, no barfine needed.

[strabel23]

It's a very good question and I understand your dilemma. The first thing I would say to you is that your age is part of your problem. Thai women usually are looking for an older man if they are in the market for a falang. Over 50 means being able to stay in Thailand indefinitely as a retiree and is generally accepted that you have the funds to do so.

Being young most Thai would naturally assume you are here for a short vacation and then back home. If I were you I would look for a private thai tutor to begin with as they are usually university educated or at the very least a student. From there you can mention that you are interested in meeting a compatible Thai lady and perhaps they might have some interesting connections you can benefit from. One might want to seek out an attractive tutor as well as it seems that sometimes good looking ladies like to hang out with other good looking ladies increasing your odds.

Good luck.

[kingstonkid]

OP

are there girls at the gym you go to? If so just get to know them maybe offer to help them or just start a gentle easy conversation.

Do not act like you have money nor talk about your business in financial terms down play it,

Also you might want to get out of BKK if you can and look in areas outside the city.

Laksi, Pathum Thani

There are lots of girls here that may not be hi so but that would make a great and loving companion and they don't care about your money.

[TheKnave]

Op is a troll...

Live in Thailand... Handsome.. 35 but look 30 nice touch I might add 4+mil a year..

If u cannot find someone in that situation you just explained go jump off a bridge through helicopter blades landing in the river and turn up in pieces.

I don't know if I agree, but I *love* the imagery!

[Krataiboy]

If you want a quality Thai lady, you need to move in the right circles. And that means avoiding dating sites, which are for losers, as are beer bars and most of the other downmarket tourist haunts.

If I were you I would put myself about at the sort of places where the middle class falangs and hi-so Thais tend to congregate - such as golf clubs, upmarket hotels and resorts, restaurants, jazz clubs etc.

I know from personal experience over many years that there are plenty of decent, well educated and attractive English-speaking Thai girls working in these places whom it is worth getting to know.

Banks. government and utilities company offices and hi-so department stores also have their share of roses among the thorns and are worth prospecting. Of course a lot of the "A" ladies you bump into will already be spoken for. But if you make a favourable impression they will pass this on to their unattached girlfriends and probably act as a go-between.

Good luck with your quest. Unless your chat-up skills are substantially less impressive than the rest of your assets, finding Miss Right should be a doddle. Only wish I was your age again!

[Cpkt8]

Personally I don't believe in online dating sites. Too much deception. You have to be really really lucky to find a suitable decent partner.

[alfalfa19]

if you are a good looking guy, physically fit, 35 years old, and wealthy by thai standards, you would have hot women throwing themselves at your feet on a daily basis. this is, of course, assuming that you are not a mental defective who goes around leering at women, and drooling all over yourself. are you just craving a bit of attention from board members? if so, i pity you.

[thaiduncankk]

It's a very good question and I understand your dilemma. The first thing I would say to you is that your age is part of your problem. Thai women usually are looking for an older man if they are in the market for a falang. Over 50 means being able to stay in Thailand indefinitely as a retiree and is generally accepted that you have the funds to do so.

/quote]

More crap.

Nobody dreams of meeting a western man over 50 because of his ability to stay here indefinitely.

The older the better for some, as the dream (inheritance) is nearer, than being stuck with a younger man.

[seancbk]

Before I moved here I lived in Singapore where finding and dating attractive women was extremely easy, but perhaps I'm too nerdy for Thai women.

I assume the hi-so girls are less interested in the bad boy type; am I wrong on that?

Im sorry to learn this.....singapore girls just might be the most entitled, spoilt and dumb females on the planet....you must have a resolve made of reinforced titanium.

Thai women are a different kettle of fish.....bad and mad....which makes the truly insane among us glad.

I've spent a lot of time in Singapore (my sister's husband worked there for a few years and I have a lot of friends there)

Singaporean women are hot. Good jobs, well dressed, keep themselves looking fit. What's not to like?

I'd much rather be with a classy executive woman with an MBA (lawyer, banker or similar level) with drive and ambition than the alternative.

[alex8912]

There is no way the OP is American. His last sentence used "snark" and "lads". At least troll better dude!

[seancbk]

It's a very good question and I understand your dilemma. The first thing I would say to you is that your age is part of your problem. Thai women usually are looking for an older man if they are in the market for a falang. Over 50 means being able to stay in Thailand indefinitely as a retiree and is generally accepted that you have the funds to do so.

Being young most Thai would naturally assume you are here for a short vacation and then back home. If I were you I would look for a private thai tutor to begin with as they are usually university educated or at the very least a student. From there you can mention that you are interested in meeting a compatible Thai lady and perhaps they might have some interesting connections you can benefit from. One might want to seek out an attractive tutor as well as it seems that sometimes good looking ladies like to hang out with other good looking ladies increasing your odds.

Good luck.

What absolute rubbish.

A young Thai girl I know posted on facebook recently that a 50+ year old expat guy had asked her out, she is in her mid 20's and her family are rich.

She was disgusted at the prospect of dating someone old enough to be her father and really couldn't imagine why he would even consider that she'd be interested in him.

Thai women willing to be in relationships with old guys are mostly ones who want someone to 'look after' them and their family.