My partner and I are looking at moving to a town near her family, she has a young daughter who will live with us, now her ex husband lives 45 minutes away, I am a bit worried that he may get jealous and not be happy his daughter is living with his ex and a farang. He is not really interested in the daughter but sees her about twice a month. Has anyone had experience with ex Thai bf/husbands where there is a child involved? My thoughts are starting to turn towards moving a long way a way from him as I do not want any problems

Edited March 8, 201610 yr by stupidfarang

You post as stupidfarang, well mate you are not so stupid, thinking about moving away from your gf ex.

I would say that is a very good idea.

The more family she has nearby, the less attention you will get.

Usually the family lives in the back end of beyond, which isn't a suitable place for you to live either.

(Not to mention all the requests for loans, borrowing, etc.)

Best to live a very long car/coach journey away from them.

In a big town with easy access to all the food and amenities you would like.

These places include,

Bangkok, Pattaya, Hua Hin, Chiang Mai, Chiang Rai.

The more family she has nearby, the less attention you will get.

Usually the family lives in the back end of beyond, which isn't a suitable place for you to live either.

(Not to mention all the requests for loans, borrowing, etc.)

Best to live a very long car/coach journey away from them.

In a big town with easy access to all the food and amenities you would like.

These places include,

Bangkok, Pattaya, Hua Hin, Chiang Mai, Chiang Rai.

It is not the family I worry about, I have been around for a long time in Thailand so have learnt a few tings along the way. It is the ex I am more concerned about, though he is not interested in the daughter so much, he may well get interested once he knows she is living with his ex and me. Thai men can be jeloues.

OP

This is a personal matter which you will have to resolve on your own.

If you are worried about potential risk to your personal safety, that of the g/f or the child then maybe the answer is obvious.

I have my wife's daughter living with us the ex husband is no problem . The daughter is a problem. Doesnot want to live in same house as me.Wants the family she knew together.The x never did care .never sees the daughter or son,not even a phone call. He is happy to stay drunk all day and be with the guys.

Wouldn't be fair on the child if you moved away, but its possible if he's a low life that he could turn the child against you.....or worse get the child to use you.

You should live close enough that if he wants to make an effort to see the child he can but not to close that he can just turn up when ever....100 to 150 k radius would be far enough id think....

Really and in Thailand plenty of childless available women around, if you don't want parenting as well as ex issues search one of those woman out.

OP

This is a personal matter which you will have to resolve on your own.

If you are worried about potential risk to your personal safety, that of the g/f or the child then maybe the answer is obvious.

True it is obvious, and yes it is a personal matter to resolve, some times it is good to place ones thoughts in a forum as it helps to get a different perspective on things and helps to voice ones thoughts. At the end of the day we all have to make our own decisions in life