As Thai people say, " Ai Kwai!!"
why on earth would they say that? in thai culture, as i and many others pointed out, no one needs to pay a dowry if a woman has had children from another man nor if she has been married before. thai culture is strange in many ways. for example, a girl in university, or primary school who has had a child is not supposed to continue going to that school.
this is a strange place i have exiled myself to