"I want to meet a foreign man that will take care of my family."

[Dumbastheycome]

I  am  here  on  page  1 in this thread. And  already I  can see  the  opposing  views take on the  usual  form.

Thai  culture aside it is  my  experience  that  women  often settle/prefer  for older partners for some  common  logic reasons. 

Despite  the claims  by the  increasingly  immature  minded   male  fraternity and  the  attempts  at  feminist  equality the   truth is that  females  do actually achieve  a more life  oriented  maturity  10 years  ahead  of   males/men. The  generally accepted  age  of psych maturity  for   females  is 35  and  for  men 45.

Which  would  be a  good  indicator  for anybody   considering  a long  term relationship.

The  "modern " perception/ imposition  of   similar age  relationships  actually  flys in the  face  of  historical  actuality. 

Adding to that even at  an age  much  younger  a  female  who wishes for  financial security  is  more likely  to  look  at an financially  established  partner  rather  than  some young speculative blowhard.

The  fact is that  there are  few eligible young  men on average  who  can prove lasting stability both  financially  or  emotionally.

It  cannot  be  denied  that  young  women who  choose  to  target  " prospects"  purely  for  financial  advantage while also enjoying  the temporary lifestyle are out there in the  world.

Here  in Thailand  some  venues  certainly  abound  with  those as  well as naive  prospects....of  various  ages.

So if  the  proposition  is  to find a partner  to " take  care  of  family" as a priority then  regardless  I would   advise great  caution !

 

[Kwasaki]

52 minutes ago, observer90210 said:

so if one was to resume all the brillant and constructive posts here, only a farang would be stupid enough to entertain his willy by financing the whole family?

 

what about some of the very fine thai men?   would they not accept to be the friendly household ATM for the entire family?

 

just wondering........? ? ?

Oh come on if you are in control the thread is just a joke. 

[JohnJay]

I think this is the dream for most bar girls, isn't it?

[observer90210]

Just now, JohnJay said:

I think this is the dream for most bar girls, isn't it?

and unfortunately for some farangs, it would seem!!!

[JohnJay]

1 minute ago, observer90210 said:

and unfortunately for some farangs, it would seem!!!

If they can afford it, who cares! They both benefit something from the relationship. 

 

I'm looking at the replies saying Thai women prefer old men... OK. I know a 19-year-old Thai girl with a 75-year-old American husband. Do you think she's attracted to a man older than her father? She's attracted to his bank balance. We can all enjoy our lives but don't kid yourselves guys.

[observer90210]

1 minute ago, JohnJay said:

If they can afford it, who cares! They both benefit something from the relationship. 

 

I'm looking at the replies saying Thai women prefer old men... OK. I know a 19-year-old Thai girl with a 75-year-old American husband. Do you think she's attracted to a man older than her father? She's attracted to his bank balance. We can all enjoy our lives but don't kid yourselves guys.

absolutely...both can enjoy despite the 75 vs 19 factor....the main issue would be as you said don't get kidded but mainly, don't get stripped naked of your bahts!!!

[JohnJay]

1 minute ago, observer90210 said:

absolutely...both can enjoy despite the 75 vs 19 factor....the main issue would be as you said don't get kidded but mainly, don't get stripped naked of your bahts!!!

Haha. I don't think the old boy is too worried about that, he can't take it with him.

[parallaxtech]

When I first arrived in Thailand in 2004, I was really bewildered by all the prostitutes and other assorted con artists and hustlers.  Having lived and worked all over the world, I had seen my share, but not to the extent that I witnessed here.  I was really ready to settle down, and so decided to ask others for advice on finding a good mate. The best tips came from an old Thai man and a young Swede:

 

Thai man:  Have you ever wondered how some Thai men cheat on their partner, beat her sometimes, and she still loves him to death and gives him her money?  Whereas, farangs throw all their money at Thai girls and the girls never love them or appreciate it.  If you want to find out if a Thai girl loves you then don't give her any money, and if she leaves, good riddance!

 

Swedish man:  Upon meeting a potential gf, if she mentions anything about money then cancel her.  She should be asking about why you came to Thailand and what things you like to do.  You will rule out maybe 95%, but remember that you are only looking for one.

