johnnybangkok

Are you saying that there was no transgenders until recently? Well there's plenty of historical fact to say that is complete nonsense starting with https://historicengland.org.uk/research/inclusive-heritage/lgbtq-heritage-project/trans-and-gender-nonconforming-histories/20th-century-trans-histories/ Unlike gay or lesbians, transgenders are more noticeable in appearance so of course most of it used to be behind closed doors and since an actual sex change wasn't possible until the 60's, most of them would just settle for dressing in Aunty Betty's posh frock. But I don't disagree with a 'huge increase in suicide among young people, especially the transgender ones' because there is still very little understanding around for them, perpetuated by an increasingly vocal conservative crowd who are using what is essentially a medical issue for political purpose. And this idea that 'activists and social media' are somehow creating transgenders is just absolute nonsense as anyone with any idea of how much a young person has to go through to actually change sex (have to be over 18, capacity to make a fully informed decision determined by a qualified phyciatrist, showing a regular and persistant trait of gender dysmorphia, regular psychiatric evaluations) knows that it is not a decision that is taken lightly or indeed even allowed without a great deal of boxes needing to be ticked.

Or maybe, just maybe, they now feel more comfortable to come out than in previous decades. I'm sorry that most of you on here are forming your 'expert' opinion from growing up in the 60's and 70's when owning up to being LGBTQ was quite literally illegal and fraught with massive difficulties (both socially and work wise) but nowadays a general acceptance allows more people to feel comfortable about 'coming out'. This is much more likely the reason for 'the very recent steep rise of young people in America claiming to have some sort of LGBTQ' (NB: it isn't a disease and shouldn't be refered to as 'to have some sort of'). It has nothing to do with 'narcissism' or 'social cachet' and although you may get the odd person looking for sympathy through social media, the vast majority of the LGBTQ community that I have met (and it's a lot) would still rather be hetorosexual if for nothing more than just an easier life. They are however very grateful that they no longer have to hide in the shadows and be ashamed of their sexuality.

And people say conspiracy theorists are harmless. Far from it I would say. Poor kids. Just awful.

I said their mums and dads are “from” somewhere else, not they themselves.

Sorry am I not writing in English? Isn’t that exactly what I just said?

Yes they can because their nationality is British, but their ethnicity could be African, Caribean, Chinese etc. This is VERY common for second and third generation Brits who have mums and dads from other countries. They call themselves British because this is where the where born and bred and who they identity with more. It's only complicated for those that want to make it complicated.

How am I changing the story? My previos post included a copy of what was said which no one is denying, not even Lady SH. After being initially confused with the questions, Ngozi confirmed she was British THREE times. This still prompted a 'no, where are you REALLY from' by Lady SH. And as I have already stated, I didn't think Lady SH was being purposely racist (just old and out of touch) but it certainly was a VERY clumsy line of questioning from someone who should have known better. What am I supposed to be missing here?

How many times do we have to go over this with you? It's not the 'asking a Black person where they come from' that's the problem, it's asking someone 'no where do you REALLY come from' after they have confirmed THREE times they are British. The nuances of all this are obviously beyond your capabilities so if it all still confuses you then maybe YOU shouldn't employ or even talk to black people. However, the rest of us will just get on with just being normal to black people because this line of questioning doesn't even occur to us. P.S. And saying something like 'people like Ngozi cause racism and division' is just plain nonsense. Racists cause racism.

Fine. But by your own admission 'a small minority of 100k turned hooligan'. That's all it took when assualting what is widely seen as the second most important building to US democracy. And assaulted it was. Whatever optic you want to see it through it was exactly that; a bunch of MAGA wearing idiots decided that it was a good idea to invade the Capitol. It wasn't and I'm sure they're not happy about 'following' the mob. But hey, you're inferring that it was a small minority and you may be surprised but I agree with that. However, the overall rhetoric that got 100's of thousands of people marching to the Capitol on basically what is now a confirmed lie is really the problem here. The majority may not have stormed the building themselves, but they certainly should be questioning hanging out in the same crowd as those that did.

So your whole point is it wasn't an armed insurrection but a protest that got out of control, correct? If you are refering to 'arms' as in the rioters didn't all have guns then I'm not sure I disagree but of course they were armed. Pepper spray, battons, spears and whatever else they could get their hands on (there was also guns). This diminishing of the events of the day just simply doesn't wash. Just because it wasn't a full blown shoot out doesn't negate the fact that Trump fans stormed the Capitol building, baying for blood and trying to overturn the presidential process. Stop picking fault with the details and accept the enormity of what happened that day. It was a turning point in identity politics that showed that the MAGA brigade was willing to resort to ANY measure to get their way. That was what was so scary.

Words of wisdom there. 'none of us keyboard warriors can help you'. You need to seek professional help whether it be for yourself or as a couple. This is NOT the place to get your solutions.

