seonai

And again if you ever get this message..... Kat I am fairly intelligent and would love to meet you

Kat,

Anytime. Call me in advance please. But you are welcome.

Seonai

Hey Boo dear,

I understand power struggles etc and I know you to be such a cool person. I think you are right to offer him the right to book your forthcoming trips. If he backs off, you know you are okay to steam ahead. If he grasps it with open arms.... let him do it. You might feel relaxed that he can organise for you. As a matter of interest, when I let my husband do the planning we get on much better. He feels stronger.

Seonai

And most of what you said was true, don't listen to the prats who say you are new in Thailand. It's a fact, what you are saying is fact.

Seonai

Jaamman,

Thanks for posting something intelligent. Good on you. A decent debate at last.

Seonai

Kat,

I don't think I was whitewashing anything. Hey, if you and I had half an hour to sit and talk..... come on! Do you really think I am so stupid????????

Chatting like this online is dodgey to say the least. We are all talking fairly freely here. Does that say anything???????

Chatting like this shows that we are all human I hope.

Oh well maybe it's pointless .......

Hey Dustoff,

Don't be silly. I have been married to Thai men twice!!!! In the same boat????? Well... open for discussion. No harm meant just chatting.

Seonai

Sorry Seville,

I am just bored with this Thai boy thing. Have been for a long time. I have been in Thailand more years than I have lived in my own country. Excuse my bluntness. I realise the forum is to discuss stuff like that. I just crave decent conversation!!!!!!!!

Seonai

Okay so the tag thing didn't let me explain. I just have to say one thing.... and let the wrath of all come upon me. In relationships people are people. Forget this Thai boyfriend lark and Thai boys etc. We are all human. That is the most important thing. Who cares what nationality we are? Thai, Farang, Saudi, come on. We all know that relationships grow from a mutual base of love and understanding. Fat, ugly, beautiful, thin.

Seonai

I have just been reading this thread AGAIN and wonder about some of my fellow women out there. Are you desperate or what????????????

you should only need a certified translation of your last divorce certificate, as other posters have said this takes about one hour max just down the road from the British Embassy.

Mine cost 400 baht.

so is it true then that a lot of men from Europe or the US prefer to come to Asia and choose a bride rather than go through the 'normal' process of finding a girlfriend in their homeland???? Just curious.

Bina I am sorry for hijacking your post in conversation

Got carried away

Seonai

llewynx where are you based?

I mean maybe you are not in the right place??????

For me, and I have been married twice to Thai men, I can honestly say that it has nothing to do with body colour, shape, size, nationality..... for me it was completely unintentional. So maybe the looking thing is not a great idea? Just a thought? You know what I mean? When we deliberately look for a partner, whether from another country or not, it doesn't seem to work. But I could be completely wrong of course!!!!!

llewynx, you are Swedish right? And you have an idea to find an ideal Thai man?

it's the old story.... not looking is the key. And as previous posters will note, it ain't always easy. It takes a long time to get to really know and understand each other. Okay maybe some folks are lucky and they meey the guy of their dreams, I wouls never say I tried to look specifically for a Thai man... it just happened.

No, reckon Samui and Koh Tao got it hard. Over here in Phang Nga it was heavy rain but nothing serious. The boats are running as normal and tourists are coming back. S

Very cool to hear you all discussing this. I am 5' 10" and not enormous on top but above average for Asia. I had a comlex for years about it. Like SBK and BOO said, either shop at home or ask a friend to send a parcel of bras and cotton pants once a year.

As a matter of interest, where I live, on a Muslim (99.9%) island, some of the Malay style tops can be rather flattering and they do fit!

Ya Boo that is cool ! I like it when me and hubby mess around like that too, know what you mean. I'm thinking too much in Thai - Noom or Nong... it would be a 'toy boy' if an older Thai woman was seeing him. Anyway not serious, just an observation!!!!!! Bored on the island right now and need to chat!!! OFF TOPIC !!!

Right on Boo, got you! I've been here a long time! I wouldn't go around refering to my partners as "Nong" !!!! Know what I mean?

Seconded !!!!!!! (Or was it Thirded???)

Hi Glauka,

I understand you. But it is a bit odd that many farang women refer to these young/older men as BOYS. Nothing serious...... just wonder if the average age range is farang women choosing guys who are much younger than themselves?

Seonai

I agree with some of the posters here on several points:

It is a littlefoolish to imagine a Thai guy who works in a beach bar or resort is going to take you seriously, women THROW themselves at them every day,

It takes time to be together and really understand his culture more than your own as we live here in Thailand,

What I don't get.... is this obsession with calling Thai men 'boys' - in Europe you get locked up for that !!!!!!!!

Noel..... you cheeky person!!!!!!

SBK - well we have a huge ceremony on the island every April, crying from mothers, fashion shows etc. Then that's it, the boys are off !!! And a friend just told me her Thai husband is up for it next April. I suppose with all the 'strife' here right now they won't want to cut back on numbers!