sanemax Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 A friend, well, someone whom I have a, had a drink with when I see him in the bar is a bit down in the doldrums . His money has ran out : No money for food , rent or drink . Ever since I ve known him, hes been drinking his money away, now its all gone . Im going to avoid him in the future Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kwasaki Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 You mean a person your acquaintance with, Good idea to avoid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 "A friend in need" of what.....? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanemax Posted October 4, 2016 Author Share Posted October 4, 2016 Just now, transam said: "A friend in need" of what.....? "His money ran out " Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peterw42 Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 Im not sure what the discussion is about. You just wanted to tell us that someone you know ran out of money? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 2 minutes ago, Peterw42 said: Im not sure what the discussion is about. You just wanted to tell us that someone you know ran out of money? Well I have but I ain't going to start a topic about it.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rob13 Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 1 hour ago, sanemax said: Im going to avoid him in the future fair 'nuff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1FinickyOne Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 A friend, well, someone whom I have a, had a drink with when I see him in the bar is a bit down in the doldrums "Have a, had a" And you once critiqued my use of one word! Get a grip Max... but never mind. "a bit down in the doldrums" is probably going to be the high point for someone who becomes destitute... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vogie Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 Remember, a friend in need is a pain in the butt! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanemax Posted October 4, 2016 Author Share Posted October 4, 2016 6 minutes ago, kenk24 said: "Have a, had a" And you once critiqued my use of one word! Get a grip Max... but never mind. . I was stating that we previously had a drink together, but we no longer do . I changed the present tense, into a past tense . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanemax Posted October 4, 2016 Author Share Posted October 4, 2016 15 minutes ago, Peterw42 said: Im not sure what the discussion is about. You just wanted to tell us that someone you know ran out of money? No, its about whether to help acquaintances who are on the verge of being destitute . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vogie Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 6 minutes ago, sanemax said: No, its about whether to help acquaintances who are on the verge of being destitute . How can you help him, if in your own words are "going to avoid him in the future" If he has drank his money away, what can you do, give him more money to p!ss up the wall? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pigeonjake Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 and the point is caller? what shall we do have a whip round,? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vogie Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 6 minutes ago, pigeonjake said: and the point is caller? what shall we do have a whip round,? I'm in, I have a can of Leo in the fridge, I'll start the ball rolling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scorecard Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 More than 2 decades ago in Bkk I saw a similar thing. The guy drank and womanized to the point of being destitute. But the guy concerned was an IT whiz kid and, ahead of the pack, had for free developed what's now called enterprise IT stuff for many schools. Pleasant guy he was also the first to offer help in any way he could to others with problems. His many friends decided to pool some cash and buy him a one way air ticket home to Australia and also a bus ticket to his home town from Sydney airport. The night before the flight several friends slept at his room and then they actually took him to Don Muang airport and watched him go into the airside area and waited at that point until 30 minutes after the flight departed. He made no attempt to fight going home and was extremely grateful for the kindness of his friends. He never returned. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1FinickyOne Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 26 minutes ago, sanemax said: No, its about whether to help acquaintances who are on the verge of being destitute . ok, semantic differences aside - - The details here are important. I just did the same for a friend who was temporarily destitute, in that he could not access his funds from a foreign country. He made mistakes. I did send him airfare and he did pay me back through time as he got himself together. The questions I would ask myself would be whether or not you are helping someone to get through a temporary crisis or just enabling them to live until the next crisis, maybe only a few days later. I would also consider how this person came to be destitute. Poor planning? Too much drink? My experience with bailing out alcoholics is that it is futile... they just end up drunk and stranded somewhere else 2 days later... so, the circumstances matter. If you were to help him out, what do you think the chances are you will be repaid? Though this may not be important to you, it might speak to whether or not your money is well spent. Are you buying him a plane tkt home? Or just a few days more of drink? Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daveAustin Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 Quote "A friend in need" = "Im going to avoid him in the future" Fair enough, though I thought it was going to be one of those done-a-good-deed, feel-good threads. I think the best anyone could do is get them home as opposed to dishing out cash (for more beer). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostinisaan Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 His money has ran out : No money for food , rent or drink . My tears are still wet, dude. What about all the kids who've got cancer, no legs, Aids, etc? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pgrahmm Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 What you're decribing is a barroom buddy, drinking pal acquaintance - not a friend......Not much of a bond there beyond the next round or bar talk.... A friend I'd help if a I could..... A barroom sot would be difficult to fit into this category.....Chances are you're surrounded by them while sharing a round or two.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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