 

Based on this information, I began meeting women who had proper jobs (at least 15KB/mos) as I was not looking for a housewife to support and didn't want children.  If we seemed to get along then I told them that I would never provide an allowance nor would I ever financially support any family member.  I also added that I had two rich friends who were looking to take care of a woman financially (true).  I have been with my mate now for ten years, am 23 years older, and she has never asked for a satang.  In fact she hands me 5KB/mos to invest for her (she makes 22KB/mos). 

 

This would not apply to someone looking for a housewife, or to bear their children, or to travel around the world with them, as that would definitely require financial support.  If you have a decent place to live, a  basic amount of money, then that should be enough to offer her.  If she stays with you for a number of years then you might consider putting her in your will, but I would keep that information private.  Remember, even the basic things you are providing are far more than what most Thais could offer.

Edited June 19, 2017 by parallaxtech
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[observer90210]

1 minute ago, parallaxtech said:

When I first arrived in Thailand in 2004, I was really bewildered by all the prostitutes and other assorted con artists and hustlers.  Having lived and worked all over the world, I had seen my share, but not to the extent that I witnessed here.  I was really ready to settle down, and so decided to ask others for advice on finding a good mate. The best tips came from an old Thai man and a young Swede:

 

Thai man:  Have you ever wondered how some Thai men, cheat on their partner, beat her sometimes, and she still loves him to death and gives him her money?  Whereas, farangs throw all their money at Thai girls and the girls never love them or appreciate it.  If you want to find out if a Thai girl loves you then don't give her any money, and if she leaves, good riddance!

 

Swedish man:  Upon meeting a potential gf, if she mentions anything about money then cancel her.  She should be asking about why you came to Thailand and what things you like to do.  You will rule out maybe 95%, but remember that you are only looking for one.

 

Based on this information, I began meeting women who had proper jobs (at least 15KB/mos) as I was not looking for a housewife to support and didn't want children.  If we seemed to get along then I told them that I would never provide an allowance nor would I ever financially support any family member.  I also added that I had two rich friends who were looking to take care of a woman financially (true).  I have been with my mate now for ten years, am 23 years older, and she has never asked for a satang.  In fact she hands me 5KB/mos to invest for her (she makes 22KB/mos). 

 

This would not apply to someone looking for a housewife, or to bear their children, or to travel around the world with them, as that would definitely require financial support.  If you have a decent place to live, a  basic amount of money, then that should be enough to offer her.  If she stays with you for a number of years then you might consider putting her in your will, but I would keep that information private.  Remember, even the basic things you are providing are far more than what most Thais could offer.

a sensible, friendly and refreshing post....at last!!!

[rasg]

1 hour ago, shanesox said:

The bitches are ready at the airport waiting for the gullible mugs

You have told everybody here about your attitude to women by referring to them in that way.

[Blinky62]

When you go to the casino, only take what you can afford to loose , dose this rig true to anyone out there . Enjoy while your winning , then walk away smiling [emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4]


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[observer90210]

 

then let's wish him a long lasting life in getting his willy entertained!!!

Edited June 19, 2017 by observer90210

[JohnJay]

20 minutes ago, rasg said:

You have told everybody here about your attitude to women by referring to them in that way.

We're all human at the end of the day. I don't think I'm any better than a bar girl or a freelancer on the street corner. They are just feeding themselves. We're all equal

[Blinky62]

I want to meet s hot Thai lady, with lots of cash [emoji383] to look after me . CHEEP . No family , only me .


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[seancbk]

52 minutes ago, parallaxtech said:

When I first arrived in Thailand in 2004, I was really bewildered by all the prostitutes and other assorted con artists and hustlers.  Having lived and worked all over the world, I had seen my share, but not to the extent that I witnessed here.  I was really ready to settle down, and so decided to ask others for advice on finding a good mate. The best tips came from an old Thai man and a young Swede:

 

Thai man:  Have you ever wondered how some Thai men cheat on their partner, beat her sometimes, and she still loves him to death and gives him her money?  Whereas, farangs throw all their money at Thai girls and the girls never love them or appreciate it.  If you want to find out if a Thai girl loves you then don't give her any money, and if she leaves, good riddance!

 

Swedish man:  Upon meeting a potential gf, if she mentions anything about money then cancel her.  She should be asking about why you came to Thailand and what things you like to do.  You will rule out maybe 95%, but remember that you are only looking for one.

