This is the proper technique Simon
5. Ride with proper body positioning, balance, and technique. Don't be a hassle.
Hold on to the riders' torsos around the abdomen securely but don't suffocate them. Keep all of your weight centered on the seat and try to keep still — but don't be too stiff. Don't shift your backside around. Determine the operators' neutral riding positions, then hold your thighs firmly around theirs just as riders are told to grip the tank with their knees and keep their arms relaxed yet in control
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