Wow! A lot to unpack there. It seems that everything you write is about is your own idea that people are inherintinly racist when in fact they are mostly expressing the opionion of others. Thailand can be very conformist. Steroetypes prevail in Thailand (sometimes from personal experience but more often from hand me down old stereotypes) and if you find you mixing with a lot of the lower levels of Middle Easterns, Laotians, Cambodians and Muslims (as many bar girls do for example) you will perhaps have a negative view of these nationalities. That's the same throughout the world though. If you experience the worse then you will obviously have a low opinion of them. I am western white and I have never experienced anything less than politness, respect and friendliness, and nothing that resembles racism. But I guess it's all about your own expectations and the level of individual you associate with and how you yourself are to the people who own the country you choose to live in. Thailand is racist because it's new to these ideals (much the same as the UK and most of Europe was until some 20-30 years ago) and just needs to get a bit more prosperous for the majority of it's people before they can understand the nuance of race. Until then it will conform to stereotypes because hey, when you're at the lowest of your social heirachy, it's good to have someone to look down on.

Well Mr. Presumtious you are completely wrong. Most of the girls are lookers (I've seen the videos) with one of them a stone cold 10 out of 10. It's got more to do with the husband not being able to satisy the hot wife rather than the wife is a dog.

You can rest now Mr Building Man. All is well.

You need to get some professional help. And soon. Statements like 'sucking it up is edging me towards the darker thoughts about whether life is worth it or not' is depression. And depression at a dangerous state. You have openly admitted to have 'suffered from awful self esteem and depression for many years' so what's the situation with you and professional help?

In a nutshell, no. There are no consequences for contractors (which you essentially are) to pay back for non-completion of contract - unless of course they paid you in advance for the whole period (which is highly unlikely). In Thailand, the onus of compensation for non-completion of contract lies squarely with the employer who has to give you notice and pay (usually a month) if THEY cut the contract. NB - Just do the right thing. If you are having to leave your contract early then you should try and talk to the employer. Most companies are pretty good with this sort of thing and as long as they get notice, will accommodate. However, if you've heard stories of them not paying people and the likes, then it's a different story.

What terrible advice. There is a child involved in all this and you just tell him to jump ship. Do you not know of the huge affects on a child not having a father has (assuming the father isn't abusive etc)? It's significent with some of it outlined here https://www.allprodad.com/5-effects-of-absent-fathers-on-child-development/. So he can't have deep and meaningful chats - who cares! That's what your mates are for. As long as she is a loving mother and not causing grief (which is what I get from his post), just man-up, accept you have responsibilities and try to make the best of it. Leaving a child (especially one you love) should be when there are literally no other options available. I see plenty of options available to him from his post other than your selfish suggestions .

My mate is a manwhore in Bangkok. Does quite well out of it. Charges 5k a pop and it's mostly blokes paying him to give their missus one whilst they watch (although he's got a couple of 'businesswomen' on his rosta too). You should hear some of his stories. Will have you in creases for hours.

Yes, let's get back to identity politics and haranging anyone that doesn't agree with you. Humour is overated.

I would be more sympathetic if it was coming from someone other than that weasel. He backed Trump and his delusions for 4 years before jumping ship when it actually affected him and his own family.

7. Completely lose what little amount of humour you had in the first place. Check!

Oh for gods sake, your own linked article mentions 'The majority of the Capitol’s 658 single-pane windows were quietly upgraded during a 2017-19 renovation of the historic building. The original wooden frames and glass were covered with a second metal frame containing bomb-resistant glass'. As you and your link also states, they just happened to go through the two that for some unknown reason weren't. I'm pretty sure those two windows plus the $1.5 million worth of other damage done, have now been fixed.

Oh that's a good idea. Let's start a MAGA checklist. I'll go next:- 6. Mention at least twice in your thread that the MSM isn't to be trusted and only you know the real truth. - check!

First of all I'm pleased my comments meant you had to go look for facts. Facts are good. Facts are helpful. You should try it more often. Now we have established how they got in (and yes hang the 'someone' from the nearest tree if it really matters that much to you), can we now perhaps get back to the topic of the thread i.e. the cherry picking of Tucker Carlson in trying to defend a bunch of Trump loving, MAGA hat wearing, armed to the teeth 'patriots' who attemted a coup on the basis of what is now a well documented lie?

And it certainly sounds like the sensible thing to do when you consider Trump tweeted (because that's what Presidents do by all accounts):- "Will someone from [Jong Un's] depleted and food starved regime please inform him that I too have a Nuclear Button, but it is a much bigger & more powerful one than his, and my Button works!" in response to Kim Jong talked about a nuclear button being "always on my desk." Or to Iranian President Rouhani: NEVER, EVER THREATEN THE UNITED STATES AGAIN OR YOU WILL SUFFER CONSEQUENCES THE LIKES OF WHICH FEW THROUGHOUT HISTORY HAVE EVER SUFFERED BEFORE," https://www.businessinsider.com/trump-threatened-military-force-2018-12#2-in-another-tweet-trump-warned-president-putin-russia-and-iran-are-responsible-for-backing-animal-assad-big-price-to-pay-2 Thanks for posting the original article. For some reason I thought it was more complicated than that for any POTUS to launch the apocalypse but now I know.