 

Based on this information, I began meeting women who had proper jobs (at least 15KB/mos) as I was not looking for a housewife to support and didn't want children.  If we seemed to get along then I told them that I would never provide an allowance nor would I ever financially support any family member.  I also added that I had two rich friends who were looking to take care of a woman financially (true).  I have been with my mate now for ten years, am 23 years older, and she has never asked for a satang.  In fact she hands me 5KB/mos to invest for her (she makes 22KB/mos). 

 

This would not apply to someone looking for a housewife, or to bear their children, or to travel around the world with them, as that would definitely require financial support.  If you have a decent place to live, a  basic amount of money, then that should be enough to offer her.  If she stays with you for a number of years then you might consider putting her in your will, but I would keep that information private.  Remember, even the basic things you are providing are far more than what most Thais could offer.

 

The Swedish guy had the right idea.  

[fordguy61mi]

13 hours ago, bbi1 said:

Why else would a young woman want an old dude?

Some women prefer older men because they feel they have more security with them and that they are more financially stable, more mature, need less sex to keep satisfied, more loyal, and more respectful. Obviously that's a load of crap but I believe some of them think that.

[fordguy61mi]

12 hours ago, giddyup said:

What you don't seem to grasp, because you're too pre-occupied with just being ageist, is that no one has denied that a young woman will usually only be with an older guy if there's money involved. That topic has been done to death and you're bringing nothing new to the table. What you also don't seem to grasp, is that the old guys just don't give a sh*t. Do you think Melania is with Donald because she loves his comb-over? Do you think he gives a sh*t that she's with him for his money?

Maybe he's seen so many hot young women with older guys and he can't get one himself that he's a little miffed about it. He sure is pressing the topic hard.

[Marc K]

After wading through 287 messages of (mostly) trash (with a few notable exceptions, thanks observer-beverly-hills), I think it bears restating one observation, which surely sums up my life experience quite well, and that is "attraction is a rather mysterious phenomenon" -- unpredictable, often unjustifiable, sometimes fickle, frequently exciting, but surely a basic part of life. Can't we just leave it like that? There are some things in life which just don't lend themselves well to steely analysis.

[Naam]

8 hours ago, Blinky62 said:

I want to meet s hot Thai lady, with lots of cash to look after me . CHEEP . No family , only me .
 

father or grandfather owning a brewery would be acceptable, isn't it?

[owl sees all]

2 hours ago, Marc K said:

After wading through 287 messages of (mostly) trash (with a few notable exceptions, thanks observer-beverly-hills),

I've been on this topic since the start and I reckon it's been lively, entertaining. thought-provoking and fun. Where did the "trash" happen? The very nature of the topic will lead to diverse opinions but what makes them trash?

 

It was also racing along like an express train with lots of different posters.

Edited June 20, 2017 by owl sees all

[bbi1]

1 hour ago, F4UCorsair said:

The may as well dress like whores, because that's what they are.

Amen brother!

[giddyup]

2 hours ago, bbi1 said:

Amen brother!

Hallelulah! I recommend they all be stoned or burnt at the stake. Drawn and quartered if horses are available.

[F4UCorsair]

2 hours ago, Naam said:

father or grandfather owning a brewery would be acceptable, isn't it?

Nah, a deaf and dumb nymphomaniac whose father owns a brewery!!

[dotpoom]

I used to just say to them...."Wow" (probably wouldn't understand coincidence) me too...I'm looking for a woman who will take care of my family, money wise etc.,

[dutchinlondon]

Why else would a young woman want an old dude?

Because older man are like expensive wine. Much bettet.. 555

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[KarenBravo]

3 hours ago, giddyup said:

Hallelulah! I recommend they all be stoned or burnt at the stake. Drawn and quartered if horses are available.

Maybe you should join the Taliban? Seems you both could have a meeting of minds as you definitely have shared values.......

Do you agree with stoning to death for adultery?

Edited June 20, 2017 by KarenBravo

[music065]

I've heard many women say "I prefer a well-seasoned man."

[thehelmsman]

27 minutes ago, KarenBravo said:

Maybe you should join the Taliban? Seems you both could have a meeting of minds as you definitely have shared values.......

Do you agree with stoning to death for adultery?

I believe that was sarcastic humor.

[KarenBravo]

27 minutes ago, thehelmsman said:

I believe that was sarcastic humor.

So was mine.......

Edited June 20, 2017 by KarenBravo

[Artisi]

3 hours ago, thehelmsman said:

I believe that was sarcastic humor.

Lost on many, too wrapped up in their own narrow view of everything?