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WOAH! stunning work there, cymruamtyth1 (god thats hard to type)

saki100, you should be able to get 1 year in advance with a special prescription from your doctor. this works out a heck of a lot cheaper too, and i dont think its anywhere near AUD20 a month.

if you explain to your doc that you will be away for some time, they will be able to write you this special prescription.

oh yeah, i forgot about the membership thing. well worth it though, hey. they also do a lovely facial using Jurlique products, which i love. give it a go.

yes, you are currently working under Thai law, and you should be entitled to severance pay, the same as anyone else working in Thailand.

off topic comments have been deleted. please keep it on topic folks.

jesus. what a horrid story. silly billy she is though. id have stopped as soon as i started to resemble Mr Moonface from the Magic Faraway Tree.

did he say 'farang kii nok'?

couldnt agree more mssabai.

when waxing 'down there' you dont want to feel as if they are putting a bed sheet on your bits and ripping it off. no sir-ee! give me someone who knows what they are doing any day.

perfection have been well trained and are by far the best bikini waxers i found in asia.

i dont know how you came to the conclusion that soi bangla is quiet! not the perfect choice for him i would say, especially if he does like to sleep sometimes.

i used to stay at a place called Jinnys whcih is up near Montes pub on Sainamyen road. nice little guesthouse with a pool.

samuijens, we are in rainy season now, and today is overcast with a breeze. its cooler than it has been in the past few days, which were absolutely sweltering.

the rain comes and goes, but at the moment its mainly at night, and the days are free to allow you to do as you please.

i wouldnt be stressing about the rain situation to be honest.

there are some great things for kids to do here. the Taman Safari Marine Park is great, and you can even stay there in african style rooms. pretty cool. another place which has loads of elephants is the Elephant Safari Park Lodge (completely different place to the other one). they have great rooms, really well treated animals and lots to do.

Waterbom park is great for kids, and kids at heart.

for the shoppers, homewares are really cheap here, especially if you go up to the Tegalalang area (close to ubud).

im sure you will have a great time here.

nah, purely a physical thing miggy.

personally i think hes a bit of orright. he'll do for the next few months when the country decide they are sick of him and roll in the next candidate.....

i found perfection spa to be very clean and professional, so they were the 'winners' of all my waxing needs in phuket. when waxing 'down there' i think its worth paying for a good job.

Sorry, but I always find that men and women who are attracted to people on the basis of race to be a bit shallow.

here here Garro. couldnt agree more with you on that one.

if youre still in pain, that indicates that SOMETHING is wrong. you should get yourself off to a chiropractor or physio as soon as you can. two weeks is a long time to be in pain, and the longer you leave these things the harder they are to fix.

stories like this disgust me.

this MAY have been caused by the surgery, or it may not. you may never really find out. but one thing for sure is that you must find out what the operation really was for. maybe in the stress of the whole situation you mis-heard what was really going on?

if your wife is passing 'bits' then it does look like she may be having an early miscarriage. this is not unusual, though. many women miscarriage in the early stages of pregnancy, and it just seems like a heavy period. they/we never realise its a miscarriage in many cases.

if your wife did indeed suffer a burst cyst, its a very painful and potentially dangerous situation, so surgery may not have been avoidable.

best you get back to the doctor and get the full story in a calm environment.

i wish you both the best of luck.

Dr Panya did an operation on my shoulder a few years back. (i dont recommend having shoulder surgery for fun for anyone). he does a lot of knee surgery in bangkok and i can highly recommend him. hes a decent man, a good doctor, and doesnt beat around the bush.

if the doctor said that only blood and a cyst were removed, then your wife could still be pregnant.

alternatively, she may be in the middle of a miscarriage, taking in to consideration that you said that she was bleeding now.

infidelity is still infidelity whether the other partner is same sex or not.

i agree with girlx and if you would say that your wife is bisexual. nothing wrong with that. but i dont see why people assume that the 'other woman' would necessarily want to be part of a threesome.

one does have to ask the question: if she cheated with a man, how would you feel? is the betrayal on the same level or would you end the marriage? would you allow her to see another man a couple of times a week?

