Confusing Everyday "Drama" :)

[Billy P]

Yesterday I went to the cinema with my GF - back home she posted a selfie on Facebook and I complimented her beauty. Today I noticed my GF's mum had made a comment:

สบายดีม้ายไปเที่ยว

I could read "sabai dee-somethingsomething" so: I asked my GF. What does it mean? She immediately turned cranky (SIC!?!). Stopped talking. Breakfast became veery quiet.
I know her relationship is not the best with her mum (they talk twice a year), but I have no idea why my GF became upset: Did her mum write something bad? Did I break some secret rule of GrengJai by asking? And what did her mother really say? Ahh.. the drama of everyday life in Thailand:)

สบายดีม้ายไปเที่ยว
 

Bing translator says:
"Good horse to sightseeing"

Google translate says:
"Good horse"

Thai2english says:
"Be fine bench ย (swim??) travel"
 

Arai??
BTW: There were no horses in the picture ;D just her pretty self, two tickets and my shoulder. 

 

[bannork]

A lot of google translations don't work well because people on social media folks frequently deliberately misspell words for tonal or length of word effect- think in English how we can change the tone of a question - How are you ?  ( I've been very worried about you)  How are you?   ( you're special)         How are you? ( normal to friend)

here mum has changed the spelling of ไหม  to ม้าย - sometimes it's spelled as มั้ย or ไม้  different tones -

The meaning is 'How are you?  You went out (for some fun)'

One would have to know their relationship well to see why this made her cranky, maybe mum thought she should go out too, maybe she's implying the daughter doesn't phone/visit her enough/doesn't care enough.

 

 

[Billy P]

Makes completely sense. Her mother tries to contact her every now and then but she does not reply. She grew up with her dad and stepmum and never had much contact with her. Thank you so much. I actually never ask about her mum, because I know it is complicated. But since she commented beneath our exchange of flirtation, I thought it was harmless to ask. My bad:)

Thank you so much for your reply. I am studying Thai, but I am still rather an hopeless amateur!

[tgeezer]

Mother just asked "Are you feeling good, going out for pleasure". It could be sarcastic, implying that your girlfriend was not. 

[Billy P]

36 minutes ago, tgeezer said:

Mother just asked "Are you feeling good, going out for pleasure". It could be sarcastic, implying that your girlfriend was not. 

Honestly I think her mum genuinely wants to be nice. My GF was brought up by her successful dad and a stepmum that treated her a little bit like Cinderella. She was unaware of her mum's existence until the age of 13-14 but somewhere along the line knew her *mum* was not her real mum. AFAIK her real mum is somewhat poor and have struggled a little in her life.

 

I think my GF feels guilty that she does not fully acknowledge her real mums existence. I guess my question made her feel bad about her self somehow.. hence her reaction. I can understand it is hard to feel like you don't fully belong in your family - my GF is immensly strong and proud and I have great respect for her.

I am trying to tread carefully and respect the situation... Have asked about her mum twice in 1,5 years. This "not-talking-about-difficult-things"-culture of keeping face and pretending everything is A-OK is sometimes hard for me to wrap my mind around:)

[tgeezer]

I sympathise with you, let's hope that an 'Everyday "Drama"' doesn't become a "Drama everyday".


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