Yes
No. I think it should happen, but I don't think it needs to happen.
If the father instructs who? While the mother is obligated to follow that law, she is not compelled to follow the father's instructions. Do we agree on this?
If law requires the mother drag the child out to the car and deliver them to the husband against the child's will any time the husband instructs her to do so, then yes, that is not how I understand the law.
How would you block her access in the future, if your boys were fifteen, and kept going to visit her on the way to school?
So how is the issue solved without any cooperation from the mother?
I do not doubt if the law requires the boy be dragged from the mother's home and returned to the father, the police will drag the boy from the mother's home and return him to the father.
But how would that solve the issue?
So, the plan is that after the cooling off period, the boy comes back and that's the end of it.