(playing devils advocate here)

i would suggest that you do a couple of things:

find out exactly what procedure was carried out on your wife. it sounds as if she had a ruptured cyst on an ovary to me. in the west, this would be removed by doing a laparoscopy, which is where a small camera and instruments are maneuvered inside the body in order to track down the 'nasty' and get rid of it. this is not hugely invasive, and causes less trauma to the body than the procedure that was used on your wife. it is highly likely that they did not have time to get her to a hospital with this equipment, and had to to the surgery straight away.

if it is a burst cyst, then i am not sure if she would be pregnant or not. a simple urine test may be able to tell you this.

she may have also had an ectopic pregnancy, which is where the fetus is not inside the womb. this is dangerous for the mother, and needs to be dealt with sooner rather than later. thus, another reason for emergency surgery.

a fetus of 3 or 4 weeks MAY be able to be seen in an ultrasound, but it will only be a couple of mm in size, making it difficult. the easiest way to see if she is still pregnant is to do a urine/blood test.

to me, it sounds as if you still dont have all the facts you need in order to take any action. perhaps you can schedule an earlier appointment with the doctor to find out what really happened? now that the emergency has been dealt with, you could get a clear explanation?

good luck though. i hope that your wife recovers soon from her ordeal.

thanks for your comments fellas.

i guess grief takes us through so many different phases, and i am perhaps criss crossing over different stages at the moment.

the compassion, empathy, clarity and resourcefulness have arisen, as you predicted, sabaijai. its been an incredible thing to watch and i have been touched by the actions of others.

im on a bit of a rollercoaster at the moment, but i am not sad all the time. its the same for Kody's mum and dad. they can manage to laugh, and they even sat me down and watched dvd's of Kody's first weeks in hospital! i find that amazing in itself, as im not sure if i could have done that.

thanks again guys. i will check back after the weekend (no access at home at the moment).

in september 2007, my niece gave birth to a baby boy. he was born at 28 weeks gestation, due to the fact that my niece had pre-eclampsia, a life threatening condition which pushed her blood pressure up to dangerously high levels, and caused her to puff up like a balloon.

kody spent the first 10 months of his life in hospital and finally came home. he was still on oxygen but was doing well.

to cut a long story short, kody passed away three weeks ago at just 59 weeks of age.

its been an extremely sad time for us, but i guess my emotions are different because i never got to meet kody whilst he was still alive. i was planning on going home at christmas to meet him, and other nieces that i hadnt yet met, but i was too late.

my only time with kody was in the funeral home where i got to stroke his hair, kiss him, pinch his cheeks, and tuck a tiny buddha in his hand that was given to me by a monk in thailand. he looked like an angel sleeping, and this is how i will remember him forever.

kody was a beautiful boy who brought so much happiness to my niece, despite the fact that he required constant care. my niece was a loving mother, and devoted her life to him. her partner is also a lovely man who was as equally devoted to little kody. kody's mum and dad appear to be coping, but i am not sure if they are in shock still, or if they were mentally prepared for this from the beginning.

i know that i may not get any answers to my questions, but is there any way that buddhism 'justifies' such a premature death? i have been trying to tell myself that he was here to teach us certain things, and once that is done, then he leaves us. but is that really true?

all of your thoughts on this will be appreciated, as i am at a loss as to why things like this happen.

errm...no...but YES. haha

i gotta be honest and admit that i really dont mind a man in speedo's. i used to swim a lot and most of those blokes had bodies that looked great in them.

but the ones that look like shorts are really not becoming. they just dont seem to hold everything in place.

for those of you who dont like a man in speedo's, i suggest you may have been hanging in the wrong places. ok. the average bloke in pattaya or phuket should really check themselves in the mirror before heading out dressed like that, but there are a lot of blokes who look ok in them. many of them are mr average with not overly muscular bodies, but they still look good.

anyway, i'll grab my coat and get moving now....

SamuiJens, the dates you mentioned are smack in the middle of rainy season. but, same as Samui, its not gonna be raining all the time. march averages around 214mm of rain and april averages around 95mm. but as you live in samui, you will know that averages dont mean much!