sipi

If you miss him then pay the $300 and tell your wife that you have spoken. In all seriousness.

Yes, I think we will go that way and the wife won't mind. Dad is possibly trying to put the wind up him so he will learn a lesson.

Du really is a good dad and a top bloke.

What he did was on the lower end of the scale, but illegal never-the-less and he got caught.

Ok gents, he got caught smoking a joint and in possession (personal use only, as far as I know). He was away on a building job so there were no kids around. We don't know the full story, but this is as close as I can get.

Please don't hang him.

Two things to consider:

1) How sure are you that's what he really did and the family isn't just lying to you- and presumably others- to save face over something truly embarassing or dangerous he did?

2) If you do bail him out, I'd try your best to do it privately between you and Du, so as not to ruffle any feathers with your wife and/or make dear old dad lose face.

Good advice. We are a close family and I can imagine Du is feeling sheepish about now. I know he smokes roll-ups but have never known of anything else. My wife or her sister wouldn't water it down, but Du might have (to save embarrassment). His wife should have access to the charge sheet I guess so it might be hard to lie.

It does seem a heavy penalty, but I know he goes away for weeks at a time working, so don't know the quantity.

I'll just let Dear Por know that the money is available when he calms down, and let him decide.

Thanks.

Maybe we don't turn this into a dope debate or Mr Mod might get angry. I mentioned it so you knew what was going on.

If you miss him then pay the $300 and tell your wife that you have spoken. In all seriousness.

Yes, I think we will go that way and the wife won't mind. Dad is possibly trying to put the wind up him so he will learn a lesson.

Du really is a good dad and a top bloke.

What he did was on the lower end of the scale, but illegal never-the-less and he got caught.

Ok gents, he got caught smoking a joint and in possession (personal use only, as far as I know). He was away on a building job so there were no kids around. We don't know the full story, but this is as close as I can get.

Please don't hang him.

I am starting to realize how naive, and lucky I am; or maybe the old "gut feeling" kicked in.

I married my partner on the spot, put everything in both names, and let her know she is better of if I am dead (accidentally).

That was 9 years ago, and I am still here.

All good........

only a matter of time!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh my god. yes, you are right. I am doomed.

When I am dead my wife and kids get everything.

Damn, why didnt I think of that.

My wife got a phone call from her sister yesterday. When she got off the phone she says to me, "Du is in jail"

She went on to explain what he had done. He was given 12 months and a 30000 baht fine. He has paid 20000 baht but was 10000 short.

Hey, I like Du. He is a builder and helped build our house. He is covered in tattoos and did his years as a monk. He treats my son like royalty, and has always been good to me and my wife. And I have known him for over 10 years.

So I asked the wife "so now what?"

She replied that Dad had banned him from seeing his daughter (they have 3 kids).

I thought $300 isn't a big deal, so replied "would he like to borrow ...."

Before I could finish the sentence she said "Dad has spoken"

In all honesty, I will miss him.

I have to agree with Opaired's wife with one thing. It doesn't harm to turn up at the local Temple (or school) with a few blankets or some clothes once in a while.

It's mine and I can wash it as hard as I like.

All of the above?

55555 bookguy.

......surely ur not serious?

I am.

I keep hearing the term. Sure, I could guess, but i dont know for sure.

I'm with you on this one bookguy.

But, do we REALLY need to know?

Maybe I can live without it.

Sipi, I don't like full on Thai Massages much at all. I have tried a few and it feels like my body is being pummeled by a sure footed Clydesdale who has done some sadistic martial arts training.

But, I do get tight around the shoulders and upper back, and when single, no GF to do it for me. If i can find the right place, I'll have them work just that area.

If they asked me for a soapy, at least I know what that is. Better I know now...

Hey, count me in...

Giddy-up....

All of the above?

55555 bookguy.

......surely ur not serious?

I am.

I keep hearing the term. Sure, I could guess, but i dont know for sure.

I'm with you on this one bookguy.

But, do we REALLY need to know?

Maybe I can live without it.

Insensitive poor attempts at humor removed

Sorry Jamie and Charlie. My wrong, and I apologize..

Please tell me this is not some XMas joke.

Man, bad news. I would hate to be in your shoes.

I guess you just do the sums and face up to reality.

Don't give up. There are a lot of "lovelies" out there.

This is taking a while to get a reply, so I will quote my Thai wife.

"Try the little place on the corner. You know the one"

Sorry...

I am starting to realize how naive, and lucky I am; or maybe the old "gut feeling" kicked in.

I married my partner on the spot, put everything in both names, and let her know she is better of if I am dead (accidentally).

That was 9 years ago, and I am still here.

All good........

Sometimes the gods favor the foolish and blunderful.

Yes I agree.

I am foolish and blunderful....and stupid and naive..

And HAPPY!

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I get the same present every year. "happy fathers day"

I don't mind.

I am starting to realize how naive, and lucky I am; or maybe the old "gut feeling" kicked in.

I married my partner on the spot, put everything in both names, and let her know she is better of if I am dead (accidentally).

That was 9 years ago, and I am still here.

All good........

I haven't seen the difference between Thais and any other culture. Some Thais don't care less about their elderly parents, and a lot of other cultures do; and vice versa.

The golden goose has killed itself. This has been coming a long time. Blind Freddy could see that.

All three.

Good luck. If you make it through the next 5 minutes without being accused of running a Nigerian scam I'll be very surprised.

From a practical point of view to a newbie.

Have full insurance.

And, be careful. Don't do anything stupid. Have a few drinks but keep your wits. You can die crossing the road, same as back home.

My advice would be. Be careful who you take advice from.

But I guess you covered that in your OP, as